How much confident are you on stage??
By nehaagra
@nehaagra (848)
Singapore
July 23, 2009 4:42am CST
I as a kid never was, used to forget everything ... Since we did had only a few oppurtinies also at that time. But nowadys there's lots of oppurtinities here for kids to show up their talent. I do hope my kids do not have my genes regarding this...
How were you on stage or when speaking in public with crowd. Confident, fuzzy or you never tried it out??
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19 responses
@voldrox (7191)
• India
23 Jul 09
hi neha
frankly speaking i am not at all good at speaking to the public, i just don't have the confidence to do that, but i have done it and that too not that bad, we only fear more than what actually it is, we just need confidence, other people too will feel more or less the same way when they get on stage... we need to know that and that will make things better..
i have given stage performances playing drums in a band and have enjoyed it, it fears me sometimes but it goes good.. i don't much speak anymore on the stage, rather give performances, not that much either, but now i am more confident at giving them.
yes i agree that now children have a lot of opportunities to show their talents and your kids will do awesome! my wishes for them
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@nehaagra (848)
• Singapore
24 Jul 09
Practice makes a man perfect....
The more and more exposure we get , the more confident we get.. Even i did participated in dance and such activities on stage, but that was very much ok, as from stage, while performing we can't see much of the crowd and their faces.., so its a bit easier..., isin't it??
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@lonelylucie (194)
• China
23 Jul 09
I just have had one chance to speak on stage with so many students and teachers looking at me and my throat got toneless and there was something wrong with my brain and I almost had no idea coz I was too nervous.haha.But this is really a precious experience and I'm thankful for it to teach me many things.
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@lonelylucie (194)
• China
25 Jul 09
Yeah I'v suffered from such thing then. when I was speaking I lost several important sentences coz i was too nervous and there was a embarrassing moment that every one looked straightforward at me . haha
@nehaagra (848)
• Singapore
24 Jul 09
I think you mean seminars sort of thing. Even i remember for my first seminar, i prepared it for about 5 minutes, with power point slides and all. And it did finished wihin 3 minutes. I did forget a lot of stuff in between. After that i took care to prepare 7- 8 minutes for a 5 minute one, as i'm bound to forget something or the else in between...
@asifmumtaz (12)
• India
23 Jul 09
im not that good on stage. When i enter the stage, i loose all the confidence but then i gain it back in a minute or so if i am doing my task nicely.
Actually stage fear is another thing and confidence is another. I am not afraid of stage, but i will need exclusive knowledge about the topic/niche im on stage for. If I have the knowledge about that, I can easily regain the confidence just in a minute.
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@nehaagra (848)
• Singapore
24 Jul 09
What you are talking about is some impromptu speaking, or giving some seminar sort of thing. Yep for that if you know the topic well, you do remain confident. But some are like praticipating in dramas, or stage shows like stuff, where we need to mug up the stuff, and just recite there. I feel i'm too more confident in the former than the latter.
@jules67 (2788)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
Speaking in front of the public was never my cup of tea. I always had this fright t facing a huge crowd. I always feel like vomiting every time I do that. I once watched the movie of Jennifer Lopez, "Maid in Manhattan" wherein her son also had this predicament. What he did was he was playing a paper clip on his hand when he speaks in front of people. I haven't tried it though.
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@trisha27 (3494)
• United States
23 Jul 09
There have been times that I had to go on stage to do many type of performances and also to speak in front of many of people and some of these things I had to do alone. I was always the shy type growing up as I am now older I am not so shy any more. When I was little my mom wanted to put me in many of things and she tried but either id be up on stage crying until someone took me off or I would cry my way out of it and my mother would just give up and wouldn't try any more. Growing up I dreaded getting up in front of people to speak or do anything alone. Just in fear of people maybe laughing at me or talking bad about me. If I were in a group amongst other people or if they weren't very many people in the audience.
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@threnos (216)
• Canada
23 Jul 09
I am pretty awful when it comes to being up on stage or making speeches. I tend to shake. I can remember being in school and having to do a speech. I overheard the people in the class saying that I was continually shaking during it. I'm introverted and not use to having all eyes on me!
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
23 Jul 09
i can dance and host on stage..just dont make me sing! I may have good voice enough to make the crowd stop and listen, but i just dont have the courage to sing. dancing is my thing though. Since gradeschool, i participate in every school programs, showing off somce moves..but when asked to sing..its a no-no for me. I dont know, im just bad at it. Even if i can sing in kareoke session with my friends but really, not on stage.
@nehaagra (848)
• Singapore
27 Jul 09
S9ome are confident for some activities and some are confident with others..... For me too i can dance a bit on stage, but if you say to open my mouth in public, i can't... and don't ask me to sing, i am really bad at this, even during my raging in college , my seniors used to ask me to stop....
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
When I was a kid, I really hate to go in the stage especially if there are so many audiences will watched. I admit that I'm scared to be in front so I don't really participate in school program. It was during in my high school days I started to joined in school program. Its not because I want to be discovered my talent but because I don't have much choice since it's part of my grades. Our teacher will give incentives or additional points in our periodical exam if we participate in school programs. Even I hate to do it I don't have a choice.
So, when I got into college I already have somehow good confidence to participate in school activity and go in the front with so many audiences and since my course was Teacher I really need to have a good confidence to be in front or in the stage. Well, I believe its not how much confidence that you have but its more on on how you believe in yourself and have a strong will to do a certain thing. Now, I don't mind at all to be in the center of the crowed.
@prinzcy (32305)
• Malaysia
23 Jul 09
I was highly nervous and forgot everything if anyone pushed me on stage before. Things change a bit now. I am still a little nervous to speak in front of public, especially a large crowd that I am not familiar with. But I am a teacher so I am forcing myself to be brave. It's help if you don't focus on their face, just look above or past them.
@whizkid08 (715)
• India
24 Jul 09
Well, I've been performing and debating on stage and seems as if I am some veteran now, lol!
I remember when I first went on stage for a debate competition, I was selected from my school and was nervous as never before!! I actually went blank when I saw the crowd mocking me and other participants. That was ridiculous!!
But then, with time the fear shed away, now I can speak without any hesitation whatsoever.
I am also a vocalist in my college band, and we have performed on stage many times.
So, Its easy for me now..
@dex1007 (556)
• Malaysia
24 Jul 09
At first, i'm a little shaky. but in 2 minutes or so, i recover. after that i'm pretty okay. In school i had to quite a lot of presentation, one of my biggest would be a speech i gave about my country in front of the school. Its culture and history. (note: i studied in foreign country almost all my life)
@natalliesiok (6)
• India
23 Jul 09
Ahh... thank you you for reminding the childhood days. When I was a kid, I had stage fear. I was not even talking to my teachers at school.Gradually I started speaking to
friends, started giving stage shows and now I don't know what stage fear means.!!!
Nowadays children have many opportunities to show up their talent. There is a tough competition among todays children. If you look at some kids speaking, you will get amazed. They are very sharper than us!!!
@nehaagra (848)
• Singapore
27 Jul 09
Ohh, i am really amazed , and in fact shocked to see the kids nowadays, so smart and out spoken, they have answers to all questions, and they don't have any fear whatso ever at all...
even i wanna my kids to be atleast somewhat like that, needn't be so extroward, but atlwast they shouldn't have fear to speak out their minds...
@grace118224 (1038)
• China
24 Jul 09
i am a shy girl . When i was a student i dare not go on stage to make speeches ,talk , sing or dance. It doesn't become better for today . Therefore i lost many job opportunity . If i am confident enough i will be rewarded better . i know this ability is quite important and i've decided not let this happen to my little boy . i will train him to be a confidence guy in the near future.
@Azaze1 (10)
• United States
24 Jul 09
I have been performing in front of people off and on for 14+ years. I'd say that at this point I am fairly confident in my ability to perform for a large crowd. But, I think that it really depends on your personality. I enjoy the thrill that it gives me to get up on stage.
@nehaagra (848)
• Singapore
27 Jul 09
Hmm, but even if you get exposure , slowly your fear will go away... And that's what nowadays school too put emphasis on. Everyone is not a born artist, some people do need a bit of polishing and exposure.
Like as we didn't get , so still fear stage, but i'm sure if i had got a chance, and encouragent it would have been a lot better..
@kissie34 (2294)
• Philippines
24 Jul 09
When I was a kid, I really hate to go in the stage especially if there are so many audiences will watched. I admit that I'm scared to be in front so I don't really participate in school program. It was during in my high school days I started to joined in school program. Its not because I want to be discovered my talent but because I don't have much choice since it's part of my grades. Our teacher will give incentives or additional points in our periodical exam if we participate in school programs. Even I hate to do it I don't have a choice.
So, when I got into college I already have somehow good confidence to participate in school activity and go in the front with so many audiences and since my course was Teacher I really need to have a good confidence to be in front or in the stage. Well, I believe its not how much confidence that you have but its more on on how you believe in yourself and have a strong will to do a certain thing. Now, I don't mind at all to be in the center of the crowd.
@nehaagra (848)
• Singapore
24 Jul 09
For confidence to build up, we need to give ourselves some time, and lots of exposure. And one thing, we should n't feel shy, if you did something wrong, or people laugh initially, these are just initial steps, and slowly only we can get rid of our shyness.
Eevn i 'm trying to work on it, till now..
@schentil (98)
• India
23 Jul 09
I have not ever been on stage before, but I regret about that I have missed the opportunities I had. I had participated on any program that requires stage, I would have been more bold and courage in expressing my views in front of people. However, I managed to develop the skill somewhat later on. Yet, I think it would have been a thrilling experience. It is our duty to help our children to participate in such programs during school times.
@heartbeats1010 (206)
• India
23 Jul 09
when i was a small kid i had this problem caled" stage fear".
Due to the constant effort of my teachers and advises of my parents, i appeared in the stage for several programmes and gradually i have reduced it and now i am confident to handle the cround irrespetice of the stage.
Happy mylotting
@nehaagra (848)
• Singapore
27 Jul 09
Hey that's great. If any one do get right guidance and exposure, slowly the stage fear goes off, and this can help us throughout our lifes...
You were lucky to have so nice parents and teachers who helped you out of the stage fear, hope i could do the same for my children...
@TheDarwinFish18 (16)
• Canada
23 Jul 09
When I was much younger, (as in 7 or 8) I did a lot of school plays, theatre productions, was in the band, and did the yearly talent show at school. However, every single time, right before getting up on stage I would be so nervous; shaking, sweating, I could barely speak my voice would be so quiet. One time, I was supposed to sing onstage with one of my best friends, but my fear got the better of me and I ended up abandoning her on the night of our performance. It cost me our friendship. We were in the 6th grade.
Now, however, I find it's much easier for me to be very outspoken in public. I enjoy performing more than ever, and I even enjoy making speeches! I am not sure if my increase in confidence is from getting older, or what, but I appreciate the change, and will continue to push myself to do everything I think is impossible.