Went to pick my autistic son up from school. His teacher was almost in tears.

Maybe try contacting the health department or DHS? I do believe they can tell you the correct laws on how many teachers aids should be in one classroom that cares for children with disabilities. They require 1 main teacher & 2 aids in just a small classroom of 5 children were we live. Plus the max limit of kids in one room is 10 & they would have to get another aid or 2 if more students were to attend. But this is only required for the special needs classrooms. You would think this be a must all over, not just certain areas or certain schools. A classroom for the special needs children needs several aids for different areas. I swear the teachers & parents need to go on strike until they offer these teachers the help they need. I would find out the laws there. I'm curious myself how it works where your from. If the law is saying there is no need for another aid, then maybe you should fight that. Ralley up the parents girl. LOL. I'd back you up if I was in that area. good luck!

That's a good idea. Thanks for suggesting the dhs. I have a couple of fires to put out today and I may give that a try. I want those kids to have as good of an education as they can. The teacher is really great and she loves them. You can see that she loves them. I am glad I was lucky enough to get him to that teacher but I am doubting that school.

I don't think the lunch ladies are human. I wonder if they even bleed the way they act sometimes. I can't imagine treating any child like that, much less a handicapped child. It's funny you mention the teacher and the stress because that is exactly what I told the principal. I also let her know the kids are super sensitive to outside stimuli. For kids that won't look at you, they certainly know when something isn't right. I would love for them to have more help. I am sure if I asked they would tell me that is all the law requires. I offered to help. I get the feeling they aren't going to call me because my son would want to be with me.

I'm so glad to hear it is working out, so far anyway. That would have been really sweet, I wish he had mauled them all.... the cakes that is...lol Brightest Blessings, Mari

I appreciate your kind words. My understanding was the teacher didn't have any knowledge of this until yesterday. I know that the cafeteria workers have a hard job of pushing kids through especially when they don't want to choose what to eat. These kids CAN'T choose so it's a difference. They didn't let the teacher help. They wanted the kids to choose. Today, everything went much smoother. They let the teacher choose what the kids wouldn't choose. I want to smack who ever thought this up and didn't train the cafeteria help. These kids deserve much better than what happened to them yesterday in an environment where they are supposed to feel safe. They have no idea how mad they made me. I can guarantee you, I now have a name at that school. I was talking through my teeth when I told the receptionist I wanted to speak with the principal. What made it ironic was there were other people there and I was the one to let the principal know it was a matter I wanted to speak to her about in private. She thought it was about an issue with my daughter that happened in the cafeteria. LOL She forgot I had a son and she even heard his meltdown. She had lunch duty when he came through. Anyway, by the time I left the office everyone was making faces not sure what was up. The principal seems to be on the side of the children. Today it all worked out. They opened the lunchroom early so the kids could go through when there weren't other kids there. DUH! They also let the teacher help. I was told my son actually chose cake. I just laughed. What child wouldn't! He just loves the icing, so they actually had to grab him before he put his hands into all the cake pieces. LOL Serves them right!

I would have loved to see his little fingerprints all over the cakes. That would have gotten their attention. LOL

Exactly! That's what I told the principal. The cafeteria ladies are trained to make the kids choose their food and get through the line. They treat all the kids like that. I couldn't believe it. The special ed class now goes through the cafeteria when there is no other kids in there. They no longer have to choose their food if they aren't capable of choices. I was so disgusted with that school. We spent a short time in AL and my son had the experience of walking in line to pe, walking in line to music, walking in line to counselor, and walking in line to lunch. They even ate in the cafeteria and not the classroom. I told the principal if she wanted them to reach their potential by setting their standards higher, she should try these other activities as well. I don't know what the heck is wrong with the school district here. I really didn't expect AL to be so much further ahead then a state that has all different types of people.

I just told my boyfriend about this, he got pissed too. he worked with kids who had autism, he actually used to teach them martial arts and he was telling me just now how the kids were progressing. One of the kids he was training went from sitting and looking around then starting to shout and then just getting up and running to a kid who could sit still for 4 minutes and was actually able to kick and throw punches. they weren't the hardest punches for his age, but considering what he started with (he was just kind of flailing his hands instead of punching) it was a huge progress. So yeah, we basically ended up talking about how much kids could learn as long as you are giving them your time and are patient with them. they can't be rushed and they can't be pushed into doing things that they are not used to, like in the cafeteria. He also told me about kids who ended up going to regular classes and getting Bs, very touching stories. I truly hope your son will become one of these success stories, i'm sure he can.

and you doing a right thing sticking your nose there, who else would protect kids if not their own parents? parents know what is better for the child much more then schools do... if it wouldn't be for parents like you, schools would've been much worse, although they are not perfect now ether, but it wouldn't be even this if it wouldn't be for parents. in russia they say "kids are flowers of life" i think it's very true, they are beautiful, gentle and vulnerable. I hope your son can get better and will be able to have a great life. good luck.

I appreciate your kind words. I hope someday he will be able to. Unless he changes a lot in the next year he won't be able to go to kindergarten next year. As a parent that is a hard realization to make. You always have big hopes for your kids. I am trying to get him into therapy this year just so he might have a chance at going to kindergarten. I love kids. I always have. I used to pop into my daughter's kindergarten class just to make sure she was okay. We had such a hard time with her going to school because the kids were a lot rougher and louder than she was used to. We brought her back to Florida and she is so happy. Finishing her year out here, she didn't cry and say she didn't want to go to school. The teacher was soft spoken and easy going. It was perfect for her. I try to make sure that no child is hurt. I am usually sticking my nose where it doesn't belong as a concerned parent.

That's exactly what I said when I was told it was a training issue and the employees weren't ready for today. The lunch staff is from the school. I was so hot. If the school offers handicap classes they need to offer services to support the classes.

I got my return call and they said tomorrow everything would be different. I'm sure it will be different because if not news papers and television reporters are going to be called in. I didn't have to threaten lawyers after I said harassment and discrimination. I was told they weren't trained for today. I let him know if they offered special ed classes, they also had to offer lunch services for the handicapped. I am still mad. He told me they were meeting at the school tomorrow with the principal. I told him I appreciated the effort but the principal isn't with the children all day and I would like for the teacher to have input. She knows or at least has some knowledge of what the children like and are capable of.

I would have thought cafeteria staff would be trained better. They are in an elementary school for heavens sakes! Does that mean they do that to the other students. It's wrong even for regular kids to be treated like that.

This is just amazing to me. In the modern world you would think things like this would not exist; that intelligent people would have figured out a better way to address such things.

Sorry to hear that your son got it at such an older age. I feel that is even worse than getting it at a younger age because your son had a developed personality and then it was gone and he wasn't who he once was. I feel that it was extremely aggravating for the parents that had the lawsuit and the courts decided it wasn't the fault of the vaccines. Who is in whose pockets? The next day, as promised, the principal was there with the county representative. The kids went through the cafeteria before the other kids entered and the teacher had help carrying the trays. I was glad to hear that no one was forced to choose. I may still have to sneak in there one day.

I'm sorry but I've never heard if there being any such thing as becoming autistic at the age of 12. Are you sure your son wasn't already slightly on the autistic spectrum but unnoticed (I wasn't digagnosed as being HFA/ASD until I was 23!) and the hormonal pressures and changes of pubety/adolescence caused a severe regression? Or that he was brain damaged/poisened by the vacination that wasnn't autism - not that likely though because if the MMR vaccine/vacines containing Mercury somehow makes all people who have it done 'turn' Autistic at whatever age, they'd be a lot more people and actual scientific evidence of people going from 'normal' to autistic overnight.

Your son did not become autistic. Vaccines did not cause his autism. A child is born autistic. It is neurological and genetic. Supplements do not cure it. I feel sorry for the poor kid who has a parent of such incomprehensibly low intelligence.