Would you call this a trust issue??
By mizzk1
@mizzk1 (56)
United States
July 17, 2009 8:56pm CST
Currently I am in NY but i live in SC, i am here for 2 wks. And my bf is suppose to go out to the club tonight cuz its his sister b-day party. He called me like 3 times and he is drunk. Before you know i was go ahead and have fun cuz he didn't want to go. But now the fact that he is drunk...I don't kno so much about. I trust him and all. And we had this discussion before about cheating and everything. And he asked me would i break up with him if he was drunk went to a party and messed around with a girl. And i said yea. N its like all of that is just running through my mind. Would you say that I didn't trust him???
3 responses
@khayshenz (1384)
• United States
20 Jul 09
No it's not a trust issue. In fact, at this stage in your relationship, I think it's normal that you think about those things. It's important to keep your guard up a little bit so you can protect yourself. However, don't let it get to you and don't trip about it too much. Think about the other times when he could have had cheated and didn't.
If you truly love this person and trust that he won't cheat, those things (about thinking on whether he'll cheat or not) will not JUST go away - you have to CHOOSE to think positively about any situation.
Good luck!
@pratyushtamhankar (859)
• India
18 Jul 09
You ain't "not trusting" him. You are just being cautious. If me and my girlfriend would have been at your place, I'd have loved it that she's thinking this way about me. It just shows how much you care for him and want him for yourself. This actually shows how much you love him.
Whenever you think of this, just remember not to think as if you are not trusting him, just think that you don't want to run any risks. As it is, if he does something at the club which you ain't gonna like then, both of you are gonna regret it. So you are just trying to avoid the regret...
All the best friend.
@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
18 Jul 09
It is hard to trust someone in that situation. I think that is why you don't trust. Who knows what could happen since he is drunk. I would hope that his sister would help keep him in line. It is good that you told him you would break up with him if he cheats on you. Stick to it if he does!
