Military vs love

I am an older woman, and I had a boyfriend who didn't want me to go into the Navy, but I went anyway - 3 months later he called me at my barracks (my mom gave him the number), and he tells me he got married!! I was 19 and so was he. I think he did it for spite, but that's his problem. I felt it was too young to marry, but oh well. I don't ever regret my decision to join the service, it was the best thing for me. I did 12 years, and later I met and married a guy that I was ready for. Do what your heart says to do.

Don't go. Love is more then war. You are making HUGE mistake.

I don't think this is a hard question. Look at it this way, you are making a career choice. If you decided to become a carpentar and she didn't like it, would she leave you? This is a career choice. If you are strong in your relationship, then she would be supporting you in your career. It's really that simple. No one, and I mean no one should say it's me or a career. When you break it down that way, kind of makes her look silly doesn't it.

military vs love... :) love it! well maybe your girlfriend worries that she'll loose you if you'll pursue your military career... i mean... give her the assurance that though your busy pursuing your dreams, your not going to just fall out of love to her... she should understand that you have dreams to pursue... however, the negative occurrence that may arrived is when you're into battles... i guess you should be very careful...

At the onset of your relationship, you already had a disagreement. I don't think you have the same wavelengths. If the military is your cup of team, go for it. You cannot postpone such plans. If you and your girl are meant for each other, love will find a way.

Here's my advice... as I was in your girlfriends position. When my boyfriend at the time told me he wanted to join the Marines... I was VERY upset. Not because I didn't want him to achieve greatness or follow his heart, but because I could only think about the absolute worse happening to him. My anger was stemming from love for him. But also selfishness. He left for boot camp a bit ago and I'm so glad he's followed through! I mean... he's scared and going through so many changes. And we're not together anymore (I want him to focus on his training. I don't want to be a distraction). We're both doing separate things and really becoming individuals. Which I think is vital for anyone who plans on being in a relationship. Just try to have a genuine talk with her. And if she gets upset... understand that she's not trying to hinder you or be possessive. She's probably just really afraid. I went though it. I got past it. She can too. Good luck :)