you are old. . . . . . . .
By bellebads
@bellebads (740)
Philippines
July 8, 2009 8:56pm CST
what would be your reaction when your husband/wife told you that you're old were in fact he/she is older than you? would you take it negatively or just ignore that as if it was just a joke?
for me i will get hurt, because it seems that I'm no longer attractive to him because he can already see an old woman in me. i don't know if i can handle that. maybe i will just take it as a challenge and do something that would take that impression away from my husband's mind. But for sure it would be very painful if your husband told you that you're OLD.
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14 responses
@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
you're right all of us will get old whether we like it or not. thanks for sharing your views.
@sweetashoney (3597)
• United States
9 Jul 09
I think it would depend on how old you were at the time or if both of you were just joking around. Some people are just a lot more sensitive about their age then others. The way I always have looked at it is we're all going to be old one day if we live long enough. I would probably just say yep I sure am but I'll always be younger then you. Now if I was young and they told me I LOOKED old then that would be a different story
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
yes i agree to what you said, people have different ways of attacking things or how they react on certain things. thanks for sharing your views. happy mylotting.
@mrakobesie (1246)
• United States
9 Jul 09
I'd say something like "i know, but i still like young guys like you, i guess i'm a paedophile"
@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
this is funny. thanks for responding anyway. happy mylotting.
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
9 Jul 09
I do not think that I will take it well, I would need to see him calling me old and what were we talking about, his demeanor for me to see if he is joking or serious.
I believe in aging gracefully, if my husband wants a young woman all the time, good luck to him.
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
i like the words that you used " aging gracefully". a very positive attitude in dealing with life. i guess everybody should take things in a positve way. thanks for sharing your views about my discussion. happy mylotting.
@andy77e (5156)
• United States
9 Jul 09
Tell him that it hurts you when he says you are old. Ask him why he is hurting you like that? If he says he's just joking, ask him to not joke with you like that.
As for me, I'm not attractive now, and there's no indication I'll be attractive in the future, so I guess it wouldn't bother me.
That's no excuse for him to hurt you. Just tell him "I feel hurt when you say that. Please don't hurt me"
He should get the message.
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
thanks for sharing your views about my discussion. well it really depends on how you take that situation or how would the person deliver it. i think it always good to tell the person right away about what you feel. enjoy mylotting.
@Zhizho (1350)
• Indonesia
9 Jul 09
Hi bellebads.Honestly,it will be painful for me.I have heard someone told me that my unty look younger than me.Heheheh..I ashamed.But,I don't think about it in over mind.as you said that it is a challenge to take care my phisical and do many activity to show that I am active woman and not old women who only think about how to look young as many other woman.Fortunately,my husband don't care about that and always support me.
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@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
lucky you, that you have a very supportive husband. i wish you the best in your relationship. i think what really matters here is how your husband think of you and not with what other people say about you. thanks for sharing your story. happy mylotting.
@Poison_Girl (4150)
• United States
10 Jul 09
I think it would depend on how it was said and what tone was used. Depending on the tone and everything, I would probably take it as a joke. If he (or anyone) seemed serious about it, I might be a little hurt. I'm not sure, though. Of course, if it was someone who was older than me, I'd bite back. LOL
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@sophie_dfuss (2365)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
My bf told me lately that I am the oldest girl living in our ladies' dormitory. Suddenly, he realized that he can't say that I am old because we are at the same age so if he says something like that to me, its also he's saying it to himself in the same time. Most of the occupants of the dorm where I live are college students and he thought that I am the oldest girl though I am only 30 years old and there are other occupants whom are in 40s whom are spinsters.
@michaeldadona (5684)
• Malaysia
9 Jul 09
Not just third party said that I am old now, but the mirror which I have to face it everyday tells the true story of I am really old. Meaning that, nature already accepted me as a real person in category under human, as an oldie. In this true life fact, getting piece of mind I sincerely to myself "acceptance is the best healer".
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
9 Jul 09
Hi bellebads! I think I would take it as a joke. If I were him thoug I wouldn't give it unless I could take it because he would be getting it back! I would razz him good if he said that to me. There are a lot of things that can be joked about in return if you know what I mean
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@PSmith721 (286)
• United States
9 Jul 09
I guess it depends on how it was said. My husband is about 6 months older than I am so we kid each other all the time about our ages. Now that we are in our mid 50's, age just doesn't really bother either one of us any more. I think you should just ignore it unless it is something that is said in a mean nature. Then just plain out tell the person how you fell about it.
@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
10 Jul 09
yes you are right, it depends on how it was said. and how old really the person is. if the person is still young and someone said that he is old i think it's a bit hurting. thanks for sharing your views. happy mylotting.
@emmasmomma89 (266)
• United States
9 Jul 09
Haha. my husband jokes with me like that all the time. He likes to say hes old and hes gonna croak soon, and hes only 23 and im 20. I like to tell him im getting older than him cuz ive been making all the babies. And babies take their toll on your body. then he goes "yeah, youre right" haha. But hes always kidding. If youre husbands being serious, then i would put him in his place. but for the most part theyre normally kidding, and i would think of a smart comment back.
@bellebads (740)
• Philippines
15 Apr 13
yes, most specially if you are still young and then they call you old just because you look old.some people were a little insensitive about what others would feel. thanks for the comment.:)
