I Try Real Hard

Hello maple_kisses, I am sad to hear that your friend is so mean, perhaps she is jealous that you remain happy, remain beautiful and have a cute little child after all those things happened. She cannot handle. Perhaps you still have everything that she is seeking. Do not have to try to hard to be a father, something you would never be able to replace, just play, be with your child. I think he would appreciate much more.

bless your heart, u have the hardest time, i'm sorry. I am here to tell u , u can raise nico by yourself, been there done that. it's sad but true a mother can do anything she has to raise her child & I KNOW U WILL DO THIS IN A FINE WAY & HE'LL TURN OUT TO BE JUST FINE. AS FOR THE "LADY" THAT WAS SUPPOSE TO BE YOUR FRIEND FORGET HER, SHE IS NOT YOUR FRIEND. Quit trying to please everyone & just look after yourself & nico & to hell w/everybody trying to make u feel bad. GIVE NICO A HUG FOR ME.

well now you know who she really is her sympathy was a lie she probably think you are lying when you said you are happy being single mom which is weird single parents are not uncommon status at all you're way better than your son's dad or did she think he is affectionate? LOL good riddance

My best friend was raised only by his mom. Granted his dad didn't abandoned them, he passed away in a car accident before he was born. His mother also didn't remarry or anything like that and she raised her son by herself. Let me tell you, he is one of the best men I know to this day. His mom did make sure he had some male role models. He still had his grandfather around so that helped a little but he was raised by mainly by his mother. For your ex-friend to say that, I would definitely say she needs a life. She needs to be there to support you and not criticize you. I would be bitter if I was you as well. Try to surround yourself with people that are only supportive of you raising your son by yourself and I wish you all the luck in the world :-)

Does she have kids? If not, maybe she's jealous of you. People often do things like that when they're jealous. She also sounds bored and unhappy in her life. You're better off not dealing with people like that. They will only try to make you as miserable as they are.

I do not want to upset you but there are things that a single parent just cannot compensate for. From either side if a child is missing a mother or a father which ever there is something missing. This of coarse doesn't mean you cannot raise a happy healthy son. Do not take what other people say to much to heart just love your son and do the best you can.

That person needs to get a life. I grew up with "A mommy, and a daddy, and a big sister" all in the same house, and it was h3ll!! No one got alone!!!! Now Mom and Dad are divorced and living separately with new spouses of their own, and we are all very happy. My sister lives in a town she likes better than our hometown, but we still see eachother. I saw her just last week, as a matter of fact, when she came to have coffee with me in Guelph!! children don't necessarily need a Mommy and a Daddy, they just need to be loved!!!

How could she done that to you?I think she is not your real true friend, she maybe pretend to be your friend, and happy to see you down, but fight her, people who have bad motives in thier heart will not going to sucess. If you're not trying hard, to be a dad and mum at the same time, who else will gonna do that to your baby? It's only you who going to stand as a father at the same time as a mother, He is your whole responsibility. Some of the woman they have husband, thier kids have a daddy, but it's only in the name not in deeds, some daddy doesn't care to help thier wives to look after the kids, don't bothered to play with thier kids. I knew someone, he don't like changing his baby's nappy lolz. Most of the time, it's his wife looking after the baby, even it's a shared responsibility. I know your a great mum and dad. Happy myloting.

I know you feel betrayed by a friend! That's hard to swallow. It's better if she said it to you even if it hurt than to go around another way to express her views. I was a dual-role mom. You just have to play both roles sometimes when you are raising children alone. People do not always understand that. I never tried to be "a dad" too, because I am a mom. But I was the best mom I could be. Since they had no father figure, I tightened up on things like discipline and helping them learn how to help me! I knew I couldn't be a dad... but I had to fill in those gaps. Then one year, my daughter after she was grown sent me a text for Father's Day. It said, "Happy Father's Day mom" ... I texted back and told her I wasn't a father... and she said, "it's for those times you had to be both." It made my day that she realized I carried a double load! It isn't like being married where you can bounce thoughts off someone else or have someone help you balance it all out. You just gotta do it all yourself! And that takes guts!

Thanks for your comment.