Would you change who you are to get along with your partner?

I think that's a very good question. Everyone always seems to be saying things like "If he doesn't love you as you are, then he's not worth it!" or something similar to that, but to be honest, I think it's a load of crap. Hehe. Everyone has to change in relationships. Everyone is constantly learning and changing as people, and it makes even more sense that they would have to do it when it's not just their own life anymore because they're sharing it with someone else. Change is a lot of times required to make a relationship work, but yes, there is the question of how much. Obviously if you have to change everything about you, then the person you're with doesn't love YOU anyway, but littler things like being a little neater when you move in together or something aren't too bad, right? The way I see it, if I can do something or change something about myself to make him happier, then fine. :]

I have changed somewhat over years. I used to have the tendency of pursuing perfect both at job and at home, on myself and on others. That is very bad and tend to hurt. Now, I am more accepting and prefer leisure to quick pace. I would not complain, rather live and let live a happy life.

If they don't get along with you for who you are, then you probably shouldn't be with them! There are plenty of people out there that will like you and get along with you for who you are. If you're with someone who has a personality that just doesn't mesh with yours, then it's not going to work. You can't really change who you are even if you try.

for me it depends,.i would want my partner to love me for what i really am but i still have to change my personal disadvantage specially my insecurities VOLUNTARILY., to became a better person to love and be loved.

I wouldn't change for him. If he really loves me in the first place,he would accept me for who am i and who am i not. But,If I know that something needs to be changed about me,then that's the time I think I would. Nobody's perfect. Each one of us has their own flaws.

i would say that you shouldn't change and they should love you as you are, but there are very few couples i know, if any that are both completely interested in what the other classes as a hobby or interest. for example, i spend a lot of time on my PC, yes call me a nerd if you will but it's what i like to do breaking them and fixing them as you do haha. however, my girlfriend is more of the shopping, cosmetics type. i'm not going to sit here and say that since we've been together i love shopping because it would be a lie. but i have taken an interest and am willing to go bargain hunting with her for the new season's outfits from her favorite designers and all that. in fact, i enjoy picking them out for her because it makes her happy and thats what im interested in. on the other hand, she sits and listens intently to me talking about new PC's and such that i want to buy or build. we share interests and make one another happy in the process. which in the end has only one outcome =) we want to be together a lot more. it makes for a happy relationship. if you cant learn to live with your partners hobbies or vice versa, then you should really be together.

i don't think i have to change myself just to please him. If he asks me to change myself, i think there's no longer love on it. If he really loves me he will accept me who i am and what i am and I'll do the same with him. It's really hard to change oneself. Loving yourself is being with yourself, changes are good if you do it because you want to do it for yourself and not because of pleasing others. How can you love anybody if you don't love yourself.