are friends for real?
By whateva
@whateva (786)
India
July 12, 2009 4:49am CST
THIS WORLD IS SO MEAN
i dont believe in friends anymore
there fake smiles..
i agree they are true
they want to be your friend
but later on everyones feeling change
even mine.,,in d end it doesnt make sense..
call it tym pass man
y call it friends
sucks
5 responses
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
12 Jul 09
Hi there Whateva!That's really sad and I am sorry that you're feeling that way. I also find it hard to find true friends especially now that I have my own family and have not much time for hanging out. I also lost lots of my friends when I was younger but I am happy that even though we are far away from each other, there are still some who remained true friends. We still communicate through e-mails, social networks and text messages.
It seems like you've been through a lot since you came to that conclusion that there is no real friend anymore. I hope that you can still find a real friend because everyone needs some. If you have even just one in your lifetime, you are lucky. True friends are really hard to find.
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@josephb (219)
• Malta
12 Jul 09
Well I have many friends since I'm fully sociable , but I don't trust them all I only trust 3, even those three have their limitations I only trust my gf very much the other three don't know the story of my life at least not all and the others don't even know where's my house exactly lol so yeah I have true friends but I don't trust them very much , as they can stab you in the back and use the info they got from you against you, so why risk
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@cr0ssf41r13 (866)
• Philippines
12 Jul 09
I agree that the world is mean. However, in my humble opinion, I believe that "friends" do exist. I have been through different kinds of friendships (from fake friends and users up to close friends). I have experienced treachery, theft, and dishonesty. However, I still ended up loving people who, at first, are those whom I hated the most. The trick here is that do not be against anyone. Open yourself up to people. Just be real. Don't be too depressed because of the world. If you won't help yourself, then who will?
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@kangel48446 (507)
• United States
14 Jul 09
yes real friends do exist there just very rare. true friends are some of the hardest people to find but when you find one the will be the best friends you would have never thought you would have found, but will be there for you ,not talk behind your back, will stand up for you, and much more. there is a true friend out there for you just keep looking and don't give up cause once you find that friend you will be so happy. so don't give up.
@MissTina (124)
• United States
12 Jul 09
I think that there is a difference between friends and acquaintences, and that many people do not realize the difference until it is too late and they have already been hurt. I think that acquaintances are people who you hang out with, you have things in common with, but that you do not confide in. Friends are people who you do all the same with but that you know you can count on when it really matters most. I have many very close friends that I know will be there for me no matter what when I need it. Most have been my friends for years, but I also have some new ones as well. Just don't give all of yourself to someone who does not do the same in return, just like when picking someone to date!
If you openly distrust someone before they have ever done anything wrong obviously that is not going to work out! People don't like to be put down before they have a reason to be! Somtimes you truly need to learn to give people the benefit of the doubt!
@MissTina (124)
• United States
13 Jul 09
Okay, I am sorry but I could not understand half of what you were saying, nor could I get your point.
No, nothing ever perfect everyone knows that! That is why innocent people deserve the benefit of the doubt. How would you like to be labeled a terrible friend, a liar, or a backstabber by someone you just met? Obviously you would not like it because you are here to express your stress and disappointment of dealing with those kind of people currently! You are doing that to everyone in the world now before they have done anything to you.
Yes, sometimes people change, but in my opinion that is what is great about life and about friendships! Do you think you are the same person you were 10 years ago? No! You learn you grow, you make mistakes and learn from them! There is no reason to go into a dark lonely room and lock yourself in for eternity! You should allow yourself to live your life no matter how others may think feel or act.
I have been betrayed in a worse way than most people could ever imagine! I choose to not let that one person, or others who have hurt me, to control my whole life! I leave them be, I let them be in the past! I choose to learn from their faults and move forward in my life! If you don't want to hear that there is a way to trust people even after being hurt, I am sorry I am just not one of those people to bow down and allow others faults to control my life. You learn from them what you don't want to be and you find others who think on the same level as you!
