Is it hurtful to say to your loved ones that they are boring

yeah i said the same to my ex when i left him :| though i said it indirectly in the starting but its better then being with him knowing that he is not for you and ruining his life so it was better that i left him in time.

Well I would never tell my partner that she is boring even if she is......that's like being rude and can make things more worse for the person at the other end.....there are many ways of convincing the other person that he/she can make his.her life better......and that purely depends on how you pull it off, depending on your comfort level and understanding...... We tend to think at only one level and we feel that being rude or harsh with someone will make the other person realize his mistake, but trust me it does not go down well with everyone.......some may take it as a challenge and some may just leave all hopes and keep sulking...... Try other ways to make him into a social being and also to take up a sport maybe you can accompany him and introduce some sports person that you may know....... These are just my views and that's what I feel could be done.......

well not everyone is the same thank heavens and i think this is a case of the grass always looks greener, I know some women who would give anything to have their loved one home and what you call boring...if people work I think they need down time and I think they can be a bit boring, these days it is the social life where peoples loved ones meet new loved ones so I think you should maybe appreciate the fact that he is happy to be home...that is not boring that is being satisfied...

Ouch, I think that is really hurtful. For a guy to be told off that he is a boring person, it will definitely hurt their feelings. Guys are usually more easily hurted by words from their loved ones. I think instead of saying it to him, you should slowly brings him to sports and more outdoors activity and make it some sort of date instead of being very direct to him.

I have a skinny husband also and I honestly understand your situation on this. Though at times I also experience those thoughts like yours but I think for now my love is still stronger than the ones I feel that should be done. I also think that he must enjoy other activities but on another point, I also understand the reason he prefer to be on his own. I also remember the time that I let him enter my life. He was already what he is now - introvert person who prefers to be alone (NO SOCIAL LIFE). I think this is the same reason why I love him. I just pray that he remain in love with me and I to offer the same love. Happy Myloting. Thanks for this post.

If i were the husband, of course it really does hurt and probably would make me not so in the mood for days. you should have appreciated his effort to provide good life for you and family. many husbands are doing the thing that your telling your husband at but in time they became addicted and couldn't careless about their families. encourage him in different way like jogging together,play with kids,watch movies,sports? you talk about buying a rack and play tennis or badminton only for the both of you. or exercise machine. but telling him that he's boring could also demoralized him that could affect his so-called hardwork. seriously, it could really affect him..

I think you are right for some sport activities, but that speak to him by anger, just explain him step-by-step. I think it's the best solution for everone. If you want to chit chat with me you can drop by at game4pal.com my personal site and contact me though

Lol! Well from the way you say it, it does sound upsetting. Like you said, he's just working hard and people like him usually don't have the time for recreation. Who knows, it could be his way of recreation. Maybe he likes what he is doing and he's enjoying it. That's the point of recreation right? Since you mentioned him being skinny, it looks to me that you are concerned about his looks (..or health?). Please avoid telling him that he's boring especially if you're being serious about it. It kind of affect one's self esteem.

you know we really have the same situation,it hurts me if i say something like his boring,.but if it will help him like gettin into sports or making his life more exciting then i would rather say it..