Sorry but I'm just not that into you.

Ive never said those exact words, but a few years ago i was best friends with this guy that worked next door to me. hes was really nice, and we hung out like everyday. but i never thought of him as more than a friend. he was like a big teddy bear, and i thought of him as a big brother, since id never had one. one night he called me and was like "ive been thinking about you a lot" and i was like "well yeah duh im a cool person" trying to play it off. but he continued "no, i mean ive really been thinking about you, i like you a lot" and i was like "oh. im sorry honey! i just dont really think of you in that way! im sorry!" and he was so upset. he doesnt really talk to me anymore since then, because things got really awkward. its hard to lose a best friend that way.

I haven't said it in those kind of words, but to not hurt anyone any more than what was already happening it was better to say the truth then live a lie. I was there for another purpose not to be with this person well I had to let this person know the reality of how I felt. My heart was already full of deep hurt that I don't know if I could ever be with another person again. Not going into details, it is what it is, life keeps us going regardless

Wow. I don't think I've said those exact words before. I probably said something along the lines of "it's just not working out." I don't really think that the person took it too well. He tried to play it off and act like it was no big deal but he is still trying to talk to me to this day. Some people don't realize what they had until its gone and it is just too late and I don't care anymore lol. Some guys like to be the one to break up with females and they like to be in control of the situation. Some jerks feel like it is up to them to play games with you, and I just don't have time for that. I need a partner that has the determination to make something of himself and not only think about messing around with girls. I have had my heart broken before, it isn't nice. I wouldn't wish it on anyone. But if I definitely had to choose, I would choose them. =/

Yes I have had someone tell me just that.. I was rather upset at the moment.. But now I could care less... As for the second part of your question; in a relationship; both hearts are hurt to some degree... Yes it may make on person feel better because the other is really hurt.. that just strokes a person's ego.. Revenge is not sweet...I believe that how you treat others is the way others will treat you... The initial hurt; I would be extremely pleased.. but once I got over myself, we all have those moments... I would not be boasting about someone else's hurt that's is just not right or fair to the other person regardless of the situation..

Hey CityChic, I also have problems with this one too, it's so awkward to refuse someone when you don't have the same feelings for him in return. I hate it when I have to do this, because I don't know how to say it so to not hurt his ego, his feelings, and avoid foul feelings afterwards. But no matter how hard it is, I still get right to the point and say thank you, but I only like you as a friend. I don't want to lead him on, because it's a waste of my time and his. But no matter how I put it to them, they don't take it well, no one likes to hear refusal. Also, I would rather break his heart early, right when there is a possible "bud", because that's fair to everyone, telling the truth is really the best thing to do for somethis like this.