Have you ever gotten into a fist fight over a funeral?

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I got into a fist fight with my sister when our brother died recently. I was angry because he died before I could get there and the rest of my siblings all made it in time and I did not. I arrived already ticked off and hurting as he died when I was just leaving town to travel 300 miles one way and got the news. I cried off and on for nearly the four hour ride to get to the house. He died from cancer after only finding out he had it 12 days earlier. We were all in shock. My sister is two years younger than me and we are 45 and 47. I reacte violently when pushed to loosing my temper. My sister kept bad mouthing our late brother and telling outsiders secret family things about a drug addiction he had had nearly 20 years ago. All she did was get drunk nearly every night. We had words. She wanted him cremated, we all said no as it was not what our brother had wanted. She refused to go to the funeral home with us and so we planned the funeral with out her. She started a fight over not getting her way and her and I started arguing outside and when I went in the house she followed me inside. She started screaming at me and I lost it and slapped her across the face. I guess she said "You hit me!" and I said "Here, let me do it again" and back handed her. She started pulling my hair and raked her long fingernails down my face and broke my glasses. I remember grabbing her by her hair and saying "Oh you want to b@#@ fight do you!" and flinging her into our mother's sink and started hitting her with my fist while she kept scratching my face and pulling my hair. It took four people to pull me off her. She covered her bruises with makeup and did not tell her husband or daughter about the fight or about how much she was drinking. At the wake it was very uncomfortable being around each other. I still wanted to hit her again. The next day was the funeral and we were calmer but her family had found out about the fight and were not happy with her. I walked up to her and told her that I was sorry for hitting her which I was. I don't even remember my hand coming up until I slapped her the first time and then I just remember throwing her into the sink and punching her in the face until someone pulled me off. I have emailed her and even called her but she is not talking to me. How do you fix something like this?