HELP! my MIL wants me to be fat!

I understand your dilemma. I used to be the same way with my MIL. She would bring food over and I would feel obligated to eat it, so it doesn't end up going to waste. Well, now I have an obligation to myself. I'll allow myself one cookie or doughnut and stop at that without taking anymore for myself and denying her offer to keep any! If you want to be healthier and lose weight, you need to make this obligation to yourself as well. First, you could try talking to your MIL. If she is going to continue to fix your lunch, she needs to understand that you're not up for eating that much food anymore. If she doesn't listen and you don't have time or for whatever reason can't fix your own lunch, then you can take extra dishware and eat half of the meal yourself, and offer the rest to someone else. Good luck, I hope she listens and understands your concerns.

HOw nice that your MIL prepares your food for you. Maybe you should take the lunch to work and then eat only 1/2 of it. Save the other half for the next day. Tell your MIL that it was so good, but you were full so saved it for the next day.

LOL! Well... to me it's not just diet but also exercise. If you're able to work out regularly, the food won't be as much of a problem. I still would limit some of it - if I wasn't hungry. There is never a reason to continue eating if you're full, unless YOU want to. I grew up in the generation of the 'clean your plate club, there are starving kids in Africa'. Well, you know what? Just because I eat something I don't need so it doesn't go to waste doesn't HELP starving kids in Africa. I am LUCKY that I never became overweight or obese as a result. I don't expect my daughter to eat huge amounts of food, not if she isn't truly hungry. I don't want it wasted of course but what we do is take a little and if you want more it is always there. If I were you, I would explain to her that it is up to ME what and how much I decide to eat. It is not meant as an insult or that I don't like her cooking, it is my healthy choice to decide what and how much I need to consume. If she has a problem, then it's her issue, not mine. Prevention is much easier than trying to lose 20 lbs after the fact, and losing weight/shaping up after pregnancy is hard enough anyway. Maybe try to phrase it in a way that puts it more from a health perspective than being concerned about being fat. People seem to find it easier to accept if you use a health reason (blood pressure, cholesterol, metabolism) for a diet rather than claiming it's only about weight loss. Also, don't forget, this is YOUR body. How you choose to take care of it is up to you. Don't let her push you around.

This is a normal situation of most of the Indian families. All wives like to cook for their husbands especially variety of things without thinking of his figure. You can directly tell your wife that you are on diet and give her some plans to cook food which has a little fat. I hope you can make her understand that. Please don't be upset with your wife. Cooking lots of food for her husband is a method that a wife shows her love to the husband. Also, compelling him to eat a lot is another way of showing love. So, please don't get irritated with that. Being a wife, I also do the same thing to my husband.

Its just your mother in law's love, you are so lucky. Almost the same thing haapened with me, but not MIL, but my mom.I delivered my kid there, a then she used to feed me so so much, i gained weight a lot , not during pregnancy , but mostly after delivery.. If i say her something, she would say, if you don't eat properly , how will you take care of the baby , you don't like the food??.,and on and on and on. . . . . I think you need to explain her slowly, that if you keep fit and slim, you can remain healthy for a long long time... and slowly reduce your food intake..

It seems that your MIL loves you! It's great to have good relationship with your MIL. But you may suffer from getting fat! Can you share your food with your colleagues or your hubby?

Well its good that you are bringing lunch to work, but you are a big girl - maybe you should start making your own? And not wanting to waste food isnt a very good excuse for eating 2 full containers. You will need to sit down and explain to her what you are trying to do, and how you will start making your own lunches from now on so you are in control of what you eat.

Well, I would say that if you absolutely need to lose weight, you are going to have to take control of your own situation. I don't think your MIL "wants" you to be fat. In fact, I'm sure she thinks you look perfect the way you are :) However, you are an adult. You have children and you hold down a job. I would think you could take charge of preparing your own lunch for work, no? Perhaps you could tell your MIL that you will prepare your own lunch so she has less work to do (or something like that). Make it seem that you are doing her a favor, if you are worried about her feeling insulted. If it's impossible for you to do this and she has to prepare your meals, then I would say to invite a coworker to share your meals. Just make sure you have dishes or containers or something at your workplace and divide the food. Make two portions from what your MIL packs for you and have a nice lunch with a friend, while consuming only the amount of food you feel you need for yourself.

As a father of one male child, i will decide to have only one baby whether it may be male or female. This is my personal feeling.