Can you Forgive easily?

Q: Can you forgive easily? How fast? A: No i can't. As fast as they apologize. Q: Are you able to forget the issue along with forgiving? A: It depends on the issue. Some i forget and some i don't. Q: Does the way you forgive depends on the relationship you have with the person? A: Yes. It is dependent on the relationship i have with the person.

Forgive and forget that is the word that comes together but somehow forgetting is not as easy as forgiving. No matter what things have been done to me, i could forgive the person easily if he/she ask apology. I could not forget what have been done to me for lifetime especially if the person who done bad to me is my relatives, or known person to me. If it is not, i could forget it as the years passes by. Irregardless of my relationship with the person forgiving is easy for me, and forgetting is so hard.

I can forgive, but i can't forget. Once bitten, twice shy. If a man fools me once, shame on him but if he fools me again shame on me.

it depends on what case i have.if someone hurt me a lot and i never forgive him again .if it is small and not importnant thing,i can fogive anf foget soon.you know someone did wrong thing to you and cause bad result.forgive them don't really help them.just like killer or rober,they have to affort responsibility what they did wrong to others.

Me, im not that type of person, i can forgive easily. Even its not my relative or just a simple person i can forgive them and forget what happen, maybe thats why other people abuse me with my character. Im also planing to change it for my own sake.

Dear Daliaj, There are six refrains ordained for us lot:- 1. Keep away for ANGER. 2. Do not indulge in HATING OTHERS. 3. NO JEALOUSY unto others. 4. NO ANIMOSITY towards anyone. 5. Ability to PARDON/FORGIVE others. 6. Do not develop ATTACHMENT towards anything. Very difficult to imbibe. But very easy to preach. Isn't it? But if you start this benign process once, life will begin to appear a true bed of roses. People will belss you. Gods will seem all around. You will have no, truly no enemies. All will be friends. All will be Mylotters all around. But one more refrain, for we are all humans given to our own peculiar weaknesses and idiosyncracies. Whilst we must forgive expeditiously, we may not like to forget. While forgiving may be a function of heart, forgetting is a function of brain. And brain takes time to expell things from itself, till more important and more recent things begin to overtake lesser important and older things. One more facet to this forgive-forget imbroglio. We must not easily forget things. So that we do not indulge in yet another avoidable incident, and curse our own naivette. In fact there is a latent teacher in "not forgetting easily" process. Therefore Daliaj, please do forgive quickly to unburden yourself. Forget, you may like to at your own leisure. Nothing so strange about it, I suppose.

Im not one that forgives easily, I have gotten better but it is still really hard for me and I never forget. In a way I think it is good as I have been used in the past and it has helped me not get used again. HOWEVER if the person is someone I love I can and do normally forgive and I do forget in time. There are a few incidents thou that it stays with me and will forever be with me.

I can forgive easily, but I think many people can forgive but difficult to forget. Its hard to forget and once it happen, we will tend to take more precaution towards the person. Even though it kind hard for me to forget, but I still will able to help that person if they asked for it. It just to be closed and to be be a good friend, I can say never. It so difficult to be comfortable who has broke your heart. I'm will be very careful and be defensive too.

I think i can forgive a thing or a person easily .That's right ,I think hate a person it's a very hard thing. Maybe he/she doesn't know you hate he/she everytime when you saw he/she you were very comfortable but he/she didn't know that.and all the person get the hurt is your.If the problem is not a big deal just let is go.Forgive is a virtue right?

I forgive my close friends very easily and I will also forget the unhappy happenings very fast. For those who I am not familiar with i would not like speaking or keeping in contact with them if there are someting unhappy things happened between us. So my forgiving depends on the relationship i have with the person. I would never hate the ones that i care about.

choice is always present in forginess. you do not have to forgive and there are consequences. refusing to forgive by holding on to the anger, resentment and a sense of betrayal can make your miserable. a vindictive mind-set create bitterness and lets the betrayar claim one more victim. there is nothing so bad that cant be forgiven. nothing!!! i do believe in words above are correct in meaning and sentiment.. much easier than typing all of this... lol

forgiveness is a gift you gift yourself. it is not something you do for someone else. its not complicated. its simple. simply identyfy the situation to be forgiven and ask yourself,"am i willing to waste my energy further on this matter?" if the answer is "no", then thats it! all is forgiven... we do millions of mistakes and we forgive ourself also. then why should not others? most of others deserve forgiveness, and to be happy we need to be happy with one onother and to let go of things that only hinder future occurrences. i m generally a forgiving person, and i dont let past events get to me much. i force myself to focus on the present, and know there are many oppertunities in the future. personally i believe that nobody knows answer to your question because its probably different for everyone. i think forgiveness is only easy if ur someone who doesnt care.

Sometimes I do forget why was not happy/angry or the reason why I dont want to talk to someone especially when I dont see the person much. As for your Q, Can you forgive easily? How fast? I think it depends on the person and how he/she sees things - If you are the type who makes big deals of almost everything, then you might find it hard to forgive someone. I mean if the person apologize and you accepted, why not? Are you able to forget the issue along with forgiving? Forgetting the issue, Hmmm, it depends on the issue itself, if forgetting it doesn't mean anything in the future, then why not but if it means something related to the person and might affect the future, then you should put this on your mind for future acting when same or similar situation with the same person happens :) Does the way you forgive depends on the relationship you have with the person? Sometimes you cant help but forget all about it even if you dont want to :D but at the end, we are all human and make mistakes I dont think you should forgive very easily, what's the point? But if it is something that everyone tells you forget about it or it is nothing, you should think, why dont you do as they say? What if it is you who should be forgiven? would you like it to take more than it should? Think about levels of forgiveness as a start and set your own guidelines and force yourself to follow them. Specify a time limit so that you dont take long time to. Tell the person, I'll forgive you "Give a time" and just do it :D What do you think?

I can forgive easily like overnight, I won't hate that person too. But I will remember what he did to me, and aware of happening another time, forever. I won't forgive or forget depends on the relationship. If he is my friend, forgive it. If not, nothing is gonna happened for angrying or what. I believe that everyone do things with reason(s). I would rather find out what is wrong with him, understand it, forgive it, but not get stuck on it.

I think your character is good...Why change it? Its good to forgive and the healing can take some time but it isn't easy to forget and you should not forget but whenever you encounter a similar problem with a similar person, you'll remember what happened in the past and the second time round, you'll be more careful and more cautious...So why should you cahnge your character then, it does you more good than bad?

for me its easy to forgive and to forget its not problem for meso if u have hurt ur friend u forgive and for get its good for the relationship thank you

Comparing to you, i am very luck, as I am a person who not only forgive some things easily but also are very forgetful. Then I am not puzzled of those boring problems and keep getting well with my friends. To me, forgiving is a good virtue. But of course it is impossible for me to forgive everything. Take for example. i can not forgive the really cheat from my friends, not including the good lies. Does the way i forgive depends on the relationship i have with the person? Of course, the relationship is important aspect to the dicision, but not the main point. what they aim for is the main point to forgive they or not. Happy mylotting!

I seem to have the same issue as you have. Although It takes me a little while to forgive someone I too mull it over in my mind over and over again until I just cannot be around the person any more. I have tried to get over it as their are issues with family members that I am going to have to be around no matter what. I will be watching this post well to see some ideas for me too. To be around those that I no longer care for I try to remember all the good times I have had with them before and after what ever incident happened. It works for small issues but bigger ones are a bit harder to over come.

i understand where you are coming from. i have spent most of my life hating just everybody that was in my life at one time. now i have no freinds. try not to hold a grude, because it mean o long and lonly life. i did learn one thing from having to forgive. if you don't get mad at your freinds or family and then forgive them how will you ever get to know them anger is a good way to gat the truth out of yourself and someone else.

I am one day angry and next day calm. But nobody have not done something so awful that I can not forgive. And I do not see difference between forgive and forget. If you can not forget, you have not forgived yet. So enjoy life and forget about hate. Hate is bad emotion for both sides. PS: Sooorry for bad english and insane words. :D