Do you hate leaving your Comfort Zone?
By Pose123
@Pose123 (21635)
Canada
July 22, 2009 2:07pm CST
Some people love change and are excited about moving to a new city or country, while others want to stay where they are comfortable.Such people often find it difficult to make new friends, and are often uncomfortable in a new work environment. Anything new is upsetting to some people, while others are drawn to it as if it were a magnet. When I was young I looked forward to making new friends and finding new interest, today, I'm more inclined to want to be in my comfort zone. How about you?
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17 responses
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
31 Jul 09
I did tried to leave my comfort zone a bit. it was good. but since am unemployed am unable to leave my comfort zone. if I ever had a job,house or money i would surely start something a new and completely leave the old house. i don't care if they're upset this is my life and not theirs.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
27 Jul 09
Hi subha, You are not alone in this, many people hate to leave their comfort zone. Unfortunately some are in situations that are not good at all, but they are afraid to try to get out of it because it is what they know and they are more scared of leaving it. Thank you my friend for your comment. Blessings.
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@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
24 Jul 09
I have always found it more comfortable, and preferable, to stay in my comfort zone as you say. The problem is that life has a way of not allowing it. Just when you are all settled in and doing well at something and it seems like is good something happens and you are forced out of it.
This could be a job change or it could be a spouse change. Both can be traumatic, or at the very least difficult.
I really can't say that is my preference but it is how I feel the most comfortable. I would indeed love to not be satisfied with the status quo and always on the move. Life can be more stressful that way but also quite fun. But it is not my preference.
You are very right about the two personality types and I suspect what results from it but we all must march to our own tune to be happy.
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@bdugas (3578)
• United States
24 Jul 09
I look at a move as a change, a new start. I find it exciting to get to decorate and buy new things. Moving to a new city, at finding those nice little shops. I have a friend, we both lived in Louisiana until Katrina hit us, she had lived in the same house for 45 years. 45 years, can you imagine, she didn't want to move, to redecorate or move any thing, she was comfortable. It drove her hubby nuts, he said it was so dull. I even went over one day when she called me to ask her to help her move furniture, we put it all in different spots and it looked so nice. After AI got home several hours later I called ask what she was doing and was told she was putting it back where it was before we moved it.When her home was washed away, she didn't know what to do, as I looked through search one evening I found her the most beautiful place and they went and looked at it and they loved it and bought it, but to her it was not home, it took her a year to finally feel comfortable there. My comfort zone is when I get the furniture moved to where I like it, then I am comfortable and happy.
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@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
24 Jul 09
Hi bdugas, Thank you for your comment. There are a lot of people like your friend and it had to be very difficult for to to have to start over. It is good to be able to accept change when it comes. I remember that my parents moved to a new town long after they had retired and were quite happy there. I'll go on a holiday sometimes but feel comfortable where I live now. Blessings.
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@HelScream (2822)
• Philippines
27 Jul 09
I guess I would say i am more comfortable being at my comfort zone to some limits but not all I love changes but not all only changes that would do some good benefits for me in the future, but still would love to be in the same country that I live in and live here till I die but if circumstances call for me to move to another country then I guess I would have to go but would still be back to the place where I find most comfortable with.... this applies to all the things in my life.
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@svk_hereiam (26)
• India
23 Jul 09
I definitely do. Otherwise, I would have switched this job much earlier. They pay less, make me work for long hours and do not talk about promotion. But I am still stuck in this stinging place. Why? Because somehow I feel I am comfortable here. I know the people around me. They know that there's this guy. So that's why I can definitely say that "Yes. I am comfortable in my comfort zone. I don't want to leave it. Not anytime soon."
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
23 Jul 09
Well I love my own comfort zone but if indeed I have to move to a new place, its welcome to me too coz I know that I would once again turn it into my comfort zone. We are all ultimately slaves of habit and by nature, we adapt ourselves to newer circumstances and learn to live there. It cannot be roses all the way but after giving and taking some, we kind of tend to fall into our own pattern.
For about 10yrs I was in my own comfort zone in my in-laws house. We stayed together, they took care of running the house and looking after my child while a worked at office and my husband just gave the money for the family expense. It was a super comfort zone but two years back, I decided to move out to my own place. Now I do everything on my own so the comfort zone is goneā¦BUT I have adjusted myself and also my family into accepting a situation where we all would have some sort of comfort zone while in some areas, it wont ever be the same again.
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
8 Aug 09
I don't hate leaving my comfot zone, provided I've taken the appropriate precautions to make sure that whever new adventures on which I am about to embark, won't put me in harms way. I am not overly spontanious when leaving my comfort zone, but with the correct amount of planning, it doesn't phase me to do so.
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@cher913 (25782)
• Canada
23 Jul 09
i do not. i like to try new experiences and do different things, alas, money is an issue. i would love to hop on a plane right now and head for europe or move to a new city. i tend to get bored easily so i am always looking for something new (to do, to wear, etc).
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@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
23 Jul 09
I really love traveling to different countries. Some have a similar culture to my home country and others have a different culture. If so I find that fascinating. I like hot weather and love spending times in the tropics. I like making new friends very much indeed. I have tried supply teaching but most of all I enjoy having my own class.
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@bing28 (3795)
• Philippines
8 Aug 09
On my younger days, I don't mind leaving my comfort zone maybe if it would mean a promising future. Today however, on our present matured age, I feel I won't be comfortable leaving my comfort zone. I think it's alright what do I have today but should there's a need to for sure I'll be hating leaving my comfort zone.
@shimanaja (493)
• Indonesia
23 Jul 09
I wish..i could stay any longer in my place where i lived now..
But if i should go to another city or country...why not?
It depends on the consideration that we make..
The most important..wherever my husband and my kids go i will go too..
It does not big deal making new friends or finding new interest..as long with someone you love..must go on..
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@tomjoad (551)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
very good question there pose123. yeah, it is in uncomfortable to leave your comfort zone. i've done that before and it really was hard. a few years ago, i had to leave my parents so that i can study in college at another city miles away from home. i only get to go home 2 - 3 times a year. so it was really because it had been very convenient to live at home. i didn't have to prepare my food or wash my own clothes. but the best part of though is that you learn a lot and grow from the experience. unless you leave your comfort zone, you will never really mature. :-) so i guess i could say that although it is hard, i would rather take challenge. life is an adventure after all.
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@4mymak (1793)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 09
it really depends what 'comfort' is to you..
to me right now.. i dont want to change jobs, or move away because - i like the comfort of travelling less than 30 minutes to work, i like the comfort of i can rush off from my office to my children's school if there is any emergency,.. so even if i do get higher (salary) offers - i really have to consider those points first, rather than worry about whether i can make new friends or adapt to the new environment..
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@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
23 Jul 09
I have no problem for moving around. To pursue a better career, I moved several times, finally back to my hometown. And at the age of 50, I received a challenging offer for a new joint venture.
As for residence, I find fun moving from small to big apartments and then a townhouse in the suburbs. Wherever I go, I easily find advantages of the community and feel free to be settled.
Being accommodating and flexible might be good for working and living in a positive way, beneficial for others as well as for ourselves.
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@easyflow90 (147)
• United States
22 Jul 09
Depends on me. I like to leave my comfort zone if Im gonna go and talk to people that I know and they are gonna introduce me to new people. But if I dont really need to be around other people that often then I like to stay in my comfort zone. I mean Im not really intimidated by people I just get frustrated sometimes at the things people do so I will stay in my comfort zone and then go out of it when I need to or when I feel like it. For the past few weeks I have been in my comfort zone but Ill probably leave it to go and be around people again as I was taking a break from people and just doing stuff at home that need to be taken care of.
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