Feedback you get when you announce "I am getting married"

Hi Sanjana! I think the people who are already married just want to have some fun at the cost of unmarried and ready to get married bachelors, therefore, they keep making such statements. It is said that - "Marriage is like a castle, those who are trapped inside, want to come outside and those who are outside the castle, want to get into it". I do not think that these kind of 'statements' deter unmarried persons from getting married. In either of the situations either one is bachelor or married, he/she will have some distinct advatages and disadvantages. None of the state could be called better.

Surprising thing is Sanjana, as a woman you would appreciate it if I say that we women have more to lose than the men, after marriage. It’s a no win situation with us as I feel it…on one hand women are working and contributing to the family finances (even if its for personal independence) while the Indian male wont change and so we have to do everything inside the house too! And then comes the kids, which again is the woman’s responsibility!!! At least our grandmothers were better off…they looked after the family but did not have to juggle office along with that! Yet, you will find few women circulating such negative feelers! I think why most men say such negative things is that they would prefer to stay as momma’s son while enjoy the freedom of love and lust outside (which we women cant)…as long as they are with momma, they don’t have to lift a finger for a glass of water but after marriage, they know that even if they don’t want to, they would ultimately have to do some work and take some decisions on themselves. And then, while they stay with momma, they can get away with little contribution to the family expense…they can enjoy their own life but post marriage, they lose that financial freedom. (This of course is in perspective of the Indian male, I don’t know about guys from other nations)

That is the view of many people.But there are people who held the contrary view too. The truth is that it may be out of jealousy or ignorance. What matter is the understanding between the parters to be married.