How would you feel when your bf/gf tell you all the time he/she is busy?

@n30wing (4767)
Philippines
July 23, 2009 3:59am CST
Once is ok but twice or thrice maybe I'll think it's only an excuse. Maybe she just want me to understand it simple that she wants to break up. Just for me to adjust that she is not there. Even a text just to say hi or hello would be fine. But doesn't text or even I ask for a date she will tell me she's busy it's just make me feel tired or fed up with it. How about you guys? Have a nice day to all of you!
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5 responses
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
Sorry to hear that. I guess anybody who says busy is not really a good impression at all when it gets to be an everyday term. If you love someone, you would really devote a time. No need to ask something special just to get her attention, but its suppose to be like that. You care for one another. You text or send message to each other when you think that you need more time to work than being around. I guess she is up to something. But don't speculate on it, you need to be clear. What is your plan for each other anyway. Is your relationship growing? or she got used of the same boring routine and not feeling the love anymore? Try to ask her what is wrong and tell her how you feel since you have a time to share with her because she is important to you. And let's see if she said something about it. I just hope she would not just say, I'm only busy. Everything has time. What's the purpose of being together if in a certain circumstance, she can't spend enough on you.
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
I would also think the same way if my boyfriend becomes too busy to spend time with me. I would think that his love is beginning to wane. For me, a person who is in love would always want to be with the person he/she loves. They will always find time to be together and can't hardly wait to see each other because they enjoy each others company so much. I remember those times when my husband used to work nights while I work days. We don't see enough of each other but we always make it a point to at least have our meals together whenever we can. We both look forward to his day off so we can be together.
@sahira (1071)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
If my bf will always makes an excuses such as he is 'busy' every time I ask date and even don't bother to call or text, then for sure he is doing "something" like maybe he's having an affair with another woman!And of course suma total is that maybe he'd wanted to break up.But it's ok for me!at least he showed me the real him before getting married to him.I'll just let him free ever!huh!I hope you will do such thing for she is not only the girl in this world and maybe you can find someone who is far better than her.
@annierose (21583)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
hi n30wing, Well, I can relate with your discussion for today because lately, my boyfriend is acting so strange. He is not spending much time with me.. And that makes me so very depressed. I don't know what is going wrong and as of now, I am in this state of confusion. I think he is changing. I am always the one who send him messages asking him how he is. But now, I feel I am tired of what I am doing. Maybe, it is better to stay quiet and just wait for him to make a move and explain things to me.
@meng23 (145)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
I feel bad because being busy is not an excuse for me to fail to do his obligation. Even one hour or a day for me is enough but if he still fail. Well there's something fishy happening. They say if there's a will there's a way. So why not finding a small way. For me excuses are only for those people who is not interested. So I will really feel sad, bad. I'll be neagtive about him. Goodday!