Do u think people should marry someone their age, or someone much younger, older
By hiddenwing
@hiddenwing (3719)
China
July 21, 2009 6:00am CST
Something very funny happened yesterday! Is it normal that people mess around their age for marriage! Do u think people should marry someone their age, or someone much younger, older?
1
Kevin( my high school classmate and friend), Koala(me)
Kevin: I have a very gorgeous girlfriend right now.
Koala: Swell you! You wanna me get a load of her? Whatcha got?
Kevin: Here is the pic!
Koala: It seems there were two Indian women in it, a teenage girl, a middle-aged woman! Slow down, you jerk, keep your hands off the teenage girl! Shame on you, dude!
Kevin: It's not like that! She is my girlfriend's daughter!
Koala: What? Oh my! That's uh...well...hmmmm.....nice! No kidding! How old is she?
Kevin:38, she is great!
Koala: And you are?
Kevin: 24, are you judging on me?
Koala:Is it normal that a young boy marrys a single mom in America?
Kevin: It happens! Come on, you were my high school classmate and friend! I hope you are backing me up on this! Why are you chuckling?
Koala: Sure! If you are happy...I just sort of get excited to know that you are happy...
2
Just the afternoon...
Characters: A (a friend), B (another friend), C (me)
A: My older female cousin is gonna marry a 52 years old man!
B: How tragedic! How old is she?
A: 32, but she has been divorced since two years ago!
C: Oh my god!
B: Why not she just find someone in her own age?
A: Cause these divorced 30 years old men just covet the girls in their twenties!
B: If things really go that bad! She should at least resort to someone in their forties!
A: These 40 years old men still covet the girls in their twenties; so are the men in their fifties, sities, ...eighties...think about Yang Zhenning, the nobel prize winner!
B: But...
A: But some girls may say over my dead body, you fathersome guy! So, these men in fifties just have to take the second best.
C: Oh my god!
13 responses
@med889 (5941)
•
21 Jul 09
I beleive to marry someone one must feel love, affection, care and responsibility toward that person and no matter what the age is, infact is less important to the fact that the two person want to lead a life together which is wonderful now to be happy or not depends solely on themselves. Me and my partner we have a difference of 12 days as he is elder to me and I do not find that a problem though however I have friends who married women and men twice their age and they say that they are very happy because they think age is less important than the love they both share.
@gingerale (225)
• Philippines
21 Jul 09
For me age is not really a problem as long as there is acceptance, respect and understanding.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
21 Jul 09
Haha, your point makes so much sense! There is one thing. At some condition, I doubt someone can grow up old together with someone!
Take care!
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
22 Jul 09
It seems to be customary for people to marry a person within 2 or 3 years of their own age. However, I think it should depend on exactly what one wants out of the marriage. I know that this is a very difficult question. What one wants today is probably not the same as what they'll want 10 or 20 years from now. Who can foresee the future? When I married at age 20, the young men my age still acted like little boys. I married a man a few years older than I, but our birth dates still fell within a decade. Surely there should be no age related problems, and there were not for many years. We were too busy taking care of our family. Then, something unexpected happened. He began to age faster than I.
Your cousin needs to be prepared for the time when she reaches the age her husband to be is now. At that time, he will be 72, and very well may be an old man. However, at 52, she will still be relatively young. This may or may not be true. Who knows the future? We just need to be prepared.
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
22 Jul 09
Now a days it is very common that someone marry older than him or her. For me I want a guy older me but not that older. It is okay if the age differences between 6-8 years but not 20 or 30 yrs. I don't want that my husband is like my Father's age or my uncle. If you really love the person age gap is not a big issue and you going to fight your love against all odds.
@kikker69 (19)
• United States
22 Jul 09
well i married 5 yrs older so he still married to me for 5 yrs of the 10yrs we have dated before marring me. now try that on date 10 yrs then mary him or her ...
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
21 Jul 09
Hi hiddenwing! I know what you're saying, but it isn't always
like that! Some people do go with people their own age! It
just depends! I know that here in the USA it does SEEM like
alot of women end up with YOUNGER men, but it's not always
that way! I mean, you are supposed to be with whoever you
want to be with! There are some women who do end up with
older men?? I, myself have a younger man, by 11 years, but
it just turned out that way! I wasn't looking for a man at
all! I don't even know if we will stay together! We have
been together now for about 2 years now, but I don't know
what will happen because we definitely aren't getting married!
There are no rules when it comes to dating and ages! So people
can just be with who they want to be with as long as no one
gets hurt!
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
22 Jul 09
Your boyfriend is 11 years younger than you! It means you are actually very younger and attractive!
After all, most women live longer than men! So, if a woman is older, than they are fair!
Best wishes!
@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
22 Jul 09
wow, great sample you are showing here. I respect their choices, but I also agree with your point here. Older ladies are coveting on younger boy in this sample; and older men definitely wants to get their hands on younger girls. If I am 50 or some years old, I may still covet on their sexy, young girls on their early twenties. That might be human nature. How many of us actually loyal to one love only in their lifetime.
@hiddenwing (3719)
• China
22 Jul 09
I think men are much less safer than women!
It was but yesterday, someone asked me why the models who demonstrated the cars were always women! I said cause men would pay more attention to the cars by the way.
Oh the other hand, if the models are men, women wouldn't care about it so much. At least, they feel shy to do that. haha
@zareenalot (66)
• India
22 Jul 09
I think age is not a constraint in marriage.There is no rule that one should marry a person older than or younger than him or her.It is nothing but true understanding,love between the two.In these modern days i don't think that many people believe in these types of beliefs.Now a days all are educated and well grown up so thatv they think about their good.I too had no age restictions in my marriage.But it depends on ones thinking and their views.
@dreamr802 (985)
• United States
22 Jul 09
To me, age is only a number but I personally wouldn't date/marry someone that is more than 10 years older than me. Currently my boyfriend is about 6.5 years older than me. I don't think that 6.5 years is that big of a difference. One of my friends is dating someone that is 14 years older than her and they seem to be really good for one another...so I do think that age is just a number but in some cases it doesn't work out.
@just4you0 (421)
• India
22 Jul 09
Ha ha ha, it seems you are throwing joke but i know its a true incident. Well, its the individuals understand and age dont matters a lot. As for me, i cant marry a girl who is more than 2 years elder to me and same for younger one. But i am not against or laugh on the people who marry to a person much younger or elder to them. So good luck and happy mylotting as well! 
@funnystuff (14)
• India
22 Jul 09
no it does not matter you marry with some who is younger or elder than you. only thing is matter is co-operatation between two.only matter is love.
@phanendrav (73)
• India
22 Jul 09
hi,
People should get married.i think age difference must 4 years that is good but it should go long....
@starlight70 (316)
• Malaysia
22 Jul 09
It should not matter what the age is. Love is more than this, provided that we are talking about legal age. I have known people who are worried of the age difference, and some others who jeer at the thought of such relationship, until they fall for someone who is of a different age.
And then again, I have known some who reject those of the same age.
I thought Megan Fox said something about wanting to date someone in his 30's. She's in her 20's. But yet, she admitted she has the hot for Zac Efron.
@meatballseven (10)
• United States
22 Jul 09
I personally think that it dosen't really matter. I've learned that sometimes the most unlikely couples will fall in love. Age is only the number of years you have existed and to me, that shouldn't play into who you should and shouldn't marry. The only exception being if both or either of the people are under 18. After 20 I think it kind of evens out.
@wigima5 (904)
• United States
22 Jul 09
I think that for a marriage, the two SHOULD be around the same age. It's okay if it's a few years difference, most couples have that! But 10-15 years should be the limit. It's creepy when you think some girl's out with her dad and then it turns out they're going out!!! yuck!
I watch this one soap show and in it there's a guy that's pretty old, like 50's or so, and his daughter's like 20 something. This other girl that his daughter knows started GOING OUT with him! I feel bad for her especially cause it's like her father dating a person her age.
I don't know about you guys but most of the time when I see those realllyyy old men like in their 60's who drive a convertible and then I see this 20 year old girl draping herself all over him in an expensive looking sleazy dress it just makes me think she's a gold-digger.
Not only that, but there are many problems in dating a guy or girl much older or younger than you. there is a definnite time gap there and different age groups tend to want different things. Young people are normally very active, they like to go out into the world, do active things outdoors, go clubbing, and even their conversation, interests and what music they like is VERY different from that of an older person. even 20 years older is 2 whole decades of difference. Their childhood was different, so different ideas and viewpoints are different. Plus, if you are married to a man say 20 or plus years older, he'll be in his 60's possibly going into a retirement home while you're still only in ur 40's and active.
I'm not saying that different ages shouldn't be together just because of their age if love finds them, but most of the time same age groups just work out better.
