I need some help in somthing weird happened with me from my EX-girlfriend.

Germany
July 9, 2009 10:40am CST
First i meet this girl in the mall she was with my friend and i found out that she is now in my school,we started to hangout together we were really colse friends we used to txt alot tlk to each other on msn alot,till one day she started hinting to me on msn that she loves me but she doesn't know if i feel the same so i couldn't say no and i though to give it a try we started dating for almost a month or more then during the first month i really started to like her and then she started treathing me really good for a week,eg:she keeps on asking me that she wants to meet me,she made me a surprise b-day party and invited my friends. Then one day i she sent me a txt saying that she just wants to be friends and the proplem is from her not me. So i just told her fine if that what she wants and no one ever knew the reason,THE PROPLEM IS SINCE THAT DAY SHE STARTED ACTING AS A B**CH WITH ME AND EVERYONE NOTICED THAT NOT JUST ME,eg:my friends forced me to go say bye to her as she was leaving the country for summer and all what i got is: YOU LEAVE. can someone tell me what to do while she is around or why she became such a b**ch?
3 responses
• India
17 Jul 09
Yes it sounds like she is having some personal problems, quite what I have no idea? But it is definitely wrong of her to just 'turn' on you like that, she could have at least explained a tiny bit, if not everything. If it's really causing an awkwardness between your group of friends, then I would perhaps ask some of them to intervene on your behalf.....and get them to talk to her and say "look we are all friends here, and it's not right if there is a rift in the group and odd vibes flowing between you and loshyali.....so put the past behind and make your peace with him and just act normal as if nothing happened.....because it's affecting all of us otherwise.....no one wants to have bad vibes flying around in our group....your reasons for behaving why you did, and how you did with Loshyali are yours and you don't need to disclose them to us, but for gods sake just be normal with the guy...because he's done nothing to hurt you....and no one wants this awkwardness around"The above is a pretty good option if you have some mature friends who can do and say this right....a few of them should sit her down and tell her this. The other thing is to confront her bold infront of everyone! Just tell her point blank how immature and inconsiderate she is....and that you don't like all these bad vibes.....that either she makes her peace with you...or your breaking away from the group......if she isn't forth coming at this point, then just break off from the group.....and your real friends will come with you anyway. I think sometimes people who don't like eachother do share the same friends.....but they make it clear that they do not want to hear her name, or wont to be in the same vicinity as her...this way you can continue having the same friends but a boundary is drawn.....this whole thing will also make your friends realize just how horrible it all feels to you.....and will be more likely to intervene and go and tell her a few words of truth....and point out to her that she needs to rectify a few things, and can't just carry on so whimsically, people have feelings and are not machines....the better she learns the better for her. Anyway, I hope this helps
• Germany
22 Jul 09
WOOW thanks for the effort :) i might consider doing that
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
9 Jul 09
Honestly this girl doesn't sound that she is worth your time. Don't even worry about it and just move on. You don't need a girl that is going to treat you badly at all. Remember there are plenty of fish in the see and girls come and go. Move on and be happy.
• Germany
9 Jul 09
I totally ignore her but the problem is my friends are her friends too
@ShibbyKid (279)
• United States
17 Jul 09
My best advise on this would be to try and talk to her about it. If she fights you on your questioning tell her you feel friendship isn't working out as good as you both hoped for. If you still care about her as a friend, tell her. Even tell her if you still love her even if it's just as a sister. Ask her if she's going through tough times she needs to talk out. Let her know you're there for her. I hope everything works out for you.