Coping with separation anxiety of my daughter

What I am going to say may seem hard, but children are great at making us feel guilty, it would be of help to you to know how long she cries after you are gone. If she's typical it will not be long. Give it a couple of more months and you will likely find she is fine with the new arrangement. Separation is always hard at first on both of you.

What a shame she is like this,she will get used to it.Why don't you try bringing home a little treat at the end of the day.Make a great fuss of her and do something together as soon as you get back.Does she go to pre school maybe making a few friends of her own will do her good.For goodness sake don't give up work unless you really have to.She is missing her Dad as well ,now her mum goes out to work,just get her to realise you are coming back every evening with a small sweetie for her,she will look forward to you coming home and when you get paid take her out and say look what mummy can buy you now she is working.kids can be swayed by treats and if she knows she will get something nice out of it,she will soon cotton on and stop minding you going so much.When I worked at the pre school kids would scream the hall down ,until mummy drove off then they stopped then just got on with it and had a great time,then as mummy came to pick them up they would start crying again.They switch it on and off beleave me.you are probably worrying for nothing in the end.

I didn't have this issue with our kids since I was a stay at home mom but I do have a suggestion. Plan something special for both of you to do together when you get home from work. Maybe one evening take her to a McDonald's or special place she likes to eat. Maybe go for a ride in the car or just spend time with her as you give your undivided attention. I think she will eventually adjust to you leaving in the morning. Hope this helps maybe a little bit. Take care, carolbee

To begin, develop a separation routine, such as a kiss, a hug, and kind words, "I'll see you at the end of the day!" Use your separation routine every day to make the transition smoother for children. Don't stand there and apologize or give her more attention when she starts crying. Gather what you need and walk out. She'll be fine. It's just something new to her and she doesn't know how to handle it. The good news is that most of the time, the whole crying and wanting attention spell ends within minutes after the parents walk out the door. The parents drive away feeling upset and guilty. Meanwhile, the child has ended his performance and is off playing and having a great time. I've seen this. My DD goes to a babysitter's house. A kid that the sitter watches would scream like crazy when mom dropped him off. The mom would hum and haw around trying to comfort the boy, but it only made things worse. The babysitter finally told mom to get out. And sure enough, within 5 minutes of mom leaving, the kid had forgotten all about it and was playing with another child. My advice? Just let her cry when you drop her off. She'll be ok. She won't be damaged or die.