should you stay together for the kids
By nicoledorn
@nicoledorn (42)
United States
July 13, 2009 11:33pm CST
I don't have children so maybe I don't know but here is my opinon. NO! I do not have a father and I am okay with it this is because my mother left hime early and he was never around for me to miss. If people only stay together because of there kids I believe they will eventually split up which will make it harder on the kids because they will be older and more attatched to their parents being together. Also you can split up and try to have a mature relationship you know where the other parent gets them on weekends or whatever the case may be. This is the most healthiest approach if the parents can be responsible. Also if you stay with someone that makes you miserable just for the children you will probably fight with them all the time which will make your children very upset and raised in an angry household and again will eventually result in the parents splittng up but now they have drove eachother so crazy they can't even come to a mature agreement about custody etc.
So basically no that is the worst decision ever!
2 responses
@pupupd (1515)
• India
14 Jul 09
If someone can manage and stay together then of course they should, but if one of the partner is torturing the other then life becomes impossible to live and they should get separated, and the child must go with the better parent and not with the violent one. Now that the kid is born, it's the parents responsibility to look after him/her together. A child needs both father and mother, they have their own special importance in a child's life.
@nicoledorn (42)
• United States
14 Jul 09
I agree with you if the parents love eachother and can manage it then they should stay. It is always important to keep the childrens needs in your best interest.
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
14 Jul 09
i grew up without a father, but there was a time in my childhood where i wish i had one.
sometimes if parents can just let their prides not get in the way, and try to solve the problems in their relationship, see first if it will work out, then i think staying together for the kids may work out in the later on. there are those who separated because of pride.
but those relationship that are in constant fighting, i think it would be better if they just separated than let the kids see them fight all the time.
