To spank or not to spank???

I have tried spanking and to me it just doesn't work, I usually just take her favorite thing away, that gets her attention more.

as a teenager (im 15) i always didn't care about getting spanked.....it never affected me.....just giving me along lecture was enoguh...i never wanted to sit through another one

I think the problem is that a lot of children are not being disciplined in any way, shape, or form. This is because people are having children earlier in life these days and a lot of these births are teenage births. Because of this, the age difference between a parent and child is so close that they establish more of a friendship type relationship as opposed to a parent-child relationship. My father was 49 years old when I was born and my mother was 30 years old. There was enough of an age difference between us that I knew that they were my parents and not my friends and they did discipline by spanking and withholding things. Spanking has not been shunned. It has gone by the wayside in favor of things like "Timeout" where the misbehaving child is put in a chair or his room to think about his/her misdeed. Also, too many parents are reluctant to spank a child in public or in a neighborhood where the houses are so close together for fear that someone will get the Police or Social Services involved. We also have a lot of homes where both parents work and work long hours. This means that the raising of children has been basically left to the schools, after school activities, TV, and the Internet. Hilary Rodham Clinton once said "It takes a village to raise a child". Today, it seems that the "village" has established a hands off policy and gives the parents sole responsibility for raising the child. I think it is time for the village to step in again. I know that when I see children misbehaving in public and no one is doing anything about it I will call the children on it. I will not spank them but I will tell them that their behavior is not acceptable and if I know the parents I will call them and tell them what I witnessed.

A slap on the hand every now and then wont do any harm but hitting a child inorder to punish is wrong.

First one has to know the difference between a spanking and a beating. When my children were toddles...they got their fanny smacked with my hand once if they were naughty. It doesn't hurt them..but it sends the message that what the did wasn't acceptable behavior. If their little hands reached for the stove or something else dangerous..they got their hand slapped..they assoicated that with don't touch.When they got older..time out, toys takin away worked because they were old enough to understand why and as teenagers..it comes down to total loss of privilages. Not spanking you child doesn't mean they will grow up to be unruly....you have to consistent with rules and what is allowed...most unruky kids I see,,their parents just don't want to bother with them at all and give into the child to get them out of their hair..makes me wonder why the had them to begin with?

spanking is violence.. VIOLENCE BEGETS VIOLENCE.. THE ANSWER TO YOUR PROBLEM IS, LOVE, COMPASSION AND UNDERSTANDING.. then first, let us be wise to know what love is, to cure not only a brat, but you have the power to cure all the ills afflicting the human race.. arvind

I don't like to spank, I take away toys and treats. These then have to be earned back by doing as reuested an agreed number of times. I slapped my oldest son when he was 4 and biting me as I struggled to get him off and my younger son once when he nearly got on the road having run between legs to escape a shop while I was being served. Both times was a reaction based on fear and didn't really help the situation, only made me feel sick that I am capable of being such a monster.

I think it may depend on the child, as to what works in the discipline area. If you use time out or rewards, or taking things away this is fine if it works, some just need a little swat on the behind to let them know you mean business.

I grew up geting spanking from my parents. Lot of parents dont believe in spanking but I turn out fine. I spank my nephews and nieces. Their parents gave us permission to spank them if they do act up and do bad things. Spanking for doing something bad is not a child abuse at all. I think spanking a need to raise children. If spanking is a childn abuse, how are we going to have a disciplined children.

Not to spank... Why hurting your little one? Just talk to him/her.

I dont beleieve in spankingmy lil girl there are other things to do to reprimand the child..My parents spanked me when i was a kid and i soemtimes still cower.I dont want that for my lil one.. But i know soem people stil believe in it and thats fine..