How To Cope With Family?

United States
July 23, 2009 1:01pm CST
I just would like to share this with mylotters. I had an experience yesterday that kind of put me in a space that I really didn't enjoy. Why is that it seems that your family hates on you more than a foe? Why is that the people that are supposed to be unconditionally in your corner are your biggest haters? Why is that you get more negativity from you family than anyone else in your circle? I thought family to be a support system, love, that shoulder to lean. My family is far from that, but of course if I was always rocking the latest designer outfits (forget paying bills), flossing the most expensive ride (that I can't afford)...their bougie butt oxes(intentional spelling) would be all up in my buttocks. Unfortunately, I do not live my live to please them and I refuse to. The place that they put me into, I spent an hr on facebook ranting and raving about there dumb butt oxes(intentional too) , and no I do not feel bad about it at all. It just peeves me that somebody always has something to say about what is going on in my life. I'm living this life, so can I live it my way? I've been an outcast to them all my life and just accepted it, the game has changed because if I had a sandbox I'd drown them simple butt oxes ppl in it. A little harsh huh? So damn what! Okay, I have wooo saaa'd. Who has family like that? How do you cope? Do you communicate with them? How do they treat you? A little knowledge that I would like to share: Maya Angelou has a poem called "Haters" and I swear she hit home with it. Check it out. Tootles
1 response
lennethvalkyr
@lennethvalkyr (8)
• Canada
23 Jul 09
I guess it depends on how you are treated as an individual moreso than just another member of a family. If you are living with your family they don't necessarily have to 'like' or 'love' you even, as is the unfortunate truth in some cases. Sometimes parents can come off as disliking or hating you because of how they act, but that isn't always the case. It's just how some people are. I know my family is pretty messed up, hell I am even messed up because of the years I've lived with them. I was so happy to have finally get out from that sort of environment and decided I really didn't want much else to do with them. I don't call them or anything, barely even a visit once a month. Well that's because I was treated... my family is very old fashioned so the women have to stay at home and clean and other things while men go out to play. Hell I couldnt even cross a highway bridge because of them being chicken-shat to let me go to the art store. So yes, I can understand your situation. Perhaps not entirely but ya I agree with you on some points.