My mother was caught abusing her mother

I agree with you. I have never had a good relationship with my mother. In truth my grandmother has always been my mother. And in the family between all my aunts and uncles I am actually considered the 9th child. I have always treated my grandma as my mom. On mother's day she is the one I see and spend time with. When something is troubling me she is the one I see. Grandma raised me until i was 6. After that my life turned into a living hell until I moved out when I was 16. I know what Debbie is capable of. Unspeakable things that she has done. I have made sure she can not take care of anyone. I have contacted the Adult protective services and they are perusing her. And I pray each day that I can help my grandma feel loved and make the rest of her life memorable and happy.

That must have been hard, but I think you did the right thing. I hope everything works out with no more big problems for you.

For the longest time I tried to tell my grandmother what kind of person my mother was. Unfortunately, my grandmother can see no evil in anyone. Debbie stole so much from grandma. Not just the material things, but in a sense her heart and soul. How can you ever trust anyone when your own child tries to kill you. I had enough trouble learning to trust my husband because of what Debbie did to me. grandma has 8 kids that want nothing to do with her. They are too busy with their lives. When I look in her eyes I can see her sadness and disappointment. Not that they are that way, but that she feels like she did something to deserve it. And god as my witness she deserves a medal. She raised all 8 by herself with a drunk for a husband. She worked 3 jobs and kept them all out of foster care. How do I make her feel that she is worth all the love she deserves? Because she is so depressed after all this.