give your baby up for adoption then have another kid and keep it???

I do not believe it is right. However, I do not know her circumstances onto why she actually gave up her child for adoption. If I knew the situation then I would tell you but still if was her choice and at least the child is in a better place. She knows and everyone knows that you CANNOT replace that child, it will always be a burden in your soul because she spent 9 months with this child in her womb and each pregnancy is a different experience. Even though you believe that she wanted to replaced the child, it cannot be replaced and she knows that for certain. I am just thankful that she made that right decision to put her child on adoption so the child can have loving parents.

Welcome to mylot! You don´t explain why she gave her child for adoption. There are many circumstances that can explain it. Maybe she didn´t have the money to feed them all. Maybe you should explain that better. As for a "replacement", no child replaces another one. But if she got pregnant again, even if the circumstances hadn´t changed, maybe she decided that giving a baby for adoption was not the solution for her.

I am happy that instead of have an abortion that lady had her child adopted. That gave the child life and hopefully a happy one with loving adoptive parents. I know many ladies regret having an abortion so perhaps some mothers that adopt their child miss him or her. The lady become pregnant again and kept her child that time. Maybe she felt able to care for that one. It is possible to make a mistake in life but to get things right the next time around.

I don't know this situation, all I can say is from my personal experience. I work in a preganacy center and I love my job. I see all kinds of people, from all kinds of backgrounds. Some things I agree with, and some I don't. But we try and provide as much suppoet and education as we can. In this situation, I am pretty sure the woman is not "replacing" one child for another. That would be impossible. Every child is unique with their own personalities. She may be struggling with grief and felt that she wanted another child. I have known quite a few women who have decided to parent after giving a child up for adoption. We never know what is going on in a persons mind or why they do what they do. Just hope they they work on being a good parent. Maybe there was a life change and she now feels she would be able to parent better. It is actually really sad, because that is a heavy load for a woman to carry around. Many woman go through conseling to deal with the trauma attached to adoption.

There is no way you truly know the reasons she gave the child up for adoption or why she made the decision to have another child. That is unless you can read minds. As someone whom has given a child up for adoption I can tell you that you can never replace that child, no matter what you do