I love him but
By pbrockington
@pbrockington (500)
United States
July 15, 2009 5:26pm CST
I love him but... maybe i do what him to be stronge like other i have dated... maybe i get upset because he is not like them when it come to money and business.
hey there to you love your guy but have a but?
what is your I lovwe him but...
6 responses
@khayshenz (1384)
• United States
20 Jul 09
I love him but....nothing.
All the things that I can think of, the things that I find "bothersome" about him, are part of who he is. And I don't wanna change ANYTHING about him. NOTHING at all. It gets annoying when he leaves his clothes everywhere, or when he's slob-ish at times - but I've talked to him about it. I don't expect an overnight change, but he's trying. I can see that he is. I appreciate that he is!
I think that when it comes to commitment and what-not, we all have lists of things that we can't live with. And if this attitude regarding "business and money" is one of those things that you can't live with - then, I honestly think it's time to call it quits. Otherwise, you're just prolonging the inevitable.
And then there are things that we are willing to accept as a part of that person's flaw (i.e. my bf's mess). I know he's not perfect. I accept that he's not perfect. But is he perfect for me? YEP!
Your man is not perfect. I hope you accept that he's not perfect. HOWEVER, IS HE PERFECT FOR YOU?
Good luck!
@khayshenz (1384)
• United States
21 Jul 09
We all have to vent - and I've vented about him or to him about those little things that bother me.
Thanks for sharing and venting to us.
@pbrockington (500)
• United States
20 Jul 09
i understand what you mean but some people need to vent. you love him but nothing mean you love he enough to overlook those things... that fair. thanks for your comment
@mrakobesie (1246)
• United States
16 Jul 09
very good topic, i don't think i have buts when it comes to my boyfriend... he is very strange, but then so am i lol. we are a perfect match... I know a lot of girls would've hated many things about him, but i actually for some strange reason love them... he has ADD, so sometimes he gets too distracted and spends too much time on doing anything other then what he actually has to do. I think it's his only weak spot.
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@pbrockington (500)
• United States
20 Jul 09
well I am glad you and your guy have a bond like no other. keep loving even when its hard.
@pixelartgirl (20)
• United States
15 Jul 09
A very interesting topic and one that I've thought of asking once. Well, mine I love him BUT I'm not in love with him like I used to be. Before he was a great guy, kind, loving, sweet....now he's still kind and loving but he's also very selfish, greedy, bossy and has a HUGE problem with his attitude. He is always negative about everything, his job, the house, the things I say or do....it's not easy for me.
Had I known then what I do now, I would probably have never married him. We both agreed that we got married to soon, and I even told him that I wished I had never gotten married. It's not easy to tell someone that. He still tries to be nice but for him it's money that he loves more. I give him what I can and he gives LESS back...all my hopes and dreams are delayed because of that and other things...thank God we don't have kids.
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@pbrockington (500)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Wow... I read you comment twice. I was there. I dated this guy for seven almost eight years. we were great then money worries turned him in to a monster. We did end but we are still friend and we have learned that we were so busy seeing things from our point of view until we could not see past that. if you want to really keep a life with this man then try and see what he sees. dose he feel like life is on hold too? dose he know that other then being disappointed and wishing you never got married that you love him and you are frustrated more then anything?
I mean you all sound like you are at a real hard part... see in a relationship you have to love each other and act in that love even when you dont want too. for most of us one we are frustrated and feel that you are not getting anything you need you are ready to say to hell with it.
I feel where you are. In my current relationship we are trying to work past the bad to get to a new good. start by seeing his view point and asking yourself do you have the streanth needed to be stronge for you both to get through this hard time.
Pixelartgirl, you have my attetnion if you need a real friend to talk or you need to vent ever just send me a message i will respond. I love realtionship of all kinds and i think its important that if we can keep the one we love then let keep them but only you know what you can handle.
@pbrockington (500)
• United States
20 Jul 09
ok if he is in search of ways to earn money that means he is stressing over money. so try helping him find ways of earning money. no its not what you want to do but its a way for you to take interest in what he is focusing on. you never know it may open a new door way for your relationship.
@fieraviolet (3)
• Canada
26 Jul 09
I love him but...nothing
no he isn't perfect, yes sometimes I wish he would take more of an interest in working out, but that is only because I like to work out and wish we could do it together sometimes because I hate working out alone. And we all wish that guys would take money more seriously of all the relationships I've been exposed to the majority of them you can easily see that the man is the impulsive spender.
@MJAL08 (275)
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12 Nov 09
you don't love him. When you love a person, there is no but's or because. It's simply love. If you really do have feelings for him, either way you'd be willing to try?
Love is uncertain, you don't know what's gonna happen. But it's love either way you'll gamble.
