Are you Good in controlling your anger?
By adinukala
@adinukala (67)
India
July 23, 2009 12:18am CST
So many times, we face situations which make us go berserk. But, we somehow manage to rein in our tempers and cool ourselves down. There are also many instances wherein we simply are unable to control our temper? So, have you ever been in situations wherein any other person would have lost his/her cool, but you simply do not get angry?
4 responses
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
welcome to mylot adi hope you like it here like most of us do. i can say that i can control my anger very good, i have four children and i am a single mom so i guess so far so good when it comes to controlling anger. my husband is an abusive man and i gave him a lot of chance to be good to us and since he is not i packed my bag and left him but i tagged my kids along with me. being angry at times wont really solve anything but taking actions for them to see that you mean it and you are truly angry is more powerful. when dealing with my children i speak to them and give thme atleast 3 chances after that they need to get the consequences, like a short hair cut for my daugthers and no tv and games for my son. they know that i am mean when i get angry.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
it was not anything to do with them to be scared on having a short hair. but they are more confident that they look good when they have long hair. i even told them that hair has nothing to do with it and even you have no hair if you can carry yourself like the models out there then you can be bald. so far telling them that is effective for me. its not easy to disipline 4 teens so you need to express them that you are superior. i have a good relationship with my children but sometimes i need to step up and show them that i am the mom or else they will run lose and do what ever they want.
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@adinukala (67)
• India
23 Jul 09
thanks roniroxas for the pleasant welcome.
I understand that being a single parent can sometimes be real stressful. Though I myself do not know anything about parenting, I do understand that no books or anyone can help in telling how exactly to raise children. Its like you learn a new thing through each and every experience which you yourself face.
I admire your resolve and courage to leave your husband and start a life all by yourself.
There is one thing that I would like to ask you though. Is it right to make children become afraid of having short hair? It might stick in their minds even when they become adults? I do not know anything about parenting, so I might be mistaken too.
@adinukala (67)
• India
24 Jul 09
hey, thanks for the response and making me understand the way you raise your children. I am sure that under your guidance, they will definitely grow up to be wonderful human beings. My good wishes to you all..:)
@adinukala (67)
• India
23 Jul 09
Hi abenitez, thanks for the response.
As I mentioned in my reply to the earlier post, there are two methods which I can personally vouch for and which are, infact, vouched by many people across the world.
One, is meditating daily for say 10-15 minutes? as in not sitting in a quiet corner of the house and not thinking about anything. Basically, making your mind completely blank.
Second, is to count till 10, giving a 1-2 seconds gap between each count whenever you become angry.
Both of these formulae are tried and tested by people across the globe.
Hope this helps..:)
@maroseqf (3657)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Hello adinukala! To tell you honestly, I am not that good in controlling my temper especially now that I just stay at home and not working. I guess it is because I am not occupied with different things and I sometimes, get affected by the problems concerning domestic things.
Well, I really am not that patient. I easily get irritated by people and the things they do. I am quite a reactive person so I sometimes start an argument. 
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@adinukala (67)
• India
23 Jul 09
Hi maroseqf, thanks for the response.
Yeah, by not being occupied, it does make one very irritable even for really small things. Coupling that with being a reactive person, would make it a very potent mixture of losing temper quite easily.
Have you ever tried meditating? It works. There are many people who vouch for it. Even I'll vouch for it. Also, there is this method of counting till 10 whenever you get angry. Even this is tried and tested. Hope these methods help you in becoming calmer..:)
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
i think most of the time i am good in controlling my temper...whenever i feel that i am going there what just i do is stop a while, have a deep breath, close my eyes and utter a small prayer...that way i can control my self from bursting to anger...i just keep quiet and turn around...but still there are times that i can't really control it...and i don't like when it happens!
so far, there's no incidence that happens to me that makes me angry...makes me pissed off but not angry...just minor things usually between me and my husband! hehehe but that's very rare!
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@adinukala (67)
• India
24 Jul 09
good for you..:)
Yeah, I agree that there will be instances wherein you might lose your temper even though you didn't want to. This makes us regret it afterwards. This has happened to me too.
Now that I am aware of it, I try to remain as calm as possible when facing similar situations.
