What Happens to Love After Marriage? Does Love Deplete With Marriage?

Love after marriage should be more mature as their love is being tested with many conditions in their commitment. If they can't survive, their love and maturity is not that good.

Nice topic you have Preethaanju. But please don't put God in the picture. God has nothing to do with it since He has given man a free will to choose. It was man who chooses whom they will love, they are not manipulated by God. So what you said about "cruel in uniting" is really absurd because in the first place, it was a decision decided by a man and a woman. Nobody is perfect. Just accept the plain truth that man and woman are created unique and they have different characteristics and beliefs and marriage will never be complete without any arguments and disagreements in life, sometimes this fights are just spices in life. I love my husband, although we do have petty quarrels but we settle the matter that same day and we don't prolong it because it will not nourish our relationship. The abuses you get to see and hear are created by people who unfortunately run their anger and rebellion to each other. These examples happen around the globe and it has nothing to do with race or nationality. I can say that it wasn't love in the first place because it resulted into violence. If they knew what true love is, then it won't come to this point of hurting, abuse and anything violent. If we love a person, we accept them including their flaws. If there is an argument, it has to be solved. But if there is bitterness, hatred, unforgiving heart and revenge, it will never be considered love. I will give you a verse I hold on in the Word of God about the definition of what love is and you can test it for yourself. In 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 it says " Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. This is my opinion and belief, i have nothing against anyone here and i respect your opinion too so please respect mine. I am in no way forcing my belief because we have given free will. Happy Mylotting.

In a good marriage love grows, if people marry for the wrong reasons or think they are going to change their mate after marriage this a trap. If they marry out of the mistaken belief they "Fall in Love" then there is a good chance the marriage may not last. People GROW in LOVE they do NOT FALL in love, What they do fall in is into LUST. Once the thrill the glow is gone then your left with the same person for the rest of your life and many start looking around. One of the biggest mistakes is people have failed to put God into their marriage. Marriage is a three way relationship God, husband and wife. If you keep God in the marriage it most likely will not fail. Love will grow and the marriage becomes stronger, and batter. The problem with the love is often it turns out to be just plain pure lust and then one or both mates after awhile want to move on to someone else. So there never was love in such a relationship, just lust and selfishness and self gratification.

That happens when they mistook lust for love.They are greatly attracted with the physical appearance and hurriedly declare their intentions to marry.After the lust has gone,that is sexually they have explored each other,they see nothing more interesting between them.So all the expectations they have for a ideal husband or wife starts emerging out and they fight for it.There is no love now because they didn't have it earlier too.Cheers!

Please don't blame God for man's infinite cruelty and stupidity. God reigns in heaven; Satan reigns on Earth. All the evil you see comes directly from Satan; it's up the man to fight against it. What happens to love after marriage? People take it too lightly, not believing it is a serious contract that requires enormous amounts of work on both sides to make it work. The horrible things you know of happening to women are by men who never loved them, but found them easy victims to toss aside or make a profit from. When seeking a permanent mate, never rush into a marriage. Take time to get to know the person. If that person abuses a woman or man in any way before marriage, please believe that after marriage, the victim will suffer tenfold. In my own marriage, after forty-one years, my husband and I still adore each other and the only place we want to be outside of work is in each other's company. He has suffered a major stroke and despite pleas from family and friends to put him in a home to be cared for, I refuse. When I said we would be together in sickness and in health, I meant it. He smiles so sweetly when I come into his room and always wants a kiss which I gladly give. We survived the bad as well as the good and our marriage is all the stronger for it.

It really depends on the people who are married. Most marriages fail but we also should know that there are marriages that do work. The basic foundations of a successful marriage is friendship and communication. Friendship because if married people are friends with each other, they enjoy spending time with each other thus lessen stressful situations and problems. Communication, because when a person grows old with another person, romance will in time fade that the only thing binding the two together is the stories and memories they share. I don't think love depletes with marriage but I do believe that love is strengthened by marriage because it is how strong the married couple against trials that measures up a successful marriage. :)

I think this is just a risk some one takes when they get married you can turn out bad or it can be wonderful and loving if we never risk any thing we never grow learn.

First off I can tell you that it most certainly is not god's fault. He wants the women and the man to love each other as he loves us. I will say this from pure experience. I am a pastoral counselor. I deal with this stuff all the time. I can tell you that 90% of the marriage failure has to do with the love they received as a kid from their parents. See whether we won't to or not our subconscious views love a different way then our intellect. If we grew up with parents who were controlling and abusive we will almost certainly end up with some one who is that way to us. See our subconscious looks at the abuse and the control and says "O she or he says they love me but they are abusing me or controlling me. So this must be love." So when we go to search for a mate and these issues aren't addressed you will either end up with some one worse then what you have at home or end up with about the same crap. This is because we desperately try to fix what we couldn't fix when we were younger. So we set ourselves up for "love" according to our subconscious standard. We might get a mix of the two definitions. I can also say this, When people date they don't show the person who they really are. And when they get into a marriage which feels like a trap to some people it ends up changing them to the hidden person you never new existed. So you can't really know a person till you sleep with them eat with them day in and day out. Some people see the signs and chose not to look and marry that person or they feel they can change that person once married to them. Well you know how that works out. The only way to avoid this is extensive counseling on the individual bases of each person and then couples therapy. I believe you should have this before the marriage. But that is just me.

love is about two people and marriage is about responsibility.the definition of love which is before marriage and after marriage is different.if the love lost hiself meaning after marriage,the love isn't the true love. they are not so mature to undertake the difficult which they have met with.if so, they knew well how to do is the best way to protect his/her family and not to hurt them.if these conditions have happened after marriage,i don't think this is so called 'love'. unless this is not my definition of love.

My view in this regard that marriedcouple after years of love still love or get divorce.The relationship will be maintain if they are having better understanding.Sometimes it happen that many love married couple get separated due to some issues.But now a day most of the people are reffering for love marraige .As it ia difficult to find and arrange marraige.

before entering into this next chapter of our life in marriage we have to pray to God for this,follow God's will,not ours.The sucess of marriage is base on the partners,on how they handly it,their will come a point in our lives that the sparks will vanish,but we have to maintain the love that we have for the person in order to work,sincerely pray to our God for enduring love.

Love can still be true before marriage but I believe that marriage can strengthen a relationship. Love is a complex thing and everyones is different. Me and my boyfriend have had ups and downs but after about 6 year of being on and off we are together and love each other to bits. I know its only young love ( 19 and 18) but after being with someone that long you know it means more than a fling or a crush.

well its hard to blv yeah but dats true ppl do get seperated after marrg its may b bcoz they get bored of each other or may b after marrg there thnking changes which doesnt work ..........but it reli hurts wen ur loved 1 leaves you for silly reason .....i just pray to god dat ppl dont get seperate for silly reason ..............sit n talk sort out the mattr instd of seperating

I think love is complicated in itself. You never know how the other feels and if you both have the same love for each other no matter what the person says. I don't neccesarily believe that there is one person for everyone. I just believe that certian people come in our lives so we can grow and lear and become the person that God needs us to be so we are ready for him in Heaven for whatever he has in store for us. I believe that life is about perfecting our own personal souls.

Not all marriages are like this at all. If two people really, really love each other then they will work together to keep their love strong and alive. Even in the cases that don't work out, most are not quite as disrespectful as the ones you describe above, I don't think.

There are a lot of differences between love before marriage and love after marriage. That is what I have heard. Before marriage, you are kind of blind of love and you won't see the diabilities and negative points of your partner. After marriage you face the reality and you will find it difficult to adjust with reality. In my case, I could not find much difference before marrige and afte marraige. I had love marriage. Our love has become strenthen and deep after marriage. I think I am lucky to feel like that.

Nice topic you have Preethaanju. But please don't put God in the picture. God has nothing to do with it since He has given man a free will to choose. It was man who chooses whom they will love, they are not manipulated by God. So what you said about "cruel in uniting" is really absurd because in the first place, it was a decision decided by a man and a woman. Nobody is perfect. Just accept the plain truth that man and woman are created unique and they have different characteristics and beliefs and marriage will never be complete without any arguments and disagreements in life, sometimes this fights are just spices in life. I love my husband, although we do have petty quarrels but we settle the matter that same day and we don't prolong it because it will not nourish our relationship. The abuses you get to see and hear are created by people who unfortunately run their anger and rebellion to each other. These examples happen around the globe and it has nothing to do with race or nationality. I can say that it wasn't love in the first place because it resulted into violence. If they knew what true love is, then it won't come to this point of hurting, abuse and anything violent. If we love a person, we accept them including their flaws. If there is an argument, it has to be solved. But if there is bitterness, hatred, unforgiving heart and revenge, it will never be considered love. I will give you a verse I hold on in the Word of God about the definition of what love is and you can test it for yourself. In 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 it says " Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. This is my opinion and belief, i have nothing against anyone here and i respect your opinion too so please respect mine. I am in no way forcing my belief because we have given free will. Happy Mylotting.

I just wanna say, True love never ends.

hmm. I won't really blame God for these things. I think its how the couple treat each other. Not every relationship has those kind of endings. I think they should have more time to spend in each other's arms and pray that their problems will be solved. It's just a matter of faith, understanding and the right kind of love.Ü

noo love never deplete marriage dnt knw why u asking ths question man????