being a single parent is it ok? or not ok?
By scooby29
@scooby29 (239)
Philippines
7 responses
@SangsTurks (1444)
• India
15 Jul 09
I personally think it is a great responsibility to be a single parent, you need great courage to be a single parent. And yes the children do need both the parents to feel complete as there are certain thing which they like to share with reach parent! Like for me, i liked to go out for a drive with my father which i didn't enjoy with my mom. I liked sharing my day to day activities with my mother which i didn't do with my father. So there are certain places in a childs life which a parent can do and dont.
@russso (1693)
• Philippines
15 Jul 09
My mom's played the role of both a mother + father to my brother and I for 27 years now.Ü She's a strong, God-fearing woman. I can imagine how difficult it must have been for her to raise us, but I think she did a great job at it.
So there's absolutely nothing wrong with being a single parent. It's quite a job to be a parent, but to be a single parent is tremendously not easy.
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@yogeshdhusa (2236)
• India
15 Jul 09
hi scooby, yes, even i am a single parent, actully somtimes i feel that the child needs both. But if the other is irresponsible then what? its better to be one but responsible.
I am taking care of the child as both. enjoy parenting :)
@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
15 Jul 09
Of course, the single parent can not replace the father and mother. A father can not become a mother intact. A mother can not become a father intact. Touch of a father with different mothers, as well as reverse it. Only children who may feel lost.
@Carolysom (62)
• Canada
14 Dec 09
I am not a single parent, but I'm a child of a single parent. I have to say it was SO much better for me, as a child, after my parents split up. I was 13 when they split and my mom moved to the next town over. I lived with my dad until I went away to university. My dad was a way better parent then they were a team. My dad was a hands on parent, but my mom was a "I'll be a parent when it works for me" kind of a parent. My dad was great! My mom was there for my high school graduation, and when my son was born. When I moved out of province, my mom came to see me once, I was living/working in a hotel in a resort town and family of staff got a reduced rate room. My mom was passing by with her husband so they stayed at that hotel. That was the only time in 2 1/2 years she came to visit. My dad on the other hand would come out to for a visit about every 3 - 4 months. When my husband and I announced we were going to have a baby then my mom started to come for visits to help us get ready for the new baby. Now that we are back living in the same province, it's still the same thing. The town I live in now is where both of my parents work, my mom works 3 or 4 blocks away and I still only see her about once every 2 weeks. My dad stops in to see us almost everyday. My sons loves it, he's grandpa's boy! He gets WAY more excited when my dad stops in then when my mom comes by, but then again so does my husband.
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
15 Jul 09
Sometimes circumstances in life means that we are forced into things that are not ideal, all you can do is your best for your child, being a single parent is hard work, and I am sure there will be days that you question what you are doing and that you wish you had the support of a spouse to help you with the difficult times. Go with your instinct and always think of what would be best for your child. Hang in there.
@deadlyorchid1029 (107)
• United States
4 Aug 09
I am a child of a single mom. My father popped in and out of my life. I really messed with me as a child and even now. Both parents are great if the home life is good. Being a single mom is nothing bad hard at times I am sure but the thing your daughter is going to grow up knowing is my parent loves me. If the other parent is not in her life at all I dont think it will bother her as much as if the other parent was there for a few months and then not again for a few years. She will understand and be ok. I wish you the best of luck with everything.