Running into ex-fiance on a social site

Not enough info here... Sure you are giving us the facts... but you have neglected the feelings part. Let's face it... facts don't upset us... feelings do. The fact that you don't want to tell your hubby... tends to lend credence to the fact you still have hidden feelings for the ex... however small and however remote they are. It's not him you are worried about but you. You don't want these feelings to resurface and honestly interacting with the ex will cause this... to some certain degree. I'm not saying that these feelings have any bearing on your life you have now. I'm not suggesting you would ever leave your hubby or anything like that. All I am saying is that.. I think you have some unresolved issues with your ex. Would I ignore any communications from any of my exes? No... but we are talking about me and I was usually the one getting dumped and not the other way around. So I am secure in the fact that I did the best I could at that time with that person and I still wasn't enough to keep them interested. If I was with someone... would I not tell them if an ex communicated with me? yes I would tell them. I wouldn't want to be with someone who wasn't secure enough in my love for them, their trust in me, and my dedication to them to make an issue of it. So long as its not an on-going communication what should your husband worry about? Your ex contacted you not the other way around. If anything your husband should be flattered that he has you... and some other poor saps might be out there pining away for you LOL.

I also think that you should tell your husband about this. It's not unusual for old friends/flames to contact folks on sites like Facebook and I think you did the right thing by telling your ex that you're married and not "friending" him. You need to get your mind off of him though because thinking about him is not healthy for your marriage. The What Ifs...wondering...can only lead you down a path you most likely don't want to go.

I would actually tell my hubby. I did once when I was admiring an acquaintance. Telling hubby just absolutely defused the whole situation. It was smart to drop an engagement when you were too young. I would just leave the contact as you did, but tell hubby, and tell him how uncomfortable it made you feel.

I guess you should be honest with him. The things that you keep from him might cause problems in the future. It is already 22 years ago so I think he won't mind what you will tell him. I guess he would understand.

Hey, if I were you I would not worry. After all 22 years is a long time ago. If you ask me he is not wanting nothing more than to see how you are doing. I don't see anything wrong with writing hime back if it was just to tell him how you are doing. Stop worrying about it you did nothing wrong. Toni McBride Avon Representative http://www.youravon.com/tmcbride3833

You should stop thinking about him and concentrate more in your family lives. But, if he insist to be your friend and you see nothing wrong with it. Remain friend but do not go beyond the boundary of friendship. You could tell it to your husband to be honest. You should told him where did you meet again. if your husband is not a jealous type of person it is good not to tell a lie. But, if he is the opposite. No need to tell and if you no longer have feeling with your ex, better stay away. Maybe, advice him to find another woman and you are not interested anymore if it happen he has still feeling for you.

Don't hesitate to mention it to your hubby, after all there is no harm done. That guy belongs to the past, and he should remain there, unless of course you wanted to bring him into the present. When your feelings got all bothered with the incident that happened in the past, just look what you got in the present. When you look into your family now, the past will not haunt you anymore and you can totally ignore him.

Let the past remain the past. I would not in any way encourage this relationship from the past. It's just too easy to get caught up in the "pleasant memories" of our teen years, especially when they occurred when our hormones were way out of control and before we had any real adult responsibilities. It's easy to stop thinking about it ....just think for a minute what your life would be like adjusting to two strange kids; adjusting to the changes to the man you haven't had contact with in 22 years and all the other disruptions that could occur in your presently happy life (divorce,having to move,change jobs,financial etc.). Why play with fire?

Responding to him is not wrong at all. At one point in your lives you were very close and it sounds as if you just naturally grew apart and moved on. I do think that if you continue to correspond with this guy that you should let your hubby in on it. You know how these things have a way of coming out and it would not look good if he found out from anyone or any source other than you. It sounds as if you are curious about him also which is understandable.

I am sure you're uncomfortable with it. my advice is that if you really don't want to talk to him, then just ignore him completely and tell you hubby about how uncomfortable you feel. or you can talk to him to finally settle the score and tell him that you have moved on. . i know i did, i ven apologize for some of my x for crushing their dreams.

if you keep thing about it most likely its showing your not over him,hmmmmmm if i were you i wouldn't say anything to my hubby cus his not realy in this and if thats all thats going to happed then its not that big unless there is more to this.