don't make promise if you can't keep

Hello cindyhxf, I always try my best to live up to what I have said I would do. I know some who say one thing and then turn around and do another thing. That just makes me a little angry. I prefer knowing the truth. My b/f and I don't live together since we had to move but we try to meet online once a day. It used to be two times a day but he sometimees fell asleep and didn't show up so now I told him if he is tired I would prefer to only meet up one time just for two hours while he is doing his broadcast. I don't like to feel angry so I am doing that for my own well being and for his.I have to admit I screamed at him more than once for not showing up. He "promised" to show up but after a few times when he didn't I told him I couldn't do that anymore because I don't like to feel stressed out because of HIM. I told him to stay on for a few minutes longer after he finished his broadcast and so I could tell him the things I need to say. That way I could go to bed not stressed out and mad. I know he works a full shift during the day and then he goes to his room and does a live music broadcast for 2 hours and only has a couple of hours before he has to go to sleep so he can wake and go to work again. On his days off he comes to where I live and spends a couple days with me.I had to find a solution so we didn't end up breaking up and that was my solution. I remind him to "say what you mean and mean what you say" so I wouldn't have to be mean when I had a chance to say something back to him.

Hi Cindy! I do not make false promises. If I make a promise, I try my best to keep it. I try to adopt realistic and practical approach in my life. If I know that I'll not able to fulfill any promise, I refrain from making it. Like-wise, I also expect from others that they should not keep me in dark by making false promises, they should tell the truth, if they cannot perform certain tasks for me. Good Post!

A promise is a commitment that you must fulfill. Giving out promises but aren't fulfilling it is considered untruthful and lying. I don't make a promise if I can't fulfill. And neither do I like others to make a promise to me but never adhere to it.

Well you are write in a way there but there are also some people who make promises and CAN'T keep them. Its so beacause there might be some constraints in completing the promise. So its fine when you say that one shouldn't make promises when he plans to break them but I'd like to add that one should always consider the person and his excuse for not keeping the promise. As for your question, yes I will trust the person again if he breaks my promise but his reason should be a good one. happy mylotting friend...

Hi Cindyhxf, I think that the worst time to make a promise to a person is when you are very excited or elated, even if someone means what they are saying at the moment, once they move away from that emotion, if the person does not do what they said they would do, shortly after that, it becomes more difficult for that person to follow-throuhg. I tend not to promise anyone anything in "a spur of the moment" situation, eventhough I might want to because you just don't know how hard it will become for you to do what you said you would. If I want to do something for a person that expects some kind of result or action, I would just surprise them with what they want, instead of actually promising them that I would do whatever it is they are hoping for. I hope this makes sense.

I agree with the sayings that don't make a promise if you will not keep it.. Better to shut up your mouth before you hurt someone with your unreliable promise. I'm a type of man who keep my promise and I don't want to people who made promise only with their mouth and not with the heart.

I have made promises like donating some things to people but I am in tight budget myself at the end of the month I can't donate. Also I have promised to send money home every year, which I kept until I had to quit my job. My mother in my homeland told me not to send money, but I told her I will send whenever I can because I promised my late father I would help her with money. I hope someday the economy will recover and I can start making money again. but these things depend so much on a lot of things beyond my control. I always try my best to keep my promise, unless things happen beyond my control I will keep them. In the past I have been a victim of my own promises, I kept them for certain people and suffered for it. I never made promises for them anymore. I used to be angry if someone breaks promise to me, but lately I have learned to get even instead of being angry. I will break my promise to them or I will ignore them let karma works. Karma always finds its way to me and to everyone anyway, it always does. I usually give people one more chance but if they blow it, I will block them from my phone/ email etc and I will notify anyone I know if necessary.

cindyhxf, George Chapman once said: “Promise is most given when the least is said”, so never promise a poor person, and never owe a rich one. Take care and have a good day.

yeah, ur right , when u r not capable of keeping the promise then dont give any promises to them. The trust gets lost and relationship, value and even my more reduces and fairly will lose him or her in very early days of ur life. So its better promise on those which is possible. Even what i do in generally is, i promise on most of the things even i dont know things. As i will find out the way from my others friends to accomplish that promise/

i know one... he's my former boyfriend... he's always making promises and later break it... i don't know with him... :(

yes the person who breaks the promise is not a person whom we can trust. but thing is we have seen one side ot the story that some one has broken the promise. i suggest before making decision we should know the whole story for breaking the promise. here question may arise if the peroson lie that for some specific unavoidable reason he has broken the promise!!! again i suggest promise is a faith. if we trust promise is broken then we must trust the purpose of breaking if same is a false statement also. make the person realise to the reason for breaking the promise 1st.