I GUESS i am going through something, but i do not know what, it just feels..

Oh I know what you're going through. I may not have a husband but I had been in long term relationships. There are just some times that we get ourselves into a doldrum. And somehow it just feels annoying to be the only one to worry about it right? I guess in your situation it may be because of the stress both of you feel. I know you're having difficulties right now. I don't know what to advice you though. In my situation I always end up like a drama queen. haha. I don't think that's the right thing to do. I think communication is still the key, but maybe you should cool down first?

Sometimes for the sake of the relationship, you do have to speak up when something is bothering you. The more you keep it inside, the more it is going to bother you and eventually it will come out but it will probably be a big huge blow up argument. I think it would be better and more effective to tell him that you miss him and the closeness that you used to share. I know it would feel better if he would just figure it out but that is not always the case.

I agree with everyone that you do need to open up to him and let him know that something's bothering you. And yes, men are definitely NOT mind readers! But at the same time, because you're annoyed yet you don't know why, I think you need to look within and try to figure out why you are so bothered by him. How are you not being fulfilled by your man? How, then, can you fulfill this need yourself? It's been said that no one can make us happy...it is not their job to. We, both men and women, are ultimately responsible for our own happienss, needs, wants, emotions, desires, etc. It's not so much that he needs to figure it out - I really think that you need to. Things may change after you confront him with this, but if you are not fulfilled yourself, you may still end up feeling the same way and be back to square one again. I say all this because I have felt the exact same way toward my fiance many times, even when he does and says all the right things. But what it all comes down to is ME. After some inner reflection, I realize that I'm being insecure about something or have some fear or self-doubt going on. I have come to accept that expecting my fiance to always make me happy and know how to make me happy is too much responsibility for one person. Yes, you do need to communicate with your husband but you also need to take responsibility for your own emotions as well. I hope this helps.

I don't know if you or he have a reson to be mad at each other or to act that way. But what I have notice with my husband is something similar but with us is strees from money problems because we are not able to make payment on time. He would actually make mad because he would start to talk to me as if I was his made and there are times that he tells me what to do in a mean way and I hate that. But I am also like you I don't like to tell him what he is doing wrong I don't do it because he get's all but heart and he will stop talking to me for a wile and he would treat me like a stranger. He accts like a kid most of the time but there are also times when I do tell him somethings and I try to talk to him until he understands what I feel. Some men need for us to talk to them and explain evrything to them since they are in their own world. My husbands worlds is full of friends, car, tv and junk. I know he cares and understands but he rather not let it show because to him I am not right and my fealing go from good to bad in seconds. That is not right but since he those not pay attention he those not notice what is really going on.

This one's typical.Ü i guess you try to follow what you want which is "figuring him out". It will ease your feeling of being paranoid. Then after doing that, you can slowly bring back the flame in your relationship. Pride might be the culprit. But i hope you and your husband could solve this problem. God Bless.Ü

This happens with every lady. She wish her partner daily mention that he love her. Or he should spend with her and should not say bye to her any time. Ladies mentality is like this. If the husband does the same thing what she want, she will not be satisfied even he'll be with her a long time. She wants to continue but never wants to stop. For men they don't think that it's necessary to say all the time that he loves her. He gets irritated. Ladies should change at this point not prolonging the issue. Because human relations are very sensitive. One wrong step, we can't imagine our down fall. Wives should have to work creating some hobbies for themselves for time pass. The problem is: The wife will have only one world that is her husband. But the husband will have responsibilities in house and in society. He'll be getting tired in work tensions, as he has to earn for his family. The wife only is not his world, she's just a part in his world and many more will be there for him in his world. The wife should give him time so that he can make everything possible. Just wait and see, he can not be away from you much longer, after all you are the main world to him. What's he without you, 'a big zero'.

I know I am not old but from expirience with my ex. Yes you do have to spell it out. You have to be the one to say something cuz he never will. The sad truth is men have no freakin clue. It could be right there bitten them in the rear and they still wouldnt have any idea what your needs are, Just how you said it you have to spell it out. There was a point where i felt like you and I waited and waited and waited. So many arguments started happening until I finaly said what my needs where and he said he had no clue. I was with him for 8 years. Relationships need to be open be able to talk to one another. Just tell him how you feel trust me if hes just like every other guy he has no idea. good luck and much hugs