Elder care
By towfay1
@towfay1 (43)
July 16, 2009 2:52pm CST
I have been taking care of my grandmother and I have noticed that at times the things she does make me want to scream. I know that as some people get older they do say and think things that are not (insert what ever you want here). There are times when she knows that what she does and tries to do is not right and this upsets her. I have lately been trying to think of ways to help us both. I can truly think of nothing to say when she gets upset and says she is going crazy and she has had it with anyone saying its her age (that is what she pays her doctor to tell her and he tells her this all the time). I need some sage advice and a cool way to tell her that she is not going to go through this alone. I also want to advise all of us that take care of our elders that to slowly lose everything you are is more than just mega scary it is terrifying.
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@Wizzywig (7847)
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16 Jul 09
I have not yet had to deal with a relative who behaves this way but I have worked with people who suffer as your grandmother is suffering. They are deeply upset when they realise that they have acted out of character and perhaps been rude, aggresive or hurtful. I would think that keeping her mind active and reassuring her of your love might help her to hold onto her self-esteem. Making the most of the periods of time that she is her usual self to involve her in activities she enjoys, ask her advice and make her realise that she has a valuable part to play both in your life and in the world.
I hope that you are sharing this care as you need some time for yourself to give you a break from what is a very stressful responsibility. You have my admiration and best wishes. Take care.
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