Would you accept apologize by sms ?
By vingyan06
@vingyan06 (2486)
Malaysia
July 13, 2009 12:56pm CST
We use our mobile phones daily to make a call and sending SMS as well. Have you ever apologize to someone by sending SMS, includes your love ones,partners your parents, friends, clients ?
And how would you react if someone does not say sorry to you in person, but using SMS ?
I just feel that sometimes we could not face some embarrass situations, hence we choose to SMS to apologize. Some people maybe can accept it, somehow some of my friends have complaint that this is not a good way to apologize by using SMS. What do you think?
I used to sent SMS to my hubs to say sorry to him and so do he. We don't find what's wrong to apologize using SMS. What do you think?
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23 responses
@lulumartin (963)
• Germany
14 Jul 09
Hi, vingyan06.
It is a good discussion. You are right, nowadays the mobile phones become popular among us. We use mobile phones to communicate with others. It is one of the communication method, isn't it?
Well, when come to the apologization, from my point of view, it depends on the situation. If the person is my client, then i will choose to make the apologization face to face instead of sms. As i would like him/her feel my sincere.
But, to the persons who are closed to me, we just use sms. It's normal for us, nothing wrong with it. 
Happy mylotting and have a nice day!
It is a good discussion. You are right, nowadays the mobile phones become popular among us. We use mobile phones to communicate with others. It is one of the communication method, isn't it?
Well, when come to the apologization, from my point of view, it depends on the situation. If the person is my client, then i will choose to make the apologization face to face instead of sms. As i would like him/her feel my sincere.
But, to the persons who are closed to me, we just use sms. It's normal for us, nothing wrong with it.
Happy mylotting and have a nice day!@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
Hi, I use to apologize via sms to close family members too. Happy mylotting.
@suchetan230044 (618)
• India
14 Jul 09
think otherwise.Apologizing through text message is the best way to keep the proof that the person is really sorry!You have his number with written apology.Just don't forget to save the text though!lol!
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
hi, thank you your comment. In fact that is what I have done. I keep all the SMS that my hubs sent to me. It is the proof of apologize and all the sweet words. LOL
@busta1 (1026)
• United States
14 Jul 09
i wouldn't take a sorry from a SMS its too easy and you don't even have to mean it you could be drunk and just send a SMS i rather see the person that way i can hear them say it, they would be lieing there too but at least i know that they said it in my face.
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
Thank you for your comments. Yaeh, some mylotters too saying that they could not accept the apologize by SMS. It is Okay, just do what ever we want and we like. You keep well and happy mylotting. :)
@chingmerry (414)
• China
14 Jul 09
i would accept apologize by sms,i think it is same sincere as face to face,some people are really a little bit ashamed,so i still would to forgive them whatever they say sorry by any way.
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
Thanks for your comments. As long as the apologize is made in a sincere heart, why not accept it :)
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
Thank you for your time shia. In fact apologize by sms Is a good way .
@rymebristol (1808)
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
sincerity should always come to heart. apologize are sometimes being sent through informal way of communication might be through SMS, call, email, chat etc....
but for me, it's not acceptable in all manners. a person should personally make an apology in a face to face encounter to show how sorry he/she was. but for a misunderstanding with a friend, apology through SMS is either way acceptable.
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
Thank you for your comments. In different situations , we might rate the apologize from sms is useful, somehow some people think thank that is not a sincere way. Anywhere, happy mylotting
@fheroan (615)
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
well, i say sorry to someone sending him/her sms when i have done something wrong to her that's not a very big sin..like i forgot to say something or i said something bad accidentally..but if its really a big problem, i would want to talk to them face to face so that we can settle it down right away..coz i hate having enemies..
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
fheroan, thank you for your comment. Yeah, for small matters I think mostly people choose to accept apologize by sending SMS. If it is a big issues, still face to face to solve it is the best solution.
@candy2306 (576)
• India
14 Jul 09
Yup I send and recieve apologise via sms! That's what it's for right? Communication? So why not accept it? I don't see any problem in apologising with sms. The important thing is, one realize one's mistake and have the heart to say they're sorry!
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
Okay, I agree with you, and yes, we are a gang, we do accept and send apologize via sms! You stay happy mylotting! :)
@cncity (46)
• China
14 Jul 09
I think I will devide the situations depend on the people who make a apologize to me.If he or she is my family member,brother or sister,relative or very good friend,I will accept apologize and forgive tnem.But if he or she is a common friend of mine,I think I will not accept this kind of apologize,After all Idon't see his or her face ,don't here his or her sound.only serveral characters can not tell me whether he or she is sincerity!
That my opnion ,have a nice day!
@shimanaja (493)
• Indonesia
14 Jul 09
Technologi progress at this time..make everything that we need is so simply in many cases..including with selfphone which can make our conversations so easyly to make.
We are free using our selfphone or mobile phone to make a call or SMS..
No matter how is serious or not the cases are...
But something here, better when you want to appologize with someone in person.
It means more appreciate than you do SMS...yes some people like that way...including me..eventhough i can't deny some one who apologize to me by SMS..
How impress if you show your repentance by your self...
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
Yeah, we just need to thank for the technology. Be it sms or call, as long as the person is apologize in a sincere heart, I believe we would accept it.
@yogambal_64 (1014)
• India
14 Jul 09
Hi, Actually it depends on the situation for which an apology is being asked for whoever it be whether you to someone, or someone sending an apology through an sms to you. But one thing to be appreciated is his intention to ask for an apology because now a days people generally think it is below their dignity to ask for an apology and it may be that he is really ashamed of what he or she has done to come personally and ask for an apology. If you are too close to each other there is no problem in accepting or sending an apology by sms.
@greeneeLT (22)
• Lithuania
14 Jul 09
I don't accept sms apologies. If you want to apologize, meet that person and tell him or her that. It's just not right. If a person apologies to me by sms, than I will be even more angry.
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
GreeneeLT, I get what you said. When we are still getting the things angry, maybe we just think that the apologise by sms is not sincere?
Anywhere, happy mylotting.
@jianglin (3)
• China
14 Jul 09
for some people,apologize by sms is most acceptable .coz sorry is a word too heavy to say. i know in those country that speaking english ,like 'thank you,sorry,i love you' ,are ordinary words. however, in my country ,they have heavy meaning and are not spit out easily. 'i love u' means responsble, sorry means give in```its hard to understand why those simple meaning words changed so much,but still they did.
my english is poor,but all i want to say is ,if he really means sorry, accept it ,no matter what way he use
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
Thank you for your time here. And I agree with what you say. Happy mylotting
@lazeebee (5461)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
To me, it depends. If the other person had created the misunderstanding or altercation in public (such as scolding or calling names in front of others), then I feel that the apology should be in person and in public. If that person had the guts to scold or quarrel in front of others, without feeling embarassed, then he should have the guts to apologise as well. Other than that, an apology through SMS or email is perfectly okay.
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
Thank you for your comment. I agree to what you write here, To apology through SMS is okay in certain situations but not all. For me, apologize by SMS could avoid feeling embarassed.
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
cwachid, you have a big and good HEART... So you will accept whatever apologize in different kinds of situations? It is good that you will take the first step to call back them back.
Yeah, sometimes it is hard to meet the person to say sorry.
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
jacksbg7, I see you are not going to accept apologize by SMS. What you are thinking is correct as you stated it seems not sincere at all. Hence you never apologize to some one by SMS? For me I can accept apologize by SMS, some how I prefer someone to wish Happy Birthday to me by calling me :)
@zizzazzula (180)
• Italy
13 Jul 09
I can accept apologizing by sms if it's the first part of a deeper discussion.
I mean, it's ok to apologize by mobile, but then the persons have to meet and clarify their position. In that situation I would accept!
Something like: "sorry about that, let's meet and discuss as we should"... but if the sms wants to be a complete apologize... i'm not going to accept it u_u
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
Yes, I agree what you said. It is first step to say sorry in sms. Once both have meet, we shall have deeper clarify about that issue.
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
Thank you for your comment. Yes, sms for apologize is going to solve the problems is that person could accept it.
@jessieandtim (1)
• United States
14 Jul 09
I admit that I have apologized to someone via text. My friends like to text me to yell at me and it always ends with me apologizing. There really isn't another way to do it at that exact moment without it being through a text. Some people just feel more comfortable apologizing in a less intimate and emotional way. Through texting, you can't tell if someone is crying, truly upset, or extremely angry without them telling you. Texting takes all the emotion out of heartfelt apologies.
@vingyan06 (2486)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 09
Jessieandtim, totally agree with you. By sending out an apologize SMS, we could avoid for those emotional feeling. Somehow if we are facing a serious issues, then face to face to solve the problems is the best.
