What would you do if you friend would fall into the hands of the wrong man?
By janzelaine12
@janzelaine12 (130)
Philippines
July 15, 2009 8:28am CST
I had this friend dated a guy who had a girlfriend. The good thing is that the girlfriend was far away. She was acting differently when she was involved with that guy since she consumed all her money just to buy cellphone load to call the guy because he was in another city, the city where my friend is from. I kept on telling her that their relationship would not turn out good and that their relationship would just break her heart. She didn't talk to me for several days just because of that guy. She never listened and unfortunately, she got dumped. I told her, but then she never listened. So, i just left her and waited until she would come to her senses. Then, she realized that I was right. If you guys were in my place, what would you have done?
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8 responses
@henahuda (158)
• Australia
15 Jul 09
hi,had i been on your place i would have also done the same thing.infact even one of my friend also faced the same thing.i also tried to explain her but i guess when you are in love you donot trust others but just believe that person who is the partner and there is nothing wrong in trusting your beloved.i told her so many times but she never listened to me later after few years they broke up as the boy ditched her.so i have learnt a lesson if any of my friends ask me about thier relationship i will share my point of view and rest leave it on them.you did whatever possible for your friend thats really nice on your part....happy mylotting
@janzelaine12 (130)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
Thanks for the response. That is really a fact that people at times could be really difficult when they are in love. Even if it is really obvious the guy is just fooling around, you still believe in everything that he says. Maybe my friend is just blinded because she is so much inlove. Several times I confronted her but she doesn't care at all on the advises. It is better to just shut up and wait for the time that she realizes that our intuition is really true. As a friend you would be worried, of course. She might not believe you at first, but when she is pretty messed, she will then go back for you. Sometimes it can be sad when you friend who has decided to end up her relationship and then would come crawling back to the same guy. I really don't like that and when that happens that's the only time that I'm gonna tell my friend that I don't wanna get in the way of her business because it is her decision that's gonna prevail in the end anyway. Happy mylotting.
@haiershen (1080)
• China
19 Jul 09
for me, when my best frined fall in love with wrong man, i will only give her my kindly opinion of the guy, then i won't do nothing at all, because when somebody fall in love with eath other, they will both belive eath other,and she will refused to listen any one's advice by her heart except one day her find the real fact by her eyes.good luck and have a nice day!
@daliaj (5674)
• India
16 Jul 09
It is a very sad situation, but I don't have much to do with that. I will talk to my friend in detail about the consequences and try my level best to advice her to leave the wrong guy. I have a limit in doing that because I don't like to cross the limit and enter others personal matters. I will do my work and leave the rest in the hands of god. She is not a kid and I have done my part. Rest is fate.
@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
Definitely. I am always in that kind of situation because I have a friend who always tells me her deepest secrets and asks me about those kind of situation. I always state my case and explains that this person is not for you but most of the time she just ignores what I say. In the end she comes to me stating how heartbroken she is and whatever. For me I state how I feel about the issue and it is up to my friends to determine what is right for themselves since they are big enough to decide. In the end, I feel good that I have stated my case but they just want to go with their own way instead of listening to what I said.
@devmitra (274)
• India
16 Jul 09
Helo janzelain.I have faced such a situation earlier,when my friend loved a guy like crazy,and everyone except her knew that she was not in safe hands.During their last day at college,she intended to buy an expensive gadzet for her boyfriend and for that she sold her cellphone and ipod at very cheap rates.She thought the gift would be a small token of her love,but the guy dumped the girl two days after the last day of college.
Its life that teaches in such matters.People don't want to hear anything,when they are in love.To them,their love is perfect,until the blow of reality alights on them and they are impelled to bear the sadness of 'love with the wrong guy'.
@babyfiona08 (652)
• Philippines
16 Jul 09
Love can make a person blind..
Sometimes, giving pieces of advice is good but let's face the fact that Lessons in life are sometimes learned in the hard way!
@sonz_doreen (193)
• United Arab Emirates
15 Jul 09
You did the right thing, remember we are all free people and have the freedom to make our own choices in life. Sometimes a lesson learnt, helps us in the long run. I have a friend too, who was involved with a girl who'd rip off his wallet every time she'd get a chance. All I could do was advice, the girl moved on and left him for her old boyfriend..Thats when he realised how wrong he was. At the end of ordeals like that, you can always say...'I told You So!' I know who may feel badly if your friends hurting and you wish you could have done something to stop it but its better not to interfere too much, you could burn yourself doing something like that!
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
16 Jul 09
Hello janzelaine. I think that you were right to have done so to help your friend when you sensed that your friend fell into the hands of the wrong man. I think that I would do the same as you did to my friend if there were such a thing to happen. It is sometimes hard to convince one when s/he is in a blind love, however hard we are trying to help them. The best policy or time for one to realize her of his relationship is sometimes when s/he realizes it by him or herself alone...That's why there goes the saying, "Love is blind"...
