My female friend ask me this type of question and I don't know what to answer!

Yes, she can send a letter like this: Dear, thanks for the wonderful time I have spent with you so far. I can never forget those days in my life.Unfortunately you don't have the interest to spend time with me as before. I can understand that you seem to looking for a change. Though I am blindly in love with you, I can understand the changes in you. I don't believe in forcing some one for love. It has to come spontaneously and abundantly.So I have decided not to disturb you any more. You are free now to enjoy your life as you like. It is not going to be easy for me to move away from you. I do believe I deserve true love from my man. I do believe in God. I leave my life to God now and I would go in the path he would guide me in future. Life does not end with one relationship, is it not? Best of luck for your new life. Best

well if the guy dont want to talk to her and she cant force herself to do that talking personally, i think the letter would be okay. i had done that with a lose guy friend of mine, but the problem is not between us but between him and his gf who asked me for an advice. im really having a hard time talking face to face with serious problems like that, so i wrote him a letter and gave it to him. it worked fine though.

dear friend it is better to meet him and talk to him why because if you are going to him and talking to a while there is a chance for understanding the reason but if you are going to send mail to him he may not reply to you

h jlamela, if i were your friend i will meet him up personally rather than writing a letter. it' not formal you know.. it's better to see the facial expressions, you know what i mean right..?? it's just a small problem and that's the best solution.. best regards, janebeth.

In my opinion she must go on with what she thinks.

hi jlamela ,, what you have said is good enough because to some extent letters do the jobs rather than the talks,,,we can express well in a letter where as when we are talkin to our closed ones,,we tend to forget what we wanted to ask,,so tell her to write a perfect letter this will surely help her

Has your friend tried to arrange a meeting with her guy friend? I think talking face to face would be the best solution. If he won't meet her in person, I would suggest that she talk to him on the phone. If she can't do either of those two things, I would say it would be okay to write him.

I have always prefered to talk face to face with someone but if she doesnt feel comfortable doing that then writing a letter is fine. I have written letters to my husband before when we have had a fight because I felt like I could tell him exactly how I felt. I would put the letter somewhere that he would find it and then once he read it he would come talk to me about the problem at hand. Sometimes its easier to write your feelings down in a letter then having to look them in the eyes. I would have done the same thing and I hope your friend can find out what is wrong.

I believe you gave your friend good advise. If i was her i would like to know the answer too. The guy however may not be man enough to tell the truth. She may have to realize that.

I have found two things that work very well for me in circumstances like that. First off it seems that the man's interests have changed for some reason and that can't be good news for your friend. I am never the bearer of bad news. Second, I always to tell people to be direct and sincere. All these game playing roles get you nowhere but misunderstood. Always be open, honest, and direct and things will get worked out for the best quicker.

I am thinking she should move on. Clearly if simply having an argument is going to ruin their relationship, then they really didn't have a relationship to begin with. If they can't handle a disagreement now as friends, they never will as a married couple. Further, desperate is very bad. When women get desperate, they make very big mistakes, and end up very hurt. You need to help her move past this. Let her know that she can survive without him, even if it's painful for a short time. I'm thinking there is more to this story, but I'll save my theories. Good luck.

If that is a serious matter you have to tell the truth to your friend. So that later you will not be regret of it . She has the right to know everything because that is her close guy. Say it properly in a smooth way and so that she will not worries that can make her life unhealthy. If you have an idea about the guy its better to tell might be can help if she knows it.

I think that is fine. But why can't she directly talk to him? Would it not be easier to communicate directly(face to face) and deal with the issue at hand, rather than sending him a letter? Well, at least if I were in her place I would choose to confront him directly. When talking face to face the body language can give hints , letters and text messages can't!

That's a great suggestion actually. Better be hurt than keep being blind on things... God bless you and your friend!

As a therapist, I tend to advise clients that the best way forward in any relationship is communication. The more truth that exists between a couple, the stronger that relationship can become. I would have advised your friend to contact the man in question. I think it would be better to speak to him directly and ask him outright is he wants to stay in the relationship or quit it. If she knows, she can move on. Letters can be OK, but people can ignore them too easily. A person can't ignore a direct question face to face and if they evade the issue, it probably won't be a good relationship anyway. - Derek

It was not wrong of you to advisory her to write a letter explaining her feelings to this guy.. That is very good.. At least she can say her piece to this person.. But she needs to realize that there is a chance that this person may not even read the letter or will not respond back... I am not sure what type of relationship your friend has with this guy but there is a possibility that nothing is going to change..Good luck to your friend!

it's better if your friend talk to her friend personally. it will help her ease the burden of not knowing what the real problem is. but if she already did and he's still the same, just let him be. maybe it's better for her to give him space and time to think. sometimes guys are like that. they don't want discussions or confrontations. they'll just keep quiet for some time and if they're back to their senses and misses you, they'll be knocking on your door before you know it.

I think that your suggestion is correct.She should talk to him. If she could do it with a letter then it is okay. But more effective would be direct talking.

helo meme this not right person for your. and he is very use less person please avoid and keep of this man. thanku

a letter will do, you are able to express all the things you want to tell the receiver of the letter..But, for me, the best thing she could do is to have a talk with him..she should approach him, for sure he wouldnt be that rude to ignore her..just a simple talk, thats the best thing for me, all your emotions will flow within you if you are able to tell that person straight from his/her face every question you want to ask him/her..