how would u know u dont love ur husband anymore?

Philippines
July 18, 2009 7:50am CST
a friend asked me this question..i just told her what was the golden rule stated in the bible.however,how would u really determine if there is no use in saving the marriage?My mom always told me to think about the kids and their feelings first before doing anything that drastic.what are ur thoughts on this?
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
19 Jul 09
I really think that many people just walk out on a marriage too quickly without giving the marriage a chance. It is normal for things to get a bit dull and routine at times and that is when rather than seek excitement elsewhere or give up, you should try to do something to liven things up a bit....talk to your partner. One thing you don't want to do is to make a drastic change while upset or angry. Give it a lot of deep thought & talk to your husband about your feelings. Staying for the kids....well, that usually isn't the best reason for staying if you are truly unhappy. Kids deserve parents who really love each other and are happy together. They don't want to feel that you stayed together and gave up your happiness just for them.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
19 Jul 09
Most of the marriages live because of the children.We need to save marriages atleast for the sake of children. We should try our best to save a marriage. Of course it goes beyond tolerance you need to talk to the children and explain why you need a separation and get their approval and then break the relationship in a friendly manner.
@snowy22315 (180782)
• United States
19 Jul 09
I think that children would rather be with one single happy paent than miserable with parents that are not happy together. That being said if there are many arguments and no one is happy than the parents may as well divorce because that is the right thing to do in that situation.
• Malaysia
18 Jul 09
alec ... your mother was very right indeed .. if you see one of my older posts you can see a story of my mother who actually sacrificed her life for her children who are all successful now ... But that could have been such in older days when our mothers did not have confidence of "standing alone" they did not have work or earn leaving .. now maybe women are more independent and can live on their own and take good care of their children Now question of love, i believe love does not die easily ... you may not like certain things they do but how can you stop loving. it is same as our children Do we fall out of love with our children ??? cheers