Do you think that fathers can be very good mothers too?
By icesmile
@icesmile (7160)
Romania
July 11, 2009 9:11am CST
Mother in a family have shes duty, is only one, she care of babies,cook, clean, wash help kids to home work, have shes own job, make shopping(my God, now i know how many things do a woman in a house)..so, woman have shes duty.
Father, is one who help of course(if he want) in all this, and of course he go out with buddies to a beer after work, or go to a football game, or care a lot about family car.
I am right or not?
My question is if a father can be a good mother too, i mean if he can do all what a mother do in a family, yo cook, clean, wash, babies...
Do you are one of this fathers who can mannage with all this duties, or you are one who go after work with buddies to a beer?
What kind of man do you have near to you ladies? husband or boyfriend, or why not maybe your father?
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12 responses
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
13 Jul 09
Hi Dear!
Theortically speaking a father can bring up the children like mothers. In some cases, mothers die due to accidents/illness etc., in those cases it is the father, who brings up his children. No doubt, a woman has certain inherent qualities, which a man cannot have. Mothers are more soft, caring and concerned about children in comparison to fathers. However, if the need arises a mother could play the role of a father, as well and vice versa.
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@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
12 Jul 09
Yes they can depending on their willingness
to help and do the work of the mother.
My husband is like mother he can do everything
in the family. He is best for me ever in the
family. He took care of the baby when they was
young and help washes clothes even if he has
work to do in office. He is awesome for me.
Thankful to God that He gave a man like him.
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
14 Aug 09
I don't believe in giving parents dutites. I believe that two people as parents should share all responsibilities. If the mother has an outside job too, then both should share in the housework. I don't think there is such thing as womens work and mens work. I think that people can be good at all things, if they just try it.
@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
11 Jul 09
Hi, Ice!
Your homeland's values are showing, I think. The only difference between men and women has to do with our bodies' plumbing. Men and women can be equally excellent parents. I can't think of a single family among the ones I know that doesn't share all the chores and responsibilities. Those few who would choose golf over a day with the family are becoming increasingly rare, or they take the family along to do whatever they can on the course. If you look inside a bar, there are probably a lot of couples, since people do things together whenever they can get away from the demands of their work...
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
12 Jul 09
In my opinion Father can also do the responsibilities of the Mother at home. It depends on a Man if he is willing to take charge to do the household chores and taking care his children. My Father is not like that he is very lazy to do some simple household chores which makes me angry and my Mother. He is a burden to us because he don't help us because he often told us that it is the work of the women not for the man.
@cobrateacher (8432)
• United States
12 Jul 09
Fortunately, those outdated attitudes are diminishing. It was never part of my experience, thankfully. My parents shared all tasks, and my husband likes the idea of doing everything for me, which I don't think I could ever really allow, but sharing chores and every kind of task is the only way that makes sense.
@chrismei (22)
• Indonesia
12 Jul 09
I have a really good father, when I was a child, he always took care for us (his children) when my mother was sick, he cooked for us, helped to make homework, cleaned the house,..etc :)
And He is a really good chef with good foods, so we felt like eat in Restaurant everyday...:D
@mohdehtesham (140)
• India
12 Jul 09
i think father can also play role like mother. They both plays major role in our life.My biggest infuence is my father. he alwasy taught me to be honest. He is the man of principles.He whole heartdly devoted his life.whatver iam because of him.It is very difficult to be parent.
@erricaalisa (489)
• United States
12 Jul 09
my fiance stays at home with my son because he got laid off so i work. even though i wish i can sit @ home all days like he does and watch out son its a really big help because we don't have to wrry about paying for the daycare. so he is mama and daddy till i get home from work.
@bird123 (10643)
• United States
11 Jul 09
Anyone can do the physical duties of men or women. Children do need both female and male influences while growing up. If your kids do not have this, borrow a good friend to help fill in the empty places. Sometimes it doesn't take much time or effort to fix things.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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11 Jul 09
I think a woman has a lot more patience than a man and can be more understanding when it comes to problems with their friends cuts and many other things where as a man is a lot more uncaring.Yes a man can play football probably better and pays more interest in it than a woman would,but lets face it not every man play with their children as they say they are always too tired.
@smartone2009 (220)
• United States
12 Jul 09
I think it should be both. All children need both role models Mother & Father. But on the other hand i think if it came to it. Fathers can do just as good as Mothers can. I know some Fathers who have custody of there kids and do a great job as playing both in there lifes. My opinion it depends who it is honestly. Cause if you want to play both and treat the kid as both then you can. But there are also Fathers out there who don't want nothing to do with there kids. Same as Mothers, But them are the type of parents who should give there kids. To a good supporting home. Where they will be taken care of. Given a roof above them, And food in there stomache. Clothes on they're backs and shoes on there feets. It just all depends who it is and if you want to play that part of both parents.
@surveygeeek (189)
• United States
11 Jul 09
My parents divorced when I was very young, and had split custody the whole time I was growing up. When I was at my father's house, he did everything that mothers normally do. He didn't have a choice, because he was the only parent in that household, and we spent half the week there. He was just as good at it as my mother. Honestly, sometimes he was better. He did all the grocery shopping and cooking, and he was always there to help us with our homework or if we needed advice or a shoulder to cry on, and he came to more school things than my mother ever did, like when I had band recitals or school plays or things.
