Spoiled Child

If she can not do as she's told, I would take her tv out of her room. Personally, I don't children should have their own tvs anyway, but that's another issue. So, I would take it away and once she's good give it back, but if she gets worse take more things away. A toy, a game, a stuffed animal. Not her favorite one, but not one she doesn't use (she won't notice it! lol). Then, once she behaves start giving it back little by little.

Hi! You can reverse the spoiling by meaning what you say, and doing it. Even if she cries, or throws a tantrum. You have to stick to what you say, and make sure you follow through. If you tell her that you are taking something away for misbehaving, or a tantrum, then take it away for the time you stated, and don't give it back. If more misbehaving happens, just follow through on the punishment that you have told her would happen for such. If you follow through and she sees that you are mom and you mean what you say she will start to understand and correct her behavior. Good luck to you.

I remember my son going through a phase like that but I did not give in. I would just let her scream it out. She is 3, tell her these are the rules. A glass of juice, into the bathroom then into bed. You read her a story of her choice. Leave a night light on. SHe can look at her books but must stay in her room. Put up a gate. Do not acknowledge the screaming. You may have to do this for a few days but be ready to stick by your rules if not she will be a monster. Good luck

You do what Super Nanny does. You put her to bed and every time she gets out of the bed you put her back. Firmly and with a minimum of fuss or talking. Explain to her in advance what the rules are and then stick to them. The first couple of nights will be h*ll but eventually she'll get the message. If you don't get her under control now, while she's little, you are really going to have a hard time with her when she is older.

You have a major job in front of you! If you can indeed reverse the way you are parenting, it will be good for you and her both! You have to mean what you say and really do it for her to believe you. Otherwise she knows you are coming back up the stairs if she screams or cries. I baby sit a little girl one summer. She was a screamer - because that's what worked- I was in the store and she wanted something and she said if I didn't do it she'd scream. I said, "Okay." Her brother informed me that she really would scream and she would scream loud. I said, "Okay." She did and I did not give in. Sure I was embarrassed... but she screamed til she got tired and then since it didn't work for her, she did't ever try it again that summer. Kids do what works, don't let them work. You are the parent.

Well stop doing your 'coaxing.' If you know what caused it it's pretty easy to undo by removing the source of her behavior. Stop giving into her cries if you know she's not hungry, thirsty, or in pain.

You first have to realize that a child crying isn't the end of the world. I hate it when I have to confront parents who absolutely spoil their kids and then pick up the pieces when the kids screw up. I am a juvenile intake officer so I deal with arresting kids all day long One of my biggest problems with my DD is that I sometimes don't get to spend enough time with her. I have to take call every other weekend, so 2 weeknds a month, I work 7 days a week. I hate not being able to spend as much time with her, but I know as she gets older, she'll understand. Problem is with some parents, the guilt of not spending time with their kids turns into massive spoiling. In order to make up for the lost time, the parents end up buying stuff to make the kids happy. The guilt of spending less time makes them splurge on children and eventually, they end up spoiling them. Parents need to understand that children need love and not material things. A friend of mine told me that I didn't need to buy things for my DD to show her I love her. My friend told me that I just needed to spend what little time I have with her in a constructive way, like playing or just being together. My DD is about 15 months, so she's not old enough to "hang out" per se, but I read to her and sing to her and play with her when I can. In order to stop spoiling your child, you first need to learn, how to say 'NO'. It is essential that your children know that they cannot get everything they wish for. The world is not perfect and they need to learn how to cope with disappointments as well. Your kids are going to cry and get upset, but you know what? That's life. If you constantly give in to your kids all the time, by the time they are old enough to understand the world doesn't owe them anything, it'll be a huge culture shock. Say no. Yes, they'll cry and get upset, but they'll be fine. A child needs to have boundaries set and the only way to set those boundaries is by NOT giving into your child's needs every time they ask.

Maybe I am going a bit off track here real quick but in my opinion that is the reason the kids in this generation are so out of control. Parents are wanting to befriend their children instead of discipline them. I am guilty of the same thing, I think it is harder to discipline our children with all the newer technology that s available to them. I remember as a kid I didn't have any of the stuff that the kids have now a days like a TV and phone in my room, cell phones, computer etc. If you are wanting her to listen to you, you need to make the changes now while she is still fairly young because if it is left go much longer you are going to be in big trouble. I have an eight year old that at times acts like she is also the parent and tries to boss her father and I around and we are always saying how we wish it would change. Our biggest problem is never following through and that sounds like that might be your problem as well...see she knows that if she whines and cries long enough you will give in to her therefore she continues to act the way she does. I am going to sound like a hypocrite here but you need to start telling her "NO" and meaning it..she is still going to love you and I honestly think that she will respect you more with a bit of strength. It will take a bit because she is in her habit already but if you start now I thin she is still young enough to change, you don't want her to grow into a teen like that trust me I have one of those too and it is not pretty :) You just need to not give in, be strong and let her know who is the adult.