falling in love too quickly
By OConnell87
@OConnell87 (1042)
July 20, 2009 1:39pm CST
a good friend of mine wears his heart on his string and has now been engaged twice in 3 years, he has recently broken up with the lastest girl because she cheated on him, i keep telling him that just because he starts dating a girl he doesn't have to be serious straight away, but he wont listen he always thinks each time shes the one. have you been in this situation
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4 responses
@happyness3 (394)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Yes, this used to be me! I have been married twice, and I am only 28. I won't make that mistake again any time soon. Some of us are just wired to be that way. I think mine is because my parents didn't want me to date when I was a teen. I was never taught about s e x education, and so when I started actually having relationships, I didn't know that they were supposed to take time. The most you can hope for is that he meets a girl who he really loves, but she believes in taking her time. Good luck!
@Improbability (140)
• United States
20 Jul 09
Yeah, my husband has a lot of issues still because he wasn't taught about s e x ed, as you say, and didn't even think of dating until college because of his environment as a kid being so repressed. That's not natural. If it wasn't for the fact that we worked slowly, patiently through it together, things would be a lot worse.
But I concur, the best thing would be for him to find a girl to temper him down. Doesn't sound like he wants that though.
@azzlansyah (45)
• Malaysia
21 Jul 09
You just have to support him. Surely oneday the perfect one will come to him. Its not a prob for a men to think every women that comes to his life is the one. Not all but some men are like.
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
I am just wondering if he thinks it is the one... how come he cheated on her last relationship. I really think if he's really serious on his relationship he should stick to it and stood by his word. If he can do this I really think that he can finally say that is the one for him.
@Improbability (140)
• United States
20 Jul 09
*Sigh* I have a cousin who wants to be in love so bad she routinely shoots herself in the foot every time an opportunity comes up. She likes the guy a lot, and they almost kissed, but now she can't invite him over to watch a movie because she's too nervous... etc. Same thing this guy is going through, it just manifests differently in him, probably because he's a guy. You just can't let how bad you want it effect you that way. I have known another guy that was similar.
He's probably driving the girls away with his approach. You have to take things naturally in a relationship. Don't rush things, don't feel a need to question every little thing, don't feel the need to put labels on everything. I wish the process was as smooth for others as it was for me- I so often see people tripping over their own feet. He'll probably find some girl that is also really anxious to get married, and it will probably end in disaster, because they were more concerned with the IDEA of "falling in love" and "getting married" than finding the right person.
