What you do to control your temper......I really need help on this one :(

I have a few for you and I'll just make a list. Pick out one or two and practice and learn them. 1. take a deep breath, count from 0 to 10 SLOWLY. 2. walk away - tell whoever you are angry with you need a time out. 3. WALK for 10 or more minutes. Walk ANGRY steps. Stomp outside. 4. Sounds funny, but if/when you walk away, talk to yourself and answer yourself. Ask why they said/did what they did and an easy way to resolve the problem. 5. Turn on some music that you LOVE. Sing loud and angry until some of the frustration disappears.... 6. Try to think before you do or say something to someone and try to decide if you're putting yourself in a position for an argument. 7. Think to yourself.....if I get angry about__________ and do __________ what are the reprocussions going to be? (kind of like if you get on a swing and are thinking about jumping off - what is the end result going to be? 8. When you start to get angry, and someone seems to be provoking you into getting angry think of one of the funniest or stupidest answers you could give that would make you both laugh? If I get in an argument with someone and it's getting pretty heated....I wait for the opportunity to spring something on them. "what made you say that?" a dumb answer like "my mouth" makes both of you STOP and it's so dumb, laughing kind of helps with the anger. 9. Think what could happen to someone if you get too angry with them. Could you put them in the hospital or kill them? is your anger that bad? Is this person worth going to jail/prison over? Probably not.... 10. hold your breath until you can't hold it anymore, let it out, catch up on your breathing and hold it again..... Hope something here helps!! Can you lick your elbow with your tongue? Can you rub your belly and pat your head at the same time?

Hello darksorrow, My husband gets angry easily over small matters but he changed a lot for the past few years. He tried hard to control his temper. Whenever he feels the anger inside, he will avoid talking to others. He always keep himself busy with his work to forget about his anger and tries not to talk about the matter further until he cools down. Whenever we have an argument, both of us try not to prolong the issue until we cool down and can think wisely about the matter that cause us to argue. Both of us will just ignore each other until the anger inside disappear and discuss the matter later when we are not angry at each other anymore.

Before even i was short tempered but now it has gradually decreased as i follow certain steps when i get angry. Steps like I stand in front of the mirror and watch at my own self and start laughing at my own self and think that how funny im looking when i am angry. The oother option is start counting from 10 to 1 this is also a best way to reduce the anger. Do meditation daily do not forget it because it relaxes your mind and increases your patience the other way is read books as much as you can this increases your concentration power and makes you strong with patience All the best friend to increase your patience HAPPY MYLOTTING

My advice to you is that you simply had to breath slow and relax, if doesn't matter if you stay away from that person what if some one else got into your nerves.it could be a bad impact on other people, just try hesitate for a moment. then , if you can't control it then use your anger in a positive things, like lifting stuff,punching bag or any sport that would release your anger.

I know of someone who cannot control his temper and that is my brother. He easily explodes just over a small thing. Good for you, that you are able to admit yourself that you are ill tempered at times. I also lose my temper sometimes, but I can control it. I guess this just who I am. The way I handle it when I am in a rough situation is that I just keep distance and I calm myself. I just breathe and relax and after a few minutes, it's gone. Sometimes I just pray just to calm myself. I know that it is really hard when people just pisses you off. You cannot control yourself sometimes that you get to include other people that are also present during those times.

I would suggest these things: 1.Deep breathe 2.Count 1 2 3 4 5 6 and so on 3.Sing as loud as you can This works for me... I hope it helps!

well... if i were you always THINK first before you speak or do something against to those people around you. that's how you will control your temper, believe me it really works.

wow,am so excited to see too many good ways to relax myself.thank u for ur questionns and thank u all for ur advices.when am getting angry ,i often tell myself that its useless and meaningless.and then i will go to play basketball.when am tired of the game .i have forgotten the bad things and get out of any angero(n_n)o...

when you're really really angry, walk out then close your eyes. Then count to ten.Ü You can repeat this if it doesn't work by ten.Ü

I am not short tempered person.I m cool guy with lots of happiness carrying with me.I get short tempered very rarely .i get short temper when people do these things like coming late.telling lies and making fun of others.That is the reasn why i get short temper.Biy most of the people says that people who get short temper are nto normal.But some say there aree bery soft from there heart.

Conscious control. Constant reminder. These 2 are the basics of changing a bad habit and it will work controlling your temper. If you feel that you are unable to control your temper by yourself consciously and still often get mad with people, ask your friends or relatives to help. Relate the problem to them and ask them to pardon and help with your temper control. This is more difficult than kicking a habit as it could be hereditary or something you are born with, much to do with subconscious emotions. Keeping calm is the key. You could also try spiritual methods to control your emotions/temper.

I cant control my temper either what i do sometimes is hit things or shout it out but in the past when things werent getting oh so great bcuz of my temper., i let myself think that if i lose my temper i'll lose my friends and i dont want that

Hello...I am going to play the devils advocate here, so please bare with me. My questions are not meant to offend you just maybe clear a few things up for you! How old are you? Age tends to play a big part in how ones ability to control their reactions. Have you ever thought of why you get angry or what triggers it? When we can identify with this answer..it helps us to tear down our physical reaction to certain triggers. Do you get angry when others seem to be less intelligent than you? In this situation ones thoughts can easily frustrate you and triggers off anger. Did you grow up in an environment with anger? Your anger can be a learned habit. Have you ever done any anger management courses? There is so much to understand why a person gets angry before an actual remedy or the right strategy can be found. Labeling yourself 'short tempered' is just that, a label. It does not correct your ability to deal with life. Some people have even fallen into a very bad habit of using that label as an excuse for their negative reactions. Bottom line it is not a positive quality of life. All of the responses you received were excellent and were what worked for those people. They may even work for you if you can first simplify and identify why and what triggers your anger in the first place. All in all, I recommend to learn breathing techniques, they tend to be what works for most people with anger issues. Second to that...removing yourself for a few minutes to derail your thoughts is also highly recommended. I look forward to your thoughts!

Do not too worry! my dear ~~Maybe we can't control our temper,however,nobody can control it when we meet something unaccepted! So,when i tempered for something ,i would call my friends and tell them what happend! Let them tell me how to dell with it!ha~~

I know that it is very difficult to control temper especially when you are short tempered. I have seen very short tempered peoople including pastors. They advise people not to be short tempered, but they themselves are short tempered. Please listen to good and soft going music when you are angry and decide not to talk for sometime. Read stories or watch TV for sometime. Please don't respond in anger.

there is not easy to change your temper.this spend a long time to change it.when you are angry at something at that moment,so you should shut up and keep silence,dont say anything,this can make quite for each other,and it can deal with the conflit.if you don't hope to let thing become serious,the better way you select to concede,this can help you to control your temper.what did you think?

Just remember that it takes more facial muscle to put out a frown than to smile. So smile all you can and try not to frown. Smiling can make a person cheery hence making you less temperamental. Also remember, nobody likes a high tempered person, so no matter what, always count to ten before you burst out lashing at someone. You might regret your action and consequenses later on. So just chill and keep on smiling. Have a nice day.

Well im no expert but when im mad I.. 1. draw(draw the person or whatever in a mean way) on paper and throw it away 2. make a journal or diary and express why this person or ect. made you mad 3. Tell someone you know and trust what happened

I have the same issue as you. I get mad and frustrated about a lot of things. What I've learned to do is what a lot of people are telling you, walk away from the situation. I know it's hard, I am the last one to swallow my pride and back away from a situation, but really, it's much better to just get away for a few. If you don't have a punching bag, I would suggest getting one and beating on it when your mad, this works wonders!

very easy Dark man i go play xbox lol and also if i cant i go painballing or i go shoot 3 rounds of 9mm into a plank that helps 2 lol i am very easylied angered so i just give them a dirty look and go play xbox or blog _ on facebook or Mylot lol . But in all seriousness try doing something you like to do and do it . FOr example more mad i am more good i am at xbox or w/e . try it use ur anger usefully _