don't accept, don't decline, stay in limbo all the time

It's about time you came up with a poem that made sense! I have about 31 friend requests in limbo at the moment because they usually have an extremely low post count still and I can't work out what they're like. Most of them are also people that I've never seen before in my own discussions and I've certainly never seen any of their own discussions either, so I'm not even sure why they requested me? My favourites are the ones with zero activity. If I sent a request to someone and they didn't do anything, I probably wouldn't even notice! lol.

I approved everybody here even they can scam me or give me some important information. I don't send a request to my friendships, I just get from people want to be my friend. Whenever, I check their profile they has been not here anymore for long time.My time is limited by our activity and what suppose I do is keep in touch.

I never leave a request pending. As soon as I find it, I deal with it. I don't accept everyone who asks, and frankly couldn't remember if I tried those I asked and was left in limbo by. Some people don't deal with them because they haven't made up their minds about the person asking, and others leave people hanging because they are just 'afraid to say no'. Each to their own. I don't take any of it personally.

I don't spend a lot of time thinking about friends (well, friend requests, that is). I rarely send a friend request anymore. If I see something that is particularly interesting I might send a friend request to the member that started the discussion, but if it is interesting, it's probably from someone that's been around a while and is already on my friends' list. I do think I sent one a week or so ago and it was accepted right away. Most of the time I get friend requests from others. I don't let them sit, I usually approve them unless there is an obvious reason I might not want to. I don't know if I have any pending requests that I may have sent others some time ago or not, but if I do, no big deal. I know I have some referrals out there that haven't accepted the automatic friend request, but that probably means they're not here and participating anyway. I wish they would at least accept so I could send them a msg and get them going but not much I can do about that.

You're a poet, and you know it!!! I never decline a friend request...inn this world, we need all the friends we got! I don't do anything if they don't reply. After a while, I don't really care. Hi Dawn!!!!

they haven't noticed, they can't decide or they think it's funny to leave someone hanging. i've refused one so far and removed it as soon as i looked at the profile.

I've only had one time that I left a friend request and didn't respond to it. The person had requested, I denied, they requested again, I denied again, they requested again, I denied again...this went on for about a week. Everytime I'd deny they'd send one again, sometimes 2-3 a day. I finally left the last one so they couldn't send another. I had nothing against the person but they had no started discussions, hadn't responded to any discussions and had like 30 pages of friends. I didn't see a point in adding them. Finally after a week I denied it again and I've never gotten another one. [b]~~AT PEACE WITHIN~~ **STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS**[/b]

I've been left pending by one person that I really wanted to be friends with, but she never accepted me. I will leave some pending to see if they ever get busy posting, but most of the time I end up denying friendship because I'm afraid they are going to "spam" me with make money PMs. I've become very suspicious of low number friend requests... and I had 4 pending friend requests of my own, but the people were no longer active here, so I recently deleted them.

it's all good.they don't reply,they don't reply. i'll just zap it after awhile. they could be offline though and have no idea.

I do actually have a couple that are in limbo. Why? because they requested me and I looked thru and didn't see any discussions where I'd responded on with them...they are very new and I just kind of wait and see for a bit if they are even going to be active here. There is one that I've held on to for a while now who still has not started to nor responded to even one discussion at all and yet has many many friends. I'm pretty sure she's here just to spam or something.

Hello lovely poet.. Fast one here eh.. I think that it's quite alright to leave a friend list pending if it's a new user. But for someone that we see each other id all the time here and seemingly that that person has answered your discussion before and you answered theirs for a few times here and there, to be left pending would keep me wondering very much. It's disturbing to the point of I can't sleep at night.............NOT! I like one answer you have written you can add and if that person causes trouble, you'll just delete them later. Goody..

Hi dawnald I do accept all the request I don't know why I would not accept them. So far I have had no problem with any of the member and also most of the people hear at mylot are really nice. I did sent some friend request but three never got an answer so I deleted them from the list since it seamd that they will never accept me. Is there any reason why I should not accept them?

Dawn, because I know you, I will not decline your request.

I'll accept the request whoever sends me, but when anyone doesn't accept my request I feel really sad for that.

There are many times I have always wondered why some people take longer than others to accept a Friend request especially if it is from someone who has been a member a long time for sure. I know that sometimes the reason I leave them in waiting is if they are still a Newer member then to see if they will continue to stay active, or maybe just because I have not been in there in a while to check to see who is all requesting for Friendship as well. No, I do not accept everyone who asks nor do I expect them to respond back to all of my discussions I ever start as well, but I also hope in time if I do accept them I one day will not have to regret doing so as well.

I believe that sometimes people just do not notice the requests. Others, the people choose to not be active. It can be a combination of both. I had a friend on one site, recognized her avatar on here, and requested her as a friend. At that time she was more active on the other site, and I think she never noticed. The requests I deleted to remove from limbo yesterday were to people who posted a few times but did not remain active.

I have a few that are still pending. I don't accept everyone who asks, however I do wait and see if they have actually responded to anything I've written. Some only seem to be here to get as many friends as possbile without bothering to actually contribute much to the actual discussions.

I will sometimes leave a request pending for a while if it's from a new member. I like to wait and see if they're genuine or if they're just looking for another online get rich quick scheme. Otherwise I will check out their discussions and accept or decline right away. If I have requested and the person leaves me pending for a long time I will cancel the request, especially if they have been active in the meantime. I think maybe people leave requests hanging partly because they feel bad declining; that's why I just go ahead and cancel the request if it's been there a while.

Sometimes I dont notice I have request till I actualy decide to pay attention. I accept everyone that takes the time to add me as a friend. Everyone has there own reasons as to why they wont add you . Maybe they leave u in pending so they wont be as rude as declinin perhaps? lol ..

Do you every not reply to a request? Nope What do you do if you send a request and the person doesn't reply? I do nothing Why would you suppose somebody wouldn't reply one way or the other? I'll know when he/she reply - I'd suppose, got busy or read it and thought to do it later and then forgot Or simply did not want to at the time.... :)