At 50 am I too old to become a Mother again?

HI Zandi! First of all I cannot be in your shoes, even if I wish. I cannot be a mother due to my gender.......LOL! Jokes apart, I think it will be a difficult decision for you to be an adoptive mother of the kid of your unwed adoptive daughter. I think it is an uphill task to look after little kid at the age of 50. I think it is upto you, how much you can cope with your situation. If you cannot, think twice, before finally taking a decision. Please be led by your brain/mind rather than your emotions. Your healthy is equally important to you.

Congrats, god blessed you with a sweet child, its very nice to hear the news. Life begins at 50, 60 or too old but always God is great...

well I don't think that you are too old. wasn't there just a woman that was like 65 and gave birth to twins? As far as your age I don't think you are too old. But I get what you are saying about disrupting your life to becoming a mother again. I think it is a choice you have to make that is right for you and your daughter. Is your daughter willing to give the baby up for adoption? I think it would be hard and if you think the baby would have a better life being adopted then that would be the right choice for the baby.

you know zandi. the love you have reserved for your daughter's child does NOT age. 50 years is not OLD old, in my opinion. i know sixty-ish people who are happily taking care of babies and not thinking of their age as a hindrance. and for what its worth, i think you ARE and will be the most wonderful mom to any child that you wish to take care of. as for your daughter, i think she ought to learn how to take care of her kid. you are wise in this aspect, teach her how she could become as great a mom as you are. after all, we have to face the fact that you cannot be there for them forever, right? but that's just my two cents. no matter what decision you make, i will always admire you for what you are.

Though i have not been here in some time, I feel compelled to comment here. Sweet lady, thoughn you may be 50, and yes, there will be times when it is very hard to care for that new baby, that baby is blood of your blood and life from the life that you gave. I have a dear friend who is in a hard way. She has two little babies and I care for them many many times when she has to work at night all night. Though I do find it takes a lot of my time away from what a Widowed{single} man could be or would be doing, the very love that i feel from those babies takes away any doubts and even causes me to wish i had a little one to care for again. My daughters are grown and my grandchildren taken care of by their mother and father. I take the chance to watch them and care for them every single chance that i get. Does it take away the chance that I might be dating or doing other things? I suppose it does but I am content and I watch the little ones as many times as 4 days in a week and have watched them 6 or 7 when their mother needs the extra cash and takes more hours at work. If my daughters have a baby and they can not care for it for any reason, I would take the baby and raise the precious gift without even a second thought. They are blood and they are gifts and they didntr do anything wrong to be put in the position of a mother that simply can't care for them even if she loves them with all of her heart. I tell you this too, sweet lady and know it to be true. If you do allow the baby to be adopted out, you will pine for that baby and wish a Million imes over that it was YOU that were comforting that precious child when it cries in the night. You will wish it were your face that it looked up at and smiled at for the first time. 1000 more Firsts that you will wish you had been the one to see them first. Hugssssssssssssss to you for this very hard descision and I pray for you daily for the strength and wisdom to know what to do. That baby could not be luckier than to have such a sweet lady with a beautiful heart teaching it all there is to know about life. God Bless you sweetheart and I will say prayers for your daughter and her baby to be. HUgssssssss Always, D...

I dont think youre too old at all. If you think you can do it, and youre still in good health, then i think it should be okay. I wouldnt be able to give up my child for adoption, because once you see them, youre so overcome with love you couldnt imagine giving them away. A friend of mines monther had her when she was 47, and my friend turned out just fine. If you think that you can do it, and youre not too tired, then i would go for it. Im sure you'll do just fine.

You are Grandma! not mother altho you take over the job I would have her help with the tending to the baby give her alot of responciblity of taking care. I was 65 when my grand daughter was born adn as they lived in our house and Daughter worked so does SIL I got her to tend to when she was about 6 weeks old. But to I would have daddy tend for a couple of hours when he got home and daughter when she got home took over but still when Daughter not working I do alot of the tending to her and now she is 4 1/2 years old. And now I am trying to teach her to swim. we have good times together I take her on my trips with me. And I get the best hugs and kisses when she gets up and before bed time1

Hi friend If i were you,i will take care of the child at that age too.Really speaking children are gifts from God.They don't know what is wrong and what is right at that age.That is the time when one should guide them as what to do.I think as a mother you are successful and again God has given you a chance,just utilise them.Everything would work happily. Have a nice day

Hi Zandi! Climb out of that sea of emotions. You are NOT too old to be a mother to your daughter's unborn child. A girlfriend of mine did that, as well as the property manager in the community I live in. Both have found it so rewarding, the children are growing up happy and well adjusted. My dad's mother had her last two children at 52 and 54 (my dad was the one at 52). I think that women become BETTER at being mothers as they get older. We have more confidence, we are calmer, and since many of the other areas in our lives are settled, we are better able to concentrate on loving and rearing that child. I can't make the choice between keeping the baby and putting it up for adoption, but please don't be too concerned about your age. After all, we (women) don't get older, we get BETTER!

I guess the right decision will be taken at the right time,, so please have patience,, It's hard but life has to go on,, no fault of the new arrival ,,

My mom is 55 and you sister is 12 so my gave birth when she was 43 or 44. She is going true menopaus and she is a little cucu some times but she loves us all and has never left my sister alone they have always been together. Also my mom has been a single mother ever since I was about 10 yes she whent back to see my dad but they never lived is the same house. My point is that my mom had the option to give my sister to my oldest brother for aduption but she never did and I know that she is glad she never did because she has had good and bad times rasing my sister and there is nothing better as to have those moments with some one you love. The only reason that I think I would not do it if I was in you shoes was if I was sick and I needed other to take care of me. Just think about is are you capable of taking care of the baby? Do you want to be a mother again? Remember a baby is fragil and need love and care but also when we become mother for the first time or the tenth time we become a stronger person. I have no idea why but we do become stonger I guess we have to be since there is some one that needs from us. Good luck and I hope you make the right decision for you and the baby.

Age is just a number. There is no age limit on loving a child or being a mother. I think you may some day regret if you give the baby up for adoption. As long as you are financially stable and mentally of coarse, then I would give it another go. If your unwed daughter is living with you also it will give her some lessons in responsibility to have her help take care of her own child. It is nice of you to care that she finishes school and what not and that she is a kid having a kid. That happens all the time anymore though. If I was in your shoes I would let her make the decision really. But be there for support in all ways. She has to grow up sometime and if she is grown enough to do the duty she should be grown enough to take on the consequences.

I don't think you're to old at all. My mother was 44 years old and had my baby sister She thought she couldn't get pregnant at that age but she did. And everything went perfectly normal my sister came out perfectly fine. So yeah i don't think you're to old to be 50 and having a baby.

I am an biological mother, an adoptive mother, and a foster mother. I am 55 years old. Fifteen years ago, my seventeen year old daughter became pregnant. Giving the baby up for adoption was never an option for us. I helped my daughter parent her child until she was able to move out on her own. I homeschooled her, babysat while she worked, supported her in any way I could. She turned out to be a wonderful young woman, and married the baby's father later on. They went on to have three more children. But even if she hadn't, I'm still glad I helped her keep her child. As a foster mother, we have adopted three children from the foster care system in the last three and a half years. I was 51 when we adopted the first one. A year later, we adopted a second older child (she was four when we finalized) and six weeks after her adoption was final, her one day less than six month old baby brother came to live with us, and we finalized his adoption a year later. Life has been very good to us. We now have seven biological children, and three adopted children, for a total of ten children, from ages 33 to two years old next month!

I guess you are in a really hard spot? You will have to take a long hard look at this. Does this child want to keep the baby? Does she want to be responsible for a child. Will you have to keep the child after she is able to be on her feet? I would have to sit and weigh up all the options and do what I feel is best for the baby and for you.

I must say that it is very kind of you. Although I am 34 years old now, but sometimes I still feel so tired to take care of my child. Children are always full of energy. So I know it may be harder to bring up a child when you are 50 years old. As it needs patience, energy and time. 50 years old is not old, but sometimes it may be difficult to look after a child, especially baby. It depends on your health. If I were you, it seemed that there were no more choice. I would help my daughter to take care of her baby. Because the baby is my grand child. Being a mom, I think my responsibility is endless, unless one day I am gone. I love China

Hi zandi, First I wanted to share a story. In fact is not a story but a real incident happened in my native place which was about a 65 years old lady who delivered a baby boy. Of course you may wonder how she could at this age, it was her own decision to become a mother and she single handedly made efforts to become a mother. The doctors first tried to discourage her decision, but her decision was strong enough and finally doctors agreed to go with her decision. There were many formalities before her pregnancy. Doctors prepared her body artificially to become a mother by hormone treatment and everything was done by artificial. Finally she got pregnant and delivered a baby boy. I am not sure whether she had children earlier but the 65 years old ladies pregnancy and delivery got attention of media. I am trying to say that the age is not a bar for anything in the present world. I agree the point, to take care of a baby is not an easy task and it depends upon you only. Hope you will take a wise decision.

I was 44 when my 17 yr old daughter had her first son. I love just being grandma. my daughter was still at home and in her last year at school. I was there for her and the baby. I might also mention the day my grandson was born i started believing in love at first sight. She is now married and has 3 beautiful children. Her baby is not your responsibility. She needs to have the major care of the baby. Just be there for the two of them. Enjoy being the grandma. Because that is what you are.

It is a decision only you can make zandi but I would consider very carefully before putting the child up for adoption. I am speaking for myself and the prospect of taking care of a baby at my age would overwhelm me but if I was in your situation I doubt that I would be able to see my grandchild being brought into the world and then cope with giving him or her away. I know it would haunt me forever. Having said that, the decision is a personal one and I would not place judgement on whatever you intend to do because I admire you too much for that and I am certain that you will choose the best outcome for you and your family. Keep in mind that your daughter should share the responsibility of taking care of the child. Good luck to you with all this zandi.

Hello my friend zandi458 Ji, First of all i wish to congretulate you. Next i bring out something, which will strenthen your mother-hood and be able to face little odd emerging out of your feelings. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oldest_mother[b]"Pregnancy over age 50 From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia (Redirected from Oldest mother) Jump to: navigation, search Pregnancy over age 50 has become more possible for women, due to recent advances in assisted reproductive technology, such as egg donation.[1] Typically, a woman's fecundity ends with menopause, which by definition is 12 consecutive months without having had a period. Perimenopause usually begins between ages 40 and 51, this is when the periods become irregular & eventually stop altogether (men, in contrast, generally remain fertile throughout their lives,[2] although the risk of genetic defects is greatly increased due to the paternal age effect). Pregnancy over age 35 is associated with increased risks. In the United States, between 1997 and 1999, 539 births were reported among mothers over age 50.[1] According to statistics from the Human Fertilisation and Embryology Authority, in Britain, more than 20 babies are born to women over age 50 per year through in-vitro fertilization.[3] The oldest known birth mother in the world currently is an Indian who delivered twins, baby boy and girl at the age of 70 in November 2008."[/b]May god bless You and have a great time.