What makes a good parent?
By cristalkate
@cristalkate (536)
Portugal
July 10, 2009 12:46pm CST
Hi there mylotters!^^
I'm a single mom of 8 and 7 year old kids. Since my ex left us, I do my best to give extra time to my kids and be a good parent. Wheewww, really not that easy tasks however I enjoyed being a mom and a friend to them. We had lots of bondings during weekends and some holidays. We have so much fun together. I really love to see them happy all the time. Yet, of course disciplining them is my expertise. But still I'm anxious about what more I can do to be a good parent.
What do you think is the most important thing to remember about parenting?
I would appreciate your thoughts about this matter.^_^
4 responses
@cvrajan (354)
• India
11 Jul 09
Give love, but do not demand love in return. Let love blossom on its own. But as a parent you can demand discipline. How far you can succeed in it with lovable children is a different matter!
Give them gifts. But never make them think that gifts will be available just for the asking. I believe children should be prepared to sacrifice something to receive the gifts (it may include some amount of discipline that you can't get otherwise, developing some good habits (like brushing the teeth before going to bed) etc. Some sort of bargaining!
Never allow your love to over power you in providing them gifts that cost beyond your normal means. Children should know something about what a parent can comfortably afford.
Do not use your children as your emotional outlets. Never download your office tensions, premenstrual tension etc on your hapless children!
@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
11 Jul 09
Ohhh.. I really do like giving them gifts. From now on I will do that advice rajan. ^^ Thank you so much. I think this is the thing that I haven't given any attention yet.
Happy mylotting! ^_^
@wrangel15 (1443)
• Philippines
11 Jul 09
You are already doing one of the best advice you are asking about: spending time with them. :)
Apart from that, a good parent shares all the good things and advices she can give to her children. Speaking to one's children is not an easy task but it is a good way of communicating the things you appreciate from them and the things you want them to be. These are some things nobody else are better to give it. These things can build their values and character as well in the future.
There will come a time when they already have their own mind and will not listen to you anymore. You'll be more happy if you have imparted all the things you can to them by the time they already have their own children.
@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
11 Jul 09
Thank you wrangel15 ^_^
I really appreciate your advice too. Yes, I will do it! ^^ I feel better and relax now. I can see what is lacking and needs to do yet. Ohhhhh... I'm so happy! yeeeeeeyy... hehehaha.
Happy mylotting buddy.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
11 Jul 09
It think it it very important for us to let them know how much we do love them. We also need to explain why they are being puinished and why they are not allowed to do this or that. We need to let them know they can come to us about anything also.
@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
11 Jul 09
I got it stephcjh! ^_^ I will always remember your advice too. :)
Now, I am listing the things that I need to do. I wanna practice them and see the difference.
I'm so lucky to have you guys! Thank you so much. ^^
@Bloggership (1104)
• Indonesia
10 Jul 09
It almost nothing better than being a good parents... It is not an easy task to do when you were being a single parents i think. Because you have too carry on the shoulders just by yourself the duty of two responsible person should be. For you i think, just keep raise your kids with good things inside their mind and soul. Don't forget to pray to your GOD, so you will be keep strong and always be a good mom...
@cristalkate (536)
• Portugal
11 Jul 09
Thanks blogger for that great advice. ^^
I'm just a lil bit worried coz life has lots of ups and downs...I hope that they will be strong as I do to face them. :( (sigh)....
