Bad Girls Make My Boyfriend Love Me More
By mrakobesie
@mrakobesie (1246)
United States
July 10, 2009 4:57pm CST
My boyfriend came home from work today and as soon as he walked in he said that he loves me and is glad that I'm the one he is dating. I asked him what happened? he says he loves me all the time, but sometimes depending on how he says it I can tell that he had a bad day, this was one of those kinds of "I love you". He said that his co-worker's girlfriend came over to pick her boyfriend up from work, my boyfriend knows her, and she doesn't like him much. She is going to pharmaceutical school, so I'd assume she knew something about health. Anyway, my boyfriend's friend called my boyfriend over and told his gf that my bf is a beast, he is very strong even though he is vegan. So this girl asks my bf what he usually eats and he said that it's fruits, veggies, grains and beans for the most part. She goes ahead and says that my bf is not getting enough carbs. CARBS!!! My bf was shocked, he heard it all about vegans not getting enough proteins, minerals and vitamins, but carbs? basically everything vegans eat has carbs. He was so shocked at how unbright she was and it reminded him once more how lucky he is that he is dating me.
My bf heard a lot about this girl from his co-worker and she is a real psycho. Her bf used to treat her really well, but she always pushed his batons. So he stoped treating her well, and she seems to like it. She basically pisses him off on purpose. He tried breaking up with her, but she is very manipulative, and basically she ends up in his bed once again and the nightmare continues. It's a shame really, because I've met this guy and he is a really good person, but because of this girl he started smoking pot, just so he wouldn't care about things she says.
Anyway, when my bf told me about this girl, we started thinking about all the things that this guy should do to his gf. I think in this case, he should cheat on her left and right and maybe infect her with something lol. Any one thinks this guy should torture his gf?
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4 responses
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
10 Jul 09
Well it is hard to judge a relationship, there is something that your mutual friend still finds attractive in his girlfriend or he would have broken up with her a long time ago, trying to break up with a person just to end up with a person in bed, sounds more like an excuse than a reason, using pot because he wants to ignore what she says sounds also more like an excuse than a reason, and who suffers the most, him and how he treats his body.
My idea to you is to leave them alone and let them destroy their relationship or work in having a better one by themselves, it is something that you want for your relationship with your boyfriend, right? for people to stay out of it and to respect and well mind their own business.
@mrakobesie (1246)
• United States
11 Jul 09
they broke up for a month once, but she basically jumped under his car to get him back, i just hate seeing his so miserable, i think he deserves much more.
@ShellyB (5241)
• United States
11 Jul 09
Well the thing is that he took her back, so he must not be that miserable or he would have driven faster huh?
This is a problem your friend has to fix himself, it is his life and if he is not man enough to break up with a girl himself, what can you do?
@mrakobesie (1246)
• United States
11 Jul 09
well... i had a similar problem once, every time i'd try to break up with this guy he'd try to kill himself, one day he ended up in a psychiatric institution and they fixed him. but they only force someone to stay in a psychiatric institution through the court and only if they can prove that person is a danger to himself or others. when someone jumps in front of a car, it could be just an accident. he doesn't want to kill her, so he thinks taking another chance like that is too risky.
@LovingLife139 (1504)
• United States
11 Jul 09
Before I respond to your post--it caught me off guard with it's striking similarities to my husband. Both my husband and I are vegans, and he works at a pharmacy. That was just crazy to read. :)
I don't think anyone deserves to be tortured or cheated on. I think this girl's boyfriend needs to leave her for good and perhaps even get a restraining order on her if she doesn't leave him alone. Maybe she can go off and find someone else to be ignorant to.
And vegans don't eat enough carbs? Carbs are vital to a person's health...of course we eat them! He could have tricked her and said, "I don't get enough cholesterol." Maybe it would have stumped her. ;)
@mrakobesie (1246)
• United States
11 Jul 09
haha... it would've been a great response... he said instead that he gained 20lb of muscle weight since he became vegan and feels perfectly healthy, said he must be doing something right.
I think this girl need a psychiatric care, it seems like she enjoys being mistreated and does everything to make people mistreat her. her bf thinks he is a terrible person because he doesn't treat her well, my bf had a conversation with this girl on the phone, they were talking about non traditional remedies for an hour, so after that conversation my bf told him that if she acts like that every time, he is surprised he guy doesn't beat her every day. she seems to be very good at finding every weakness and uses it to torture people who would otherwise been great to her. my guess is something that happened to her in her childhood makes her want to be mistreated, i ran into people lie that during my psychiatric rotation in college. so a good professional in that area might help, the problem is to convince her to get that help...
@LovingLife139 (1504)
• United States
11 Jul 09
She almost sounds like a sociopath. I think she just might need help if it really is a problem and she's not just being selfish.
@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
11 Jul 09
Cheating on his girl friend, especially with the idea of infecting her with something, would prove that he is not any brighter than she is. Of course he would be infected also so who is the bigger fool.
We are all masters of our own destiny. If she is bad for him then all he has to do is leave her. She can only manipulate him as much as he lets her so if he is truly fed up with how she treats him then he should just walk away. I suspect his feelings for her get in his way and he is willing to take it rather than loose her.
The way you describe what she is doing sounds like she loves to play games with him. She may not care for him at all but loves to control.
The true solution for him is to begin to understand what is really going on here and he will see he is being had. Smoking pot so he will not care how she treats him reflects a very serious problem with him. That is much like saying pinch me so that pain will override the pain of you kicking me.
A very good friend would try there best to show him what is really going on. I hope for his sake that he has that really good friend.
@mrakobesie (1246)
• United States
11 Jul 09
there are stds that only effect women, men are only carriers... though i don't think he would ever do that... he tried breaking up with her, he even got a new girlfriend, but then she jumped in front of his car and now he's afraid she will do it again...i'm trying to convince him to take valerian root extract because it might help him not care and isn't harmful. i hope he'll get some... i think the only way their situation will get resolved is if she gets psychiatric help. she basically thinks that she is worthless and should be treated very badly, so she does everything to make him treat her badly...
@kirstinmomof2 (63)
• United States
11 Jul 09
He's dumb enough to keep going back 2 her. If he likes it and she likes it I guess there isn't much to do about it. That's great tho that your bf realizes he loves you and is lucky to have you. Congrats on that!
@mrakobesie (1246)
• United States
11 Jul 09
thanks :) I hope he will never forget how lucky he is to have me :)
