my boyfriend is a rentboy.should i still keep our relationship anylonger / myLot

Comoros

July 20, 2009 6:03am CST

first of all .i am a girl . yesterday evening ,i found the true job of my boyfriend. he is a rentboy. i am very shock. i can't accept this truth. we are together for 3 moonths.he kept his privacy carefully. someone told me he had done this job for more than 4 years. when i got this news . i went to hospital for a HIV CHCEK. LUCKLY i'm all right. i;m healthy. i have not connect him for 4 days. in fact i want to find him to ask everything.he lied to me .everything he told me .about his job his family his love affair. when i saw his half-naked photo on the rentboy's website. i used to love him so much . but now i don't konw what's my feeling about him . for me ,he is my first love. it is very hard to forget. i want to persuade him to give up this job and find another. i don't want him become a man that everyone look down uopn. but he didn;t call me i sent him serval emails. do you know what is rent boy. anyway , it is not a good job. he is only 25.... what could i do , i want to help him although we are only friedns now

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4 responses

stbiii0

@stbiii0 (92)

• Philippines

20 Jul 09

Hello! I think you made the right decision to leave him and just be friends. What you will be going through gonna be tough and full of complications. Are you willing to let anybody touch your man, without having to get jealous all the time? There will also be times when you will wonder who is he with or what is he doing the moment. Paranoia is endless, you will think like crazy. So if you are willing to go through that, then go on. Getting into that job is always a choice, there so many options beside that job. The reason why they go that path is because of laziness, people want to get rich fast. OR sometimes they want to do that because they love doing it, aside from they are earning from what they love doing the most. And the worst thing he did to you was he lied to you, nobody wants a liar!

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yeyehua

@yeyehua (49)

• Comoros

20 Jul 09

" the reason why then go that path is because of laziness, people want to get rich fase......enjoy...they love doing that...." oh my god ............................ he lied to me .yes,i don't want a liar. he can cheat me this times .and he will do that next.......... -_-!!!!what kind of man i loved........ crazy!

ChrysanTflower

@ChrysanTflower (1607)

• Indonesia

20 Jul 09

OMG! what a complicated problem you have here now.. wait.. let me think about it.. I think there's 3 possibilities : 1. Your boyfriend is not a good man. He enjoys his job eventhough he knows there's many good jobs for him. he enjoy being a rentboy, so he prefer that low job than you. Maybe he is treated badly during his job and you (his girlfriend) treat him nice because you don't know he is a rentboy. 2. He didn't have any choice. This can be because someone push him to do that job for pay something or other situation. 3. He want to prove something by doing that job. Maybe he wants to know what will other react if know he is a rentboy or want to prove that he is an attractive boy. If number 1, stay away from him. better end your relationship. ask him politely why he do that job and give an alternative job that for him.. If number 3, then your ex boyriend has a identity crisis. try to know him deeper and understand him.. Have you ask his brother/sister/ his family why he do such a job? Anyway, if you think it's too complicated just left him. He's mature enough to know what's good or bad for himself. That's all just my suggestion.. I can't help you much..sorry.. I hope you will find the resolution to this problem.. pray to God.. and good luck in your love-life. GBU..

@yeyehua (49)

• Comoros

20 Jul 09

maybe his family is not very rich., i had never met his family. he came from a little village. there life is very difficult. but he had already done this job for 4 years. i think he already solved his economic issues and also it is hard to find a high salary job .ok everything will not clear until i find him and i think he will never want to see me , cause it is a shame. maybe i should leave him ,and this is the best choice for me . he won't his family know his job, he is big brother of his family thanks for your advices.