Is having an extra marital affair illegal? what do you think??
By gamesurfer
@gamesurfer (629)
India
July 10, 2009 11:13pm CST
Hello My fellow My lotters,
Here is one of the most interesting, intriguing and most controversial discussion of all times. What do you think about having an extra marital affair???
DO you think that its ok to have an affair even after you are married??? or do you think that It is a crime to be involved in such a relationship after marriage??
Is it illegal ?
Do share your views with us all on this controversial topic.
Cheers and happy my lotting
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20 responses
@koalapenguin (2707)
• Philippines
11 Jul 09
it is indeed illegal because it happened outside the marriage. When you get married, you vow to each other that you'll love each other for better or for worse and that you won't leave your pair. It also broke 2 of the ten commandments. Thou shall not covet thy neighbors wife, male/female slave, or anything that belongs to your neighbor and thou shall not commit adultery. Is that enough proof that it is illegal?Ü
@gamesurfer (629)
• India
11 Jul 09
Totally in agreement with you. But in this ultramodern and filthy rich society, people act like this is a way of life and like there is nothing with that sort of a thing!
Maybe there should be a law against extra marital affairs!
Cheers and happy my lotting!
@koalapenguin (2707)
• Philippines
11 Jul 09
I hope they could resolve it. If someone's having trouble with extra marital affairs. Ü
@dpk262006 (58676)
• Delhi, India
11 Jul 09
Hi gamesurfer!
I think you know the answer of the question, before seeking other's opinion
. As the words suggest 'extra marital', anything which is beyond law and is not accepted by the Society is illegal. One gets married to stay with a partner, however, if s/he gets distracted and indulge in a relationship outside his/her marriage, it is not a healthy state of affairs, as s/he disturbs his/her family atmosphere. Ruining one's family life for the sake of someone, with whom you are not legally wedded will be called an illegal practice. All said and done, knowing fully well it is illegal, people indulge in such practices, keeping aside ethics and society norms.
. As the words suggest 'extra marital', anything which is beyond law and is not accepted by the Society is illegal. One gets married to stay with a partner, however, if s/he gets distracted and indulge in a relationship outside his/her marriage, it is not a healthy state of affairs, as s/he disturbs his/her family atmosphere. Ruining one's family life for the sake of someone, with whom you are not legally wedded will be called an illegal practice. All said and done, knowing fully well it is illegal, people indulge in such practices, keeping aside ethics and society norms. @gamesurfer (629)
• India
11 Jul 09
Yeah You are right about this affair!!!
Sad to know that people indulge in this stuff fully aware of what they are doing!
@positiveminded1977 (7072)
• India
11 Jul 09
I don't think it is against the law, except maybe in some stern Muslim countries? There is nothing criminal against it; but it can be used against you by your spouse while suing for divorce. You can have as many extra marital partners as you like; you won't go to jail for it.
Whether it is morally right or wrong depends on the person talking or thinking about it.
Cheers and happy Mylotting
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
12 Jul 09
So mr. gamesurfer anybody goes against your 'knowledge' is your enemy! huh. Here positive minded said the right thing as this is not against the law of the nature, could be against closed minded people like you. Even Deepak said that you know on this subject before you put it as a discussion. You should sit under a tree and start preaching dear surfer.
I hail your view positive minded.
@gamesurfer (629)
• India
12 Jul 09
Krajibg,
There you start it all over again.
I am really sorry to let you know that, Honestly, I am not bothered about your thoughts on my knowledge or what you think about the kind of person I am and whether you think I am a "closed minded person" or the opposite! I mean , It's not like I'm gonna marry you right?? So Lets Just keep it to the Original Topic than myself!
If you are so very interested in discussing about me rather than the basic topic you can start your own discussion about what you think about me and your thoughts on my personality! You are totally welcome to do that and i have absolutely no issues with that! But right now Lets just refrain from all the unwanted Personal retorts and keep the comments to the discussion at hand!These are totally irrelevant to the original topic and leading nowhere but just a waste of everybody's time! Lets Just enjoy our life and presence in my lot pal!
And Finally which "Deepak" told me to know the subject before putting up a discussion? It's been you and only you who has been directing personal comments in this entire Disscussion rather than Commenting on the Topic at hand!
@gamesurfer (629)
• India
11 Jul 09
Hello positiveminded,
You are really trying very hard to live up to your name!!
@Asian001 (24)
• Brunei Darussalam
12 Jul 09
I missed the old time where ppl can get more than 1 wife. If 1st wife is not as good as she was, get a 2nd wife and ask the 1st wife to do the work which the maid should do it. If 2nd wife not good, get a 3rd wife. As long as you have enough money to feed them. Nothing can be judge good or bad in this world.
@gamesurfer (629)
• India
12 Jul 09
I guess the old times when, if you just do not like your 1st wife , you marry another one and make the 1st wife work as a maid is horrible!!!!
It is the most degradable way of life and the husband i should say is some kind of a physco!! He has absolutely no right to treat anyone like that!
I am amazed that times of that sort even existed!!!
I should say the modern times are far better of, like when you are not getting on well, you juz get separated by a divorce, rather than the horrible slave stuff!!
Anyways cheers and happy My lotting.
@desteny114 (886)
• United States
11 Jul 09
I think that it is wrong no I know that is is worng to have more than one partner especialy y you are married. I would never be able to be with more than one person I have never done it. It has happend to me in my previous relationship and I hated it and that is the main reason it never worked.
@gamesurfer (629)
• India
11 Jul 09
Words of very high Wisdom are the words of experience.
Definitely Appreciate your response and i am left with no other choice than to agree with you as you have already gone through this nightmare of handling multiple partners!
Cheers and happy My lotting.
@SViswan (12051)
• India
11 Jul 09
Well, I don't think an extra marital affair is right...but I don't think it's illegal either. I mean....you aren't arrested or anything for it. But my principles and values say it is wrong...but I also know of situations where there are justifications for it.....but I still feel that a person needs to get out of a marriage in order to pursue another relationship with another person.
Just my view.
@silverglint (2000)
• Philippines
11 Jul 09
Yes, it is illegal because you get married under the law and extra-marital affairs is breaking that law. It is not a crime though, more of a civil offense. I believe that adultery is a ground for divorce. I do not think it is ok to have an affair after you are married, you have made a vow before the altar to remain faithful to your spouse and having an affair is not being faithful
@gamesurfer (629)
• India
11 Jul 09
Absolutely right,
I am in total agreement with you pal!
Cheers and happy My lotting!
@sonusd (1547)
• India
11 Jul 09
In my personal opinion whether it is illegal or not I do not know but this is definitely cheating to your spouse.because as we are tied up with some one we should not stick or like to another if any problem is going on then they should separate after that they should go for another partner.
@gamesurfer (629)
• India
11 Jul 09
Exactly ,
I guess if anyone has some kind of a problem with their relationship they should split and only then start seeing another person rather than having or indulging in an extra marital affair!
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
11 Jul 09
Illegal and immoral.Why indulge onself in an extra marital affair?Some people had their reason for doing so,but,it's a matter of respect to your wife/husband,respect to the your marriage vows,to your children,yourself,and fear to God.
@gamesurfer (629)
• India
11 Jul 09
Short and the most effective and well put answer!!!
Cheers and Happy My lotting!
@cmnavarro (251)
• Philippines
11 Jul 09
i think, it is a crime. in the first place why marry someone you don't really love? when you're really not contented with them? knowing that you're husband/wife is having an affair with someone else within your marriage is really painful... i suggest that before committing with someone, think twice to prevent such problems... because we might end up hurting them and ourselves as well =)
@gamesurfer (629)
• India
11 Jul 09
Hey pal and also please do not post the same opinion or comment more than once, around here in my lot it is considered spamming and you may be banned and your account deleted for doing such an act.
@cmnavarro (251)
• Philippines
11 Jul 09
i think, it is a crime. in the first place why marry someone you don't really love? when you're really not contented with them? knowing that you're husband/wife is having an affair with someone else within your marriage is really painful... i suggest that before committing with someone, think twice to prevent such problems... because we might end up hurting them and ourselves as well =)
@gamesurfer (629)
• India
11 Jul 09
Well i should say the answer to why people marry someone they don't really love is for their money probably sometimes!!
Thats the reason why these kinds of practices are more prevalent in the filthy rich society!
@Ivette1665 (1)
• United States
12 Jul 09
i wouldnt call it illegal ... but it is morally wrong... why get married if your going to have affairs ... just save everyone the pain and just dont get married.... a person that has an affair isnt ready for marriage
@ronacruz2007 (650)
• Philippines
11 Jul 09
nope, ofcourse noones like to have an affair or to be in it.
@sweetashoney (3597)
• United States
11 Jul 09
I think if a person is having a affair something is wrong with their marriage. As far as it being illegal, there are now cases that women have sued the other person for braking up their marriage.
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
11 Jul 09
of course an extramarital affair is illegal that once proven in court it is a ground for a divorce and maybe an annulment. the willing party can also be subjected to court proceedings which means a criminal record and an ensuing humiliating investigation. there is a contract signed in a marriage. although am only speaking for some cultures...
@cmnavarro (251)
• Philippines
11 Jul 09
i think, it is a crime. in the first place why marry someone you don't really love? when you're really not contented with them? knowing that you're husband/wife is having an affair with someone else within your marriage is really painful... i suggest that before committing with someone, think twice to prevent such problems... because we might end up hurting them and ourselves as well =)
@pyre82 (103)
• Philippines
11 Jul 09
it is definitely illegal for it against the law of God and of man. DISRESPECTFUL,UNJUST for the wife or husband.
Pray & ask for the right person that you will marry so that in the end you will not go some extras.
BE CONTENTED for what you have.
