The return of the Ex...

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About more than a month ago, I posted about my break up with my boyfriend after being a couple for more than four years. We stopped talking for several days and went on with our lives apart. I was so sad that I posted my feelings here in mylot and got more than a handful of well wishes from people who offered support and advice. I cannot tell you how helpful these people were to my recovery. It has been more than a month since we broke up and I am happy that I have moved on better and faster than I thought I would. My ex just celebrated his birthday less than two weeks ago. When we were still together, whenever there were special occasions, I usually call him at the stroke of midnight to greet him whether this is an anniversary a birthday or whatever, and he did the same for me too. This time around, I was awake but was oblivious to the fact that it was his birthday(I was chatting up a storm with a couple of friends in facebook!). At around 12:30, he called me up to ask how I was, I told him I was fine and suddenly remembered that it was his birthday so I greeted him and kept the call short telling him I had to go to work early the following day. He got the hint and said good night. A week after that, he texted me to ask how I was again. I have to be clear on one thing, although he cheated on me which caused our break up, we agreed to be friends and I have no hatred towards him so I texted him back to say that I was fine. He then said that he missed me terribly and asked me to lunch that weekend. I told him I couldn't come with him because I had to meet up with someone on that day. He sked who the "lucky guy" (those were his exact words!) was and I said I was going to meet up with a college friend who had asked me out. I found that talking to him now was a lot easier and that I no longer feel sad about what happened to us. But I still told him I couldn't go out with him. I still feel a little sad that all of our efforts went to waste but I know I wouldn't want to go back to a relationship with all those lies and cheating. I just got a little confused why he would still tell me he misses me terrible and ask me out after what happened! Is it normal for guys to do that?