When did you say "I love you"?

The first time i said "I love you" was when my ex-girlfriend started hinting to me that she loved me. But i think you will know that you found the one b certain feelings like: 1. you can't wait for the next time that you are going to meet or talk to that person 2. Always thinking about that person 3. every time you see,meet,talk or even think about that person you just get a weird feeling that i can't explain.

My boyfriend and I were together about 2 months and we got into a fight and I said that he didn't care because he didn't love me yet......and his response was "well how do you know that I don't love you yet?", and he said it in such a sweet and quiet tone, it was the most romantic thing I have ever heard....and THAT was what really made me fall in love with him....and two weeks later we exchanged "I Love You's"

With my current bf, I think I said I love you to him after like two months of our relationship as its the time that I realized that he is the one for me and I truly love him for what he is. Our relationship is on-going for about a year now but my bf hasn't make decisions whether he wants to get serious and be on a long term relationship. I know that I really love him as I want to live and work in his country since we are in a long distance relationship but he blew off everything lately. Its a long complicated sad love story and I am hoping that he will be able to realize what he has done.

There are many ways to say i love you to your love one, but for me i always did it in singing

These 3 little words might be simple but they are BIG words to me! I do not simply say them at all times unless I really meant it and it is only once a blue moon that I will declare it. In fact, it has been a long while ever since I use those words.... I guess I have to use them more often now, huh? But I believe that make sure we mean what we say and not because it is a routinal kind of thing... my 2 cents of thought :)

i think certain people need more time to realize that they love someone than others...i can tell you that i don't know if i love my girlfriend even if we have a relashionship of 7 months now but she tells me that she loves me....time will tell...

I think the only relationship where I loved and was in love with my partner is the one that just broke up. I knew I felt an instant attraction to him the moment I saw him, although it took us over four years before our relationship was consummated. I wasn't sure how things were going in the beginning--I knew I was attracted to him but I didn't know his feelings so I just kept my mind open. I guess four or so months into it I began to care for him, and I began quizzing everyone I knew (including him) what was the difference between loving someone and being in love. I think it was about five and a half months before I was ready to admit it but because of my saying (and not understanding the full ramifications of) saying I Love You first, I decided that the next guy would have to say it first. I realized after more than five and a half years together that my partner was NEVER going to say it to me, and I began the difficult task of not loving him. He made the first move the weekend after Father's Day, told me to return the gift I had purchased him and then he hung up on me without further explanation. I was angry but now am resigned to realizing my gut instincts were right all along. He will only get to live half of a life where he is instead getting the opportunity to get into something new and exciting with me--the woman who loved him without reserve.

My husband and I were saying "I love you" about two weeks after we met, but I knew he was the one about 3 days after we met when we had our first kiss. It sounds silly and mushy (and it is!) but I was absolutely sure about it. I was casually dating at the time, and after our first kiss I called and canceled other dates that I had lined up with other guys.

First, congratulations on finding love. Love is beautiful... and it makes life brighter. Second, apologies in advance, if this turns into a dissertation-- when there are "stories to share," I tend to get wordy! I don't think love has a "schedule." I can only speak to my personal experience, though... but I think we can get ourselves into a heap of trouble by getting too deeply involved in "the THINK of it," as opposed to "the FEEL of it." A friend of mine-- just turned 60-- is a lifetime student of love, human connections and how we form relationships. He would no doubt say "It all depends on what's important to you!" When I was little/young (I'm 48 now) I had the inevitable discussions with family members and friends about love and marriage and so on. I guess we all do. Naturally, there were many "versions" served up, about what "in love" meant, and what a "good marriage" was. One older aunt said very little... no "formula," no "advice." She simply "when it's is TRULY Love, you will just know." Those words have stuck with, all my life. Relationships take a great many shapes, as do marriages. I believe (sadly) that TRUE Love marriages are incredibly rare. And I distinguish here, between a capitalized "Love" (the feeling) vs. "love" (a learned action and a choice). But getting back to "what's important to you." It's my belief-- from personal experience, and from observing life-- that 99% of GOOD marriages/relationships (let's forget the messed up, dysfunctional, doomed ones-- just look at the ones that last and work) are "functional" and largely revolve around "functional love." The couple "makes sense" and there's a large component of compromise and "learning to love" each other. And frankly? This is as it should be. Most people lack the patience and fortitude to spend their lives looking-- perhaps unsuccessfully-- for that ONE person who totally "rings their bell" (AND it's reciprocal) 24/7. I was married for 13 years, to someone I "learned to love." We were definitely "in like," and me also "made sense" from a practical perspective. I think we said "I love you" after about 3-4 months. I was in a long-term "marriage like" relationship, for about 10 years. Again, it was 3-4 months, actually... maybe a little longer. I remember I was the first one to say "it," and I CLEARLY remember her reponse being "No you don't. You just THINK you do." That should have been a warning, right there. Again, we were a "functional union" that made sense, but this particular situation had an "unbalanced" element... of one person (me) being more "invested" than the other. Non-reciprocity ultimately does NOT work (unless you have masochistic tendencies!)... the notion of "winning love" from an initially unwilling person (this is just MY opinion, mind you) is a Hollywood fairy tale that does NOT lead to "happily ever after." I've also been in several shorter (but over three months) relationships... and can recognize them as more being "in lust" or "in infatuation" than anything. I was 43, when I "got" what my aunt had said, about "just knowing." The woman I will live out my days with, and I,(independently) found each other's blogs within minutes of each other... and after reading for some hours, we (independently) wrote each other very SHORT emails to the effect of "I think I have been looking for you all my life, and I think I may be in Love with you" which essentially CROSSED each other in the same minute. My point here being that 5 years and change later, there has never been "a question" about whether we were/are "in Love." No "schedule." That we were "in Love" and would tell each other immediately was more or less "a given, on contact." People look at us and go "Awww... how sweet! New Love-- newlyweds!" But no... actually, very very OLD Love. And yet? "On paper," we probably make less "functional sense" than BOTH our previous long term relationships. But my point wasn't to tell "an amazing story," but to suggest that love doesn't have a schedule. And that it all depends on what's important to you. I'm not much for "giving advice" (although I do so, for part of my living), but something struck me, on reading your discussion. You say you've pegged this man as "the one," yet you feel this hesitation. Why? Take a moment to ask yourself if your hesitation has ANYthing to do with HIM... or whether it's because you're "projecting" your PAST relationships onto him? It's easy to do-- we ALL do it, to some degree or other. But think about this: Your "history" begins at the moment you connect... anything that happened (or failed to happen) in your past is NOT "about him." We ALL have various kinds of "baggage" we carry around... this is simply a FACT. I have it, you have it, he has it. What we sometimes have to do... when we feel conflicted... is take a step backwards and ask ourselves "OK, is this ME responding, in this moment? Or am I reacting to an old memory?" When it's "right," honesty always works. When it's right, you CAN feel safe to say "Honey, I've been wanting to tell you how much I Love you, but I've been scared to, because last time I told someone that, it ended badly." If that thought scares you... then there may be some more soul-searching to do... on yourself, AND on the relationship. Good luck to you!

I knew that I love my husband the moment I saw him. I dont know why but I just do. But I wasnt sure if he felt the same way about me that time so I didnt say I love him. He was the first one to say I love you.... when I was sure enough of his feelings towards me then I became comfortable saying I love him back. We may not say I love you all the time but I know actions speak louder than words. We are now married for almost 5 years and we occassionally say I love you to each other but not really everyday.

I dont think I have ever truly been inlove with someone. Infact, just a few days ago the person that I thought I had feelings for told me that they loved me and it tore me apart. I never thought that hearing the words "I love you" would make me feel so horrible, but it did and it made me realize that that was not the person I could spend the rest of my life with. I still care about that person deeply but not as my significant other, and I did not want our relationship to be awkward and I did not want to hurt them but I needed to tell them the truth so I did. I want to be able to genuinely tell someone that I love them, but that person just has not come along yet and it does take quiet a while to realize that you actually love them. You need to know the person almost inside out before you can truly feel that in your heart, because the people who I have had feelings for turned out to be very different from what I thought they were! You have to feel that you want to be with them for the rest of your life and you would give anything just to see a smile on their face, when they say I love you, it should tickle you inside and make you want to say I love you back to them without even thinking about it. When that feeling comes to you, that is when you tell them that you love them. If you dont feel it, dont lead them on..get out of it so you save both him and yourself from major heart break! Good luck ;)

Started talking to my now husband in December of 2006, we actually met online but we only lived a block from one another. I refused to meet him at first because I met him online and didn't trust anything to do with it. We talked on the phone and online until March of 2007 and I finally gave in and had him come to my job at the time just incase I didn't like him or he was a creep I could call security on him. I saw him and it was hard to catch my breath. It is funny because I was never the type to get close to anyone and I didn't believe in telling someone I loved them until I really felt it and made it past the learning about them stage and still I wouldn't say it first. We dated for a couple of months and then he got to close and I got scared... We spoke a little for a couple of months and one night I just missed him and called him. We set up a time to get together and hung out. I didn't want him to leave... This was in August the same year. By the end of August I bought him a ring.. Never been the girly girl... We were on the phone and he was saying that he didn't really ever want to get married and it broke my heart. I felt myself crumble because I knew I wanted this man in my life forever and I didn't know what do say to him to let him know I wanted to be married at some point. He came to my house later and we had a small fight about something that was stupid and I went for a walk and he came out to me and we still were arguing a little and I told him that he was an idiot and that I loved him and tossed the ring on the ground in front of him. I said it first, I asked him to marry me in an odd way. He couldn't speak he just kept staring at the ring on the ground. I told him that if he wanted to get married he should pick up the ring and if not leave it for someone else. I got up to leave and he said yes. He actually had that teary look... I will never forget that moment. I wouldn't trade it for him asking me to marry him for anything. We were married on October 29, 2007. I have never been happier... Good luck to you.... The only advice I have is if you can't imagine your life without him and the thought of him walking out of your life and not turning back makes you sick to your stomach then maybe you do love him. To me it is not about when to tell someone you love them I don't really think it has to do with timing. I don't put a lot of faith I guess in words, I believe that I love you has gotten to where people use it in different ways that don't always mean the forever love. I had a guy say that he loved me and if I did too then I would sleep with him... Look at him, really look at him and think of all of the things that you can't live with out and all of the things that you can and honestly think to yourself and ask "can I live with this forever?" because that is what love is. If it is true love you don't think about getting out or if there is someone better. Sorry I am really tired and I don't really make a lot of sense when I am like this.

I believe in love at first sight because my husband and I have been through it. Our beginning stages were rushed because our hearts made the decision for us as soon as we met. We didn't even know each other yet, but there was no denying we had to get to know one another. Within the first week I told him through a note, because I knew I had been in love as soon as I saw him, but I didn't know if he felt the same way and I was a little shy to open up about it because it was SO soon! He admitted as soon as he got my note that he'd been in love with me since the first sight as well...we sat and talked about how weird and rare it was to happen so quick. I had an ex-boyfriend who told me he loved me, but I never told him back...because I never felt it. My husband and I were talking marriage within a week, planning the wedding within a month. I was young at the time, though, so we didn't get married until our four year anniversary when I was 20 and he was 25. I still feel the same way about my husband as I felt when I realized I was in love. I truly love him as a person, I love everything he stands for, everything he's willing to change for us. We filled voids with each other--I needed someone to respect, admire, and listen to me--he needed the security of a lasting relationship with someone who was as dedicated to him as he is to them. Our beliefs have always been very similar but we have enough differences to make it interesting. We have missed two days of seeing each other in over four years because we still can't get enough of being around one another. I cannot imagine growing old without him, and I couldn't when I met him. It was instant to the point where we had a relationship without ever laying out the terms. We just knew. :)

according to my life ,i like to say a person"i love u" when he does some bad things to me ,because if i show my angry, he will do it once again therefore i used to say that time

I think it was around the 3 month mark. Though it's been over 17 years now, so heck if I can remember! LOL

My husband said "I love you and I want to marry you!" first which made me thinking what to do. He said he can't live without me and this word filled my eyes with tears. He was in love with me deeply and that made me decide and realize that he is one who loves me so much and he is one, the man, of my life. And then I accepted his proposal and we got married. After marriage I said 'I love you, too!'. My life is full of love and happiness now. As we all know where there is happiness there is little sorrow too and we accept everything happily. We are the best couple as I heard by many of my neighbors.

you will know when it is true love...you will just know...thats about it.

Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years now and we started saying i love u after about 2 months of actuall dating but i actually new him since we were in 7th grade and we started hanging out and talking right after we graduated in 2006 so we took our time but thats only because we both had really serious relationships before and they both ended badly so we wanted to take our time. with my boyfriend before that i said i love you after only a couple weeks.

Well love can happen over night. But arewe talking about the love that someone who wants you to be with them forever or the type of love to get in your pants. Love is and adjective that most use to get what they want.

I've been with my girlfriend for about a year and a half and we just got engaged. I knew I loved her within a week or two of meeting her, but things were complicated (I was with someone else when I met her). I think we ended up saying it to each other within 2 months. I think the right time to say something like that is when you feel it. Even if you're not sure that you'll be with them for the rest of your life, even if you're not sure he'll say it back, if you truly love someone, they should know. It can only make them feel better.