How would you feel if your friends did not show up for a gathering?

At first, I will feel bad but I will definitely accept their excuse/s. I know there are things that will unexpectedly comes up. I would understand because I at times failed to show up in a friends reunion because of emergencies with my family and it makes me feel happy that they understand my situations. So in return, I would also extend the same understand to people who failed to attend my party. Happy myloting.

Hi eileen! This also happened to me just recently, although there wasn't really that much preparations involved but I did organize the gathering. It was like a "post-birthday" celebration for my friend's baby daughter. I didn't get to show up on her actual birthday party coz it was my fiance's graduation day. So I just told my friend that I'm just gonna go to their house a couple of days later instead to bring the gift and have some mini party or something, and also to bond with my friends from my previous work whom I haven't seen for a very long time. Everything went smoothly the days before the said event. They all said they would come. Until... one friend just texted me the day before the party to postpone the gathering coz he has other appointments to go to. It really bummed me out. I mean, he already said before that he would come and he also sounded very sure about it. Worse, knowing that that one person wouldn't be able to come, all my other friends also canceled! It was really really frustrating knowing that I was very excited about it coz it was like our one in a million chance to get together again. Anyway, there was nothing I can do about it so I just let it go and still went to my friend's house as promised and our mini party was still pushed through. However, I couldn't escape the feeling that our friendship was not given importance by my other friend...

I know I would feel bad because it happened at my wedding. I invited like 150 people and alot of them from work and they said that they would show up but guess what I only had maybe 25 people show up I just felt real bad. I should have known better. It has been like that for me for all my life. It is realy hard for me to make freinds and when I do i just have too big of a heart and I get used alot. oh well. life goes on. Better days are coming or that is what they say.

Our group has six girls including me. Whenever there is a celebration we six get together and have fun. Our gatherings is always for six of us only but we don't get to do this quite often. Because of this whenever somebody fails to show up we feel very bad, nomatter who is hosting the program and nomatter what the reason is. We just don't feel complete with even one of them missing and the fun is somehow not that satisfying. I guess u know what i'm trying to say. We accept their excuses though and no hard feelings. Shouldn't have them in friendship. We try to understand and console be saying that things just don't always go as we plan. But the failures has to got through mock anger and then everything is the same as we laugh it out. Its so bad, now that school is over and we are going to enter different colleges. The schedule won't be same and it would be harder to have a gathering.

At first I would be pretty pissed, especially if they confirmed to me alredy that they were going to be at the gathering. I would ask them the next day what happend, and why they weren't able to do something as simple as send me a sms to tell me that at the end they can't make it.

well recently my school friends kept facebook-ing me saying we should meet up. so i finally planned a gathering. and only 3 people came. from 10 people that i called. pissed me off so bad. that i've decided to ignore them from now on. i guess they didn't really meant it when they kept saying 'we should meet up'. As for excuses. i'm a reasonable person. but 2 of my closest friends were seen together 2 days ago. so those two not showing up was intentional. broke my heart. and of course i'm not talking to them now.

Sometimes life just gets in the way of things. I've had situations where I said I would do something, and then for some reason I couldn't. I kind of know how you feel though. My family stands me up all of the time. Like one time they were coming to a play that I was working backstage for. I reserved tickets for them, and then they never showed up. They called me about a week later to let me know that they'd had to take my dad to the ER for back pain, and that's why they didn't show. I have no idea why they waited a week to call me. Another time I asked them to come to a play that I was actually in, and they said that they couldn't make it because they were going to Pennsylvania so that my stepsisters could see their grandma. Then they never went to Pennsylvania. They could have come to my show to support me, but I guess they just have better things to do. I'm sure your friends probably had reasons why they couldn't make it, though. Don't feel too bad over it.

im going to be little mad at them if they did not show up (of course if the say they are going there). but of course it depends on the reason why they did not show up. but you know at least they will tell you a day before so at least you will not expect them to be there in that day.

I would be very disappointed of course because most of all, they have already confirmed. If they did inform a few days before or at least a night before, it is acceptable. Even though how bad you really feel, just listen to their explanations. If you think their excuses didn't make any sense, then, the next time, you do know who to invite and who's not.

Maybe they have their own reasons. It really happens almost all the time. Most of them would say they forgot. You have to be understanding. Maybe they don't consider that gathering as very important. It's better to lose them on good times than to lose them in bad times. A friend in need is a friend indeed.

FOr me social gathering is a part of a life of each one of us especially friends ,,, gathering in many ways will make us feel more pleasant to every one but when our friends will not show on promised that we have gathering in that date so i feel so bad and if she has a valid reason why she/he cannot go it's a case to case basis..

Do not feel disappointed.Maybe they have something more important to you.I think you can tell your feelings to them.