How would you feel, what would you do?

Pregnancy loss is hard. I have had a few myself. I never had to actually push my unborn child out, so I can't even imagine that, but I do know people that have gone through this. During hard times like this they will talk when they are ready. In time. Some are willing to try again right after a pregnancy loss & some just can't deal with it. I think it's all up to that person. Me... I did try again & I did get lucky. Anyway with that said... I was shocked to hear that the doctor actually told your friend her pregnancy loss was due to stress? That is actually very unprofessional because it isn't proven that stress causes pregnancy loss. If anything he probably caused her to feel self blame & caused more stress in her life for choosing those words so carelessly. I read this somewhere & I agree... "When you start talking about stress as a factor in pregnancy loss, it's easy to look back and conclude that you had a miscarriage because you were too stressed out -- which can lead to self blame, especially in unexplained miscarriages. It's even easier for other people to do this and to imply that you would never have miscarried you had just remembered to "relax and let things happen." This, of course, leads to additional stress in worrying about how to stop worrying." But anyway, I guess thats another topic... I went off topic... sorry.

I have a 13 month old daughter...I could not imagine life without her. When I was pregnant one of my clients' daughters was also pregnant & was about a month behind her. At 5 months she lost the baby & the whole family was devasted. My client was so distraught over it that she wouldn't even come into the salon anymore for me to do her hair cuz it was just to hard for her to be around me knowing that my baby would be born around the same time her grandson would've been born. So for her it was really hard for her to talk about. I know if I had lost my daughter I don't know if I could've went on or even tried again to have another baby knowing that I could or would have to go through the same thing again. I also worked with a girl who lost a baby at 7 months. She too had to go through the labor process & had to push her out even though they knew before hand that she was stillborn. When she came back to work no one even knew what to say to her or how to act around her. But after about a week back with us she talked about it & now she isn't afraid to talk about it at all. But she does have a 5 year old daughter now so maybe that kind of helped her cope with it. If the first daughter had lived, she may not have the daughter she has now cuz they only wanted 2 children(she has an older son age 12). So sometimes God works in mysterious ways....we have often said that about our daughter....we wanted a baby so badly & we weren't having any luck at all. My MIL wanted us to have one also very badly....well she passed away & a few months later I was pregnant...so everything happens for a reason.... jamie, I will say a prayer for your friend at work that everything will be okay & that she will be able to have a healthy happy baby this time around....